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By *hedireCouple
over a year ago
wigan |
Real people have real lives which tend to get in the way of playing out. We frequently find when we are available and ready no one else is or we end up chasing a time waster. If you look at our verifications you'll see it comes in fits and bursts. |
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We had our first direct play meet from here on the weekend - all other meets have been club based or from people we have met at the clubs.
Considering we were offering to accommodate at our hotel and looking for a single bloke potentially it was bloody hard work!!!
Have to say though it worked out brilliantly and we are very glad we stuck with it!
G&D xx |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Is anyone out there actually wanting to meet up? Lots of people seem to just want to send endless messages that come to nothing. Getting fed up."
No, I never meet, I'm just here gathering wank fodder. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Being fed up after three weeks doesn't bode well.
If you were a single guy there'd be dozens of responses saying 'patience' and 'did you expect to be knee deep in clunge in a month?'.
All good things come to those who wait.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same here this site and swinging in general has changed so much since was last here, it seems that it s inundated and overwhelmed with people that think..... wanna fuck now! Means I'm grabbing my coat see you in 10
Too many rude peeps that spoil it for the genuines |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is anyone out there actually wanting to meet up? Lots of people seem to just want to send endless messages that come to nothing. Getting fed up."
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We prefer to read first messages when we’re both together, which due to conflicting work schedules means it could be a couple of weeks before we respond. Which quite often means that the people that messaged us in the first place seem to get bored of the wait and hardly ever respond to us after that lol |
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I reckon theres only a tiny percentage on here getting meets. Can be a bit depressing trying for years, realising that you are probably finished in life getting any fun, and theres sod all you can do about it. |
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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago
Midlands |
"I reckon theres only a tiny percentage on here getting meets. Can be a bit depressing trying for years, realising that you are probably finished in life getting any fun, and theres sod all you can do about it. "
Pay for it? No shame in that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You’ve only been on the site for three weeks OP. You’ll need a bit more patience than that if you’re going to enjoy your time on Fab.
Plenty of people meet but it takes time to build up connections. |
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By *ev_1Couple
over a year ago
Bickliegh |
Always willing to meet but some people need to get of there high horses and come back to reality always looking for super models and fit athletic studs the real people are normal down to earth people bag of worms opened good luck everybody x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have met some lovely people and had some very different experiences. Hard work ploughing through fab to find the genuine ones. Times too precious. Should be a quick exchange of messages to work out if you click, swap face pics then arrange a social. If all works out let the fun begin  |
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"I have met some lovely people and had some very different experiences. Hard work ploughing through fab to find the genuine ones. Times too precious. Should be a quick exchange of messages to work out if you click, swap face pics then arrange a social. If all works out let the fun begin "
Some of our best meets are when this happens. The long drawn out messages seem to lead to disappointment! |
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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago
Walking down the only road I've ever known! |
"I have met some lovely people and had some very different experiences. Hard work ploughing through fab to find the genuine ones. Times too precious. Should be a quick exchange of messages to work out if you click, swap face pics then arrange a social. If all works out let the fun begin
Some of our best meets are when this happens. The long drawn out messages seem to lead to disappointment! "
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For some the "endless messages" are a way of gauging how well they would get on in person.
If we don't click by message we probably wouldn't commit one of the few nights we get off to meeting.
Just food for thought that not everyone can be available at the drop of a hat |
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"For some the "endless messages" are a way of gauging how well they would get on in person.
If we don't click by message we probably wouldn't commit one of the few nights we get off to meeting.
Just food for thought that not everyone can be available at the drop of a hat"
 we find it worth the time and effort x |
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"I have met some lovely people and had some very different experiences. Hard work ploughing through fab to find the genuine ones. Times too precious. Should be a quick exchange of messages to work out if you click, swap face pics then arrange a social. If all works out let the fun begin
Some of our best meets are when this happens. The long drawn out messages seem to lead to disappointment!
Am I real "
We know you are. We’ve actually met you! 
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai / Nottingham |
"For some the "endless messages" are a way of gauging how well they would get on in person.
If we don't click by message we probably wouldn't commit one of the few nights we get off to meeting.
Just food for thought that not everyone can be available at the drop of a hat"
For us, if we get into endless messaging and can’t seem to arrange a meet it usually means it’s not to be.
We find that when there’s instant chemistry and a connection both couples are keen to put a date in the diary, it might be several weeks or months away but there’s a sense of urgency to not let it drift away.
Gut instincts are usually accurate, we tend to make a decision based on a few pictures and the first couple of messages, the rest is just logistics as we travel a lot and can often be out the UK.
We have a couple of times met people after very long message exchanges that doesn’t turn out good. In one case the personalities were very different offline to online, but that’s only happened once in 30 or so meets. The other time the passion had almost fizzled out before meeting but we met for a social anyway as we’d gotten to know them so well! |
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"For some the "endless messages" are a way of gauging how well they would get on in person.
If we don't click by message we probably wouldn't commit one of the few nights we get off to meeting.
Just food for thought that not everyone can be available at the drop of a hat"
That’s exactly how I approach it. I don’t have a lot of free time so exchanging messages lets me get a feel for what they’re like, whether we get on, if they only message me when they’re horny, whether they can string more than a few words together - if I get a bad feeling from that, I won’t even bother with a social never mind a meet. It’s a kind of winnowing process. |
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"For some the "endless messages" are a way of gauging how well they would get on in person.
If we don't click by message we probably wouldn't commit one of the few nights we get off to meeting.
Just food for thought that not everyone can be available at the drop of a hat
That’s exactly how I approach it. I don’t have a lot of free time so exchanging messages lets me get a feel for what they’re like, whether we get on, if they only message me when they’re horny, whether they can string more than a few words together - if I get a bad feeling from that, I won’t even bother with a social never mind a meet. It’s a kind of winnowing process."
There's a middle ground though, right? It's always possible to have too much chat eventually, unless that's literally all you both agree you want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is anyone out there actually wanting to meet up? Lots of people seem to just want to send endless messages that come to nothing. Getting fed up."
I do for sure. I get the need for messages, but there has to be an endgame somewhere, surely? I'm really not here just for penpals. |
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"For some the "endless messages" are a way of gauging how well they would get on in person.
If we don't click by message we probably wouldn't commit one of the few nights we get off to meeting.
Just food for thought that not everyone can be available at the drop of a hat
That’s exactly how I approach it. I don’t have a lot of free time so exchanging messages lets me get a feel for what they’re like, whether we get on, if they only message me when they’re horny, whether they can string more than a few words together - if I get a bad feeling from that, I won’t even bother with a social never mind a meet. It’s a kind of winnowing process.
There's a middle ground though, right? It's always possible to have too much chat eventually, unless that's literally all you both agree you want."
If I’m getting on so well with someone that we’re chatting every day, I intend to meet them. Sometimes, due to lives being busy, it takes a while to coordinate our diaries. If someone gets bored waiting then I’m not stopping them going elsewhere, but I’ve never gone off someone because we get on too well. |
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"If I’m getting on so well with someone that we’re chatting every day, I intend to meet them. Sometimes, due to lives being busy, it takes a while to coordinate our diaries. If someone gets bored waiting then I’m not stopping them going elsewhere, but I’ve never gone off someone because we get on too well."
Whilst there are obviously contributing issues here, I spent wayyy too long chatting to the woman in a couple and in such a way that it was an obvious foregone conclusion that we'd play when they finally came round. When they did, he had the charm and personality of a mouldy teabag and we had to ask them to leave. God it was so so so bad. So we try to say "hey, this all sounds good, we know your favourite flavour of crisps, so lets meet soon before this fades away to nothing" or such... |
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Theres a definite middle ground and generally speaking we would know within a day or two if we want to meet them but actually arranging a meet when all you can do is every other fortnight some ability to chat over text is required. |
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"Is anyone out there actually wanting to meet up? Lots of people seem to just want to send endless messages that come to nothing. Getting fed up."
We go to the club to play with others and use Fab for light entertainment |
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"Is anyone out there actually wanting to meet up? Lots of people seem to just want to send endless messages that come to nothing. Getting fed up."
OP you have only been on the site 3 weeks. That isn't enough time for my interpretation of endless messages that come to nothing.
I also think that's better than a few messages arrange a meet and they don't show up.
To be honest finding meets on here isn't easy. When meeting with hubby we generally do clubs.
Be patient and you will find the right one. |
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"Is anyone out there actually wanting to meet up? Lots of people seem to just want to send endless messages that come to nothing. Getting fed up.
OP you have only been on the site 3 weeks. That isn't enough time for my interpretation of endless messages that come to nothing.
I also think that's better than a few messages arrange a meet and they don't show up.
To be honest finding meets on here isn't easy. When meeting with hubby we generally do clubs.
Be patient and you will find the right one."
also possible you will never meet the right one, so be prepared for that. |
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