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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
This is purely a hypothetical, not something that we are actually going through, but what would you do if you were publicly outed to friends and family?
Would you admit that it was true and say that you enjoy the lifestyle?
Or would you say that someone had hacked a cloud account of pictures you intended to remain private and someone has maliciously created this account to hurt you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it was a so called friend who outed me, then they would no longer be a friend.
How dare anyone decide they have the right to tell my friends or family what I do in my personal time.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Them: So and so said you are swingers and showed me some pictures, is it true?
Us: What the hell business is it of yours?
End of discussion.
The person who 'outed' us would be an ex friend and never spoken to again also. |
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"Them: So and so said you are swingers and showed me some pictures, is it true?
Us: What the hell business is it of yours?
End of discussion.
The person who 'outed' us would be an ex friend and never spoken to again also."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Friends and family i bother with know what i'm doing anyway so they wouldn't care. Distant ones don't know and i'd just ignore it, wouldn't admit or deny it, they aren't that close so what's it to do with them? My close f&f would ignore it too and pretend they don't know what the gossip is about, that's why they're close. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ex wife outed me to my kids. They weren't the least bit bothered and neither was I.
They fully understand why I enjoy this lifestyle (because I'm a total car crash when it comes to relationships!) and respect it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Them: So and so said you are swingers and showed me some pictures, is it true?
Us: What the hell business is it of yours?
End of discussion.
The person who 'outed' us would be an ex friend and never spoken to again also."
Exactly this |
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I'm not that fussed to be honest.I don't broadcast my activities but I'm not particularly secretive either.I do really enjoy the lifestyle and intend to carry on.I'm well aware that I'm older than most on this site and I'm now in a position where I can't easily be hurt. |
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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"What would you do OP?"
Not sure, thats why i asked! I have told some close friends, but i come from a family where every single member of the family were adopted, not a single one of us have ever had sex, honest  . I would like to think i would have the balls to stand up and admit it, but in the moment i might not. 
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"This is purely a hypothetical, not something that we are actually going through, but what would you do if you were publicly outed to friends and family?
Would you admit that it was true and say that you enjoy the lifestyle?
Or would you say that someone had hacked a cloud account of pictures you intended to remain private and someone has maliciously created this account to hurt you?"
I was outed as bi by my brother'-in-law' (we're not married but u get the idea) at their family Xmas bash a few yeas back.
Fuck.
He started making comments at the dinner table. My mother'-in-law' choked on her food, my father'-in-law' blindly asked, "What do you mean, he dances at both ends of the ballroom?" I wanted to curl up and die... and my missus?
She told her brother to STFU, that he didn't know what he was talking about and it was nowt to do with him.
Hats off. |
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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"I'm a single guy I'd say it was true, i doubt it would be that big a problem."
If it was just me, i wouldn't mind telling people. But because im married it wouldn't just be outing myself, i would also be outing my wife, or at least confirming someone else outing us, which makes it more complicated. I dont care if people think poorly of me, but i dont like people to think poorly of my wife. |
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"This is purely a hypothetical, not something that we are actually going through, but what would you do if you were publicly outed to friends and family?
Would you admit that it was true and say that you enjoy the lifestyle?
Or would you say that someone had hacked a cloud account of pictures you intended to remain private and someone has maliciously created this account to hurt you?"
This actually happened to us, had the potential to be a massive problem. We had reporters on the door step fishing for details and friends telling us they had heard the gossip. We dealt with it both ways, certain friends who we didn't want to be dishonest with we told the truth others we just denied it. This was several months ago and it seems to have all gone quiet now, so fingers crossed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a single guy I'd say it was true, i doubt it would be that big a problem.
If it was just me, i wouldn't mind telling people. But because im married it wouldn't just be outing myself, i would also be outing my wife, or at least confirming someone else outing us, which makes it more complicated. I dont care if people think poorly of me, but i dont like people to think poorly of my wife. "
I agree your scenario is a lot more difficult, I wouldn't want anyone thinking poorly of my wife either, if i had one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is purely a hypothetical, not something that we are actually going through, but what would you do if you were publicly outed to friends and family?
Would you admit that it was true and say that you enjoy the lifestyle?
Or would you say that someone had hacked a cloud account of pictures you intended to remain private and someone has maliciously created this account to hurt you?"
I'd probably feel quite bare and exposed but admit it. I'm a terrible liar |
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
Cheshire |
I've been outed. Very publicly. Turns out, no one was really bothered and the person that outed me looked like an obsessive unpleasant person. Bit of a backfire really. It made me feel freer. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"I've been outed. Very publicly. Turns out, no one was really bothered and the person that outed me looked like an obsessive unpleasant person. Bit of a backfire really. It made me feel freer. "
Can imagine it was a horrible experience, but perhaps with an unintended bright side for you. |
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