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over a year ago
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Probbaly best to open with "I've been cheating on you the last 8 months" as in order to be a successful swinging couple honesty is very important it requires a lot of trust |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Probbaly best to open with "I've been cheating on you the last 8 months" as in order to be a successful swinging couple honesty is very important it requires a lot of trust"
Well I'd rather be able to do this with her |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probbaly best to open with "I've been cheating on you the last 8 months" as in order to be a successful swinging couple honesty is very important it requires a lot of trust
Well I'd rather be able to do this with her "
Well yeah so you're gonna have to tell her you're already doing it.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Probbaly best to open with "I've been cheating on you the last 8 months" as in order to be a successful swinging couple honesty is very important it requires a lot of trust
Well I'd rather be able to do this with her
Well yeah so you're gonna have to tell her you're already doing it.
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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago
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"Probbaly best to open with "I've been cheating on you the last 8 months" as in order to be a successful swinging couple honesty is very important it requires a lot of trust
Well I'd rather be able to do this with her "
Yeh that should fo it
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well?
Send her a link to your profile, she'll be so moist  "
Haha or not lol |
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"Probbaly best to open with "I've been cheating on you the last 8 months" as in order to be a successful swinging couple honesty is very important it requires a lot of trust
Well I'd rather be able to do this with her
Well yeah so you're gonna have to tell her you're already doing it.
Really? "
Wait, you DON’T intend telling her? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probbaly best to open with "I've been cheating on you the last 8 months" as in order to be a successful swinging couple honesty is very important it requires a lot of trust
Well I'd rather be able to do this with her
Well yeah so you're gonna have to tell her you're already doing it.
Really? "
Well yeah youre already in the local swinging scene its 100% gonna come up "oh your with so and so i heard he was very good, i think he met my friend x"
Aint no way youre involving her without her finding out. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Probbaly best to open with "I've been cheating on you the last 8 months" as in order to be a successful swinging couple honesty is very important it requires a lot of trust
Well I'd rather be able to do this with her
Well yeah so you're gonna have to tell her you're already doing it.
Really?
Well yeah youre already in the local swinging scene its 100% gonna come up "oh your with so and so i heard he was very good, i think he met my friend x"
Aint no way youre involving her without her finding out."
Surely get away with it by that point |
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well? "
Delete your profile and when she's in the right mood ask her to write down five fantasies and you do the same.
Hopefully there's something to go on even if it's something like having sex in public.
A lot of women have the same dirty desires but they're not as blunt and need it teasing out of them.
Have fun but don't let her find out you're on here or your life won't be worth living  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probbaly best to open with "I've been cheating on you the last 8 months" as in order to be a successful swinging couple honesty is very important it requires a lot of trust
Well I'd rather be able to do this with her
Well yeah so you're gonna have to tell her you're already doing it.
Really?
Well yeah youre already in the local swinging scene its 100% gonna come up "oh your with so and so i heard he was very good, i think he met my friend x"
Aint no way youre involving her without her finding out.
Surely get away with it by that point "
Nah people react 100 times worse when they find out thier partner is lying through a 3rd party.
As its so much more humiliating to have an audience |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well?
Delete your profile and when she's in the right mood ask her to write down five fantasies and you do the same.
Hopefully there's something to go on even if it's something like having sex in public.
A lot of women have the same dirty desires but they're not as blunt and need it teasing out of them.
Have fun but don't let her find out you're on here or your life won't be worth living "
So carry on without her lol |
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"Probbaly best to open with "I've been cheating on you the last 8 months" as in order to be a successful swinging couple honesty is very important it requires a lot of trust
Well I'd rather be able to do this with her
Well yeah so you're gonna have to tell her you're already doing it.
Really?
Well yeah youre already in the local swinging scene its 100% gonna come up "oh your with so and so i heard he was very good, i think he met my friend x"
Aint no way youre involving her without her finding out.
Surely get away with it by that point "
How long have you been with her |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Probbaly best to open with "I've been cheating on you the last 8 months" as in order to be a successful swinging couple honesty is very important it requires a lot of trust
Well I'd rather be able to do this with her
Well yeah so you're gonna have to tell her you're already doing it.
Really?
Well yeah youre already in the local swinging scene its 100% gonna come up "oh your with so and so i heard he was very good, i think he met my friend x"
Aint no way youre involving her without her finding out.
Surely get away with it by that point
Nah people react 100 times worse when they find out thier partner is lying through a 3rd party.
As its so much more humiliating to have an audience "
I don't go clubs or anything so I'd be fine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well? "
Why do you want her to swing? What scenario do you have in mind? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well?
Why do you want her to swing? What scenario do you have in mind? "
Partner swapping 3somes watching her with some else |
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well?
Why do you want her to swing? What scenario do you have in mind?
Partner swapping 3somes watching her with some else "
Basically, I would suggest asking her if she's interested in that sort of thing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well?
Why do you want her to swing? What scenario do you have in mind?
Partner swapping 3somes watching her with some else
Basically, I would suggest asking her if she's interested in that sort of thing. "
Best to ask after few drinks then lol |
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well?
Why do you want her to swing? What scenario do you have in mind?
Partner swapping 3somes watching her with some else
Basically, I would suggest asking her if she's interested in that sort of thing.
Best to ask after few drinks then lol "
If it's important to you I suggest you need to find out if you are with someone who is interested. If not, you can both go your separate ways. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well?
Why do you want her to swing? What scenario do you have in mind?
Partner swapping 3somes watching her with some else
Basically, I would suggest asking her if she's interested in that sort of thing.
Best to ask after few drinks then lol
If it's important to you I suggest you need to find out if you are with someone who is interested. If not, you can both go your separate ways. "
Wouldn't leave her over it |
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well?
Why do you want her to swing? What scenario do you have in mind?
Partner swapping 3somes watching her with some else
Basically, I would suggest asking her if she's interested in that sort of thing.
Best to ask after few drinks then lol
If it's important to you I suggest you need to find out if you are with someone who is interested. If not, you can both go your separate ways.
Wouldn't leave her over it"
So what's your plan if she's not into it? Carry on fucking randoms behind her back? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probbaly best to open with "I've been cheating on you the last 8 months" as in order to be a successful swinging couple honesty is very important it requires a lot of trust
Well I'd rather be able to do this with her
Well yeah so you're gonna have to tell her you're already doing it.
Really?
Well yeah youre already in the local swinging scene its 100% gonna come up "oh your with so and so i heard he was very good, i think he met my friend x"
Aint no way youre involving her without her finding out.
Surely get away with it by that point
Nah people react 100 times worse when they find out thier partner is lying through a 3rd party.
As its so much more humiliating to have an audience "
What he said  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well?
Why do you want her to swing? What scenario do you have in mind?
Partner swapping 3somes
watching her with some else
Basically, I would suggest asking her if she's interested in that sort of thing.
Best to ask after few drinks then lol
If it's important to you I suggest you need to find out if you are with someone who is interested. If not, you can both go your separate ways.
Wouldn't leave her over it"
You don't need too, just carry on beging the arse hole you already are by cheating on her. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"These threads never end well.
"I'm cheating on my partner and want advice on how to manipulate her into swinging" is never a good look. "
Fair comment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"These threads never end well.
"I'm cheating on my partner and want advice on how to manipulate her into swinging" is never a good look.
Fair comment "
Google 'mojo upgrade'. Worth a try. If she doesn't want to then respect her. |
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well? "
Mr was on here himself in secret before he told me and we made a couples account however he 100% never met anyone. I do know this for def. If you have met people off this site, you're a cheater, not a swinger and that's the way she'll see it. Best thing to do is be honest, you're denying yourself your own needs and denying her to be with someone that only wants her (if swinging isint her thing). Life's too short...front it out and what will be will be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love these kind of post. Come on ask how to get your wife/girlfriend into swinging... But have a profile that’s had some kind of fun!
Just tell her you’re a cheater and with some luck she will be done with you! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Probbaly best to open with "I've been cheating on you the last 8 months" as in order to be a successful swinging couple honesty is very important it requires a lot of trust
Well I'd rather be able to do this with her
Well yeah so you're gonna have to tell her you're already doing it.
Really? "
Yes, really. Try talking to her and being honest OP. She may or may not want to swing, if not you will have to decide whether you want her or to continue on your own with her knowledge. Hosesty is everything in a swingers relationship. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Probbaly best to open with "I've been cheating on you the last 8 months" as in order to be a successful swinging couple honesty is very important it requires a lot of trust
Well I'd rather be able to do this with her
Well yeah so you're gonna have to tell her you're already doing it.
Really?
Well yeah youre already in the local swinging scene its 100% gonna come up "oh your with so and so i heard he was very good, i think he met my friend x"
Aint no way youre involving her without her finding out.
Surely get away with it by that point
Nah people react 100 times worse when they find out thier partner is lying through a 3rd party.
As its so much more humiliating to have an audience
I don't go clubs or anything so I'd be fine"
Makes no difference. People talk. |
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well?
Why do you want her to swing? What scenario do you have in mind?
Partner swapping 3somes watching her with some else
Basically, I would suggest asking her if she's interested in that sort of thing.
Best to ask after few drinks then lol "
 No. This is not a conversation to have d*unk. |
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"I love these kind of post. Come on ask how to get your wife/girlfriend into swinging... But have a profile that’s had some kind of fun!
Just tell her you’re a cheater and with some luck she will be done with you! "
They often remember they have a girfriend when they realise how much more fun they can have with a female in tow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If she does agree and gets into it with you, are you planning to only ever swing with her, or continue to do so on your own as well if she isn't into the same things? |
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By *lk GuyMan
over a year ago
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I just acted like I had a crazy dream about us swinging and took her reaction from that..
Swinging is meant be honest and open so
Don’t mention your on here
And make her feel if you do anything it’s the first time doing it together
Makes em feel special and doing something no one else have done for you .. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"If she does agree and gets into it with you, are you planning to only ever swing with her, or continue to do so on your own as well if she isn't into the same things?"
Perhaps they could have a couples account and both have singles accounts as well so she can also play solo if she wants. Maybe suggest that to her OP. |
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The fact that your here alone without your gf's knowledge is 1 thing.
Let's list the REST of the problem...
Your camming... At home (unless you're using you're neighbours bath)!!! Sure way of getting caught up in the moment and she catches you!!
Does your gf actually know you're bi???
And this isn't even you're FIRST single account since your profile says you thought you'd try this again.
Seriously, you need to think carefully about what you want cos if you bring this up to your gf and she says no your gonna be found out sooner rather than later.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The fact that your here alone without your gf's knowledge is 1 thing.
Let's list the REST of the problem...
Your camming... At home (unless you're using you're neighbours bath)!!! Sure way of getting caught up in the moment and she catches you!!
Does your gf actually know you're bi???
And this isn't even you're FIRST single account since your profile says you thought you'd try this again.
Seriously, you need to think carefully about what you want cos if you bring this up to your gf and she says no your gonna be found out sooner rather than later.
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This ^********
Think the time has passed to see if “you can get “ your gf into this ..... |
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Please leave the website, you are going to hurt someone (perhaps more so when she finds out you’ve been sleeping with other guys, if she doesn’t know you are bi) , and this scene is all about honesty. You are making yourself look stupid and making a mockery of the scene. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probbaly best to open with "I've been cheating on you the last 8 months" as in order to be a successful swinging couple honesty is very important it requires a lot of trust"
Brilliant! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well? "
Before you ask her about this please be honest and tell her that you have been regularly cheating on her and that you are bisexual ... then ask her if she would like a threesome and start swinging!
Honest and trust should be everything in a relationship and you have broken both so not sure how swinging together will help you or her tbf |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do the old "let's spice things up routine" and let her contribute some ideas.
Was thinking that "
The subliminal message being "I am bored with you in bed". Never a good approach.
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"Do the old "let's spice things up routine" and let her contribute some ideas.
Was thinking that
The subliminal message being "I am bored with you in bed". Never a good approach.
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Not if you get her involved.
It not what you say it how you say it. |
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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well? "
Sit her down and say. "Hey babe how would you like banging by a well hung swinger?" Best keep it simple like that. |
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well? "
Pick up a std, pass it onto her then when she questions you about it you've the perfect chance to tell her all about it. There may be one or two downfalls to that plan though... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well?
Pick up a std, pass it onto her then when she questions you about it you've the perfect chance to tell her all about it. There may be one or two downfalls to that plan though..."
One of the std's could rot your cock  |
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well?
Pick up a std, pass it onto her then when she questions you about it you've the perfect chance to tell her all about it. There may be one or two downfalls to that plan though...
One of the std's could rot your cock "
I did warn him there were drawbacks! |
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"Go on holiday to Gran Canaria...
There's loads of clubs/swingers bars
Shall we go in for a nosey?
That'll either make or break it at that moment"
Or if you can't afford the flights just go to townhouse |
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"Stop cheating and ask her"
Hate that word cheating! Who are we to judge! I don’t think this site is the place to judge folks!
Just tell her you’ve had a idea and show her my website and my parties ha - classy! Tell her you’d love to take her! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Stop cheating and ask her
Hate that word cheating! Who are we to judge! I don’t think this site is the place to judge folks!
Just tell her you’ve had a idea and show her my website and my parties ha - classy! Tell her you’d love to take her! "
Cheating is playing without a partners knowledge and consent. It's a useful word. Some of us on here don't wish to ever meet them. I certainly don't want to be on the receiving end of an angry partner when he or she finds out or to be part of a problem that breaks up a family. Just because we are on a swingers site it doesn't mean we can't judge for ourselves or have opinions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well?
Why do you want her to swing? What scenario do you have in mind?
Partner swapping 3somes watching her with some else
Basically, I would suggest asking her if she's interested in that sort of thing.
Best to ask after few drinks then lol
If it's important to you I suggest you need to find out if you are with someone who is interested. If not, you can both go your separate ways.
Wouldn't leave her over it
So what's your plan if she's not into it? Carry on fucking randoms behind her back? "
This is such a great post....makes one know who it avoid totally on here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just to clear something up, all the meets I've had come from before I got with her, all over 12months ago just to be clear, I've been tempted a few times but I haven't as I've got a girlfriend |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Just to clear something up, all the meets I've had come from before I got with her, all over 12months ago just to be clear, I've been tempted a few times but I haven't as I've got a girlfriend "
So your last meet was with a man on Jan 10th of this year. Not exactly over a year ago lol. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just to clear something up, all the meets I've had come from before I got with her, all over 12months ago just to be clear, I've been tempted a few times but I haven't as I've got a girlfriend
So your last meet was with a man on Jan 10th of this year. Not exactly over a year ago lol. "
No I met him years ago he's came back on the site and verified me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The rest are all 2018 veris. Did they all come back on the site last year and verify you then? "
No I was on this site in the past when I've came back and started talking again they have verified me |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"The rest are all 2018 veris. Did they all come back on the site last year and verify you then?
No I was on this site in the past when I've came back and started talking again they have verified me"
So any solution to the origin post about your girlfriend? Have you spoken to her |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The rest are all 2018 veris. Did they all come back on the site last year and verify you then?
No I was on this site in the past when I've came back and started talking again they have verified me
So any solution to the origin post about your girlfriend? Have you spoken to her"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stop cheating and ask her
Hate that word cheating! Who are we to judge! I don’t think this site is the place to judge folks!
Just tell her you’ve had a idea and show her my website and my parties ha - classy! Tell her you’d love to take her!
Cheating is playing without a partners knowledge and consent. It's a useful word. Some of us on here don't wish to ever meet them. I certainly don't want to be on the receiving end of an angry partner when he or she finds out or to be part of a problem that breaks up a family. Just because we are on a swingers site it doesn't mean we can't judge for ourselves or have opinions. "
I agree. Lowest of the low. |
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"The rest are all 2018 veris. Did they all come back on the site last year and verify you then?
No I was on this site in the past when I've came back and started talking again they have verified me
So any solution to the origin post about your girlfriend? Have you spoken to her
Nope "
You're not the only man on here without his partners knowledge by a long chalk. You're not the only man who finds it difficult to talk to his partner about the things he really wants from sex.
You've got a choice between continuing as you are or talking to her, both come with risks but do you want to live the rest of your life as you are now?
Choose a time when you're both relaxed and talk to her and as importantly, listen to what she says. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"The rest are all 2018 veris. Did they all come back on the site last year and verify you then?
No I was on this site in the past when I've came back and started talking again they have verified me
So any solution to the origin post about your girlfriend? Have you spoken to her
Nope "
You really need to do this sooner rather than later. Maybe put some swinging porn on or something and introduce it that way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"See if you can find her single profile on here, then message her to see if she not to busy to meet up for some fun.
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Graham from birkenhead hi
Not that I'm bi but I do know at least 3 of your veris through various other contacts so yes one of the posters is correct people talk
I'm sure if you came on here as a couples profile if your gf agreed to give it a go you'd be questioned and found out about your past exploits
And as for your jan veri being over a year old I for one simply don't believe you pal
Also just to put a bit of sunshine in your day Karen is one of my best fab friends on here since she joined 5 years ago and is filthier than a garbage truck,ruder than Jenna jameson in her prime and kinkier than Christian grey and has got more veris than the most veried person on fab
So I don't think you'll have any problem convincing her to swing
(Also will add she's very partial to an orgy or 20 man gb just saying)
* all of the above not true except the people talk bit
And ffs pal man up stop cheating on her and also tell her your bi if she doesn't already know
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Always interesting to see how these threads go .. never usually well for the OP sure to the judgement that comes with asking for the advice on the first place.
1. Does she know you're on here? If indeed you haven't met anyone since being with her then mentioning you have a profile but only use it for the chat / banter / keeping in touch with friends shouldn't cause too much issue of you have a strong enough relationship ... although why have you only just mentioned this does spring to mind.
2. As others have said, duress she know you're Bi .. as this may come as a shock to her
3. Again .. as with others, have a conversation about spicing things up ... had she ever thought about 3somes etc ... although after a year it may be surprising if you haven't already had that chat
4. If she isn't interested, did you plan to stay here? To what end?
5. Hate to day this, but you may not have fully grasped the concept of swinging, especially as a couple
All in all ... best honest with yourself and what you want before you ask the question, and make sure you honestly answer the question of "What if she isn't interested?"
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well?
Why do you want her to swing? What scenario do you have in mind?
Partner swapping 3somes watching her with some else "
Do you think she will be up for watching you fuck and or be fucked by men? |
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"Do the old "let's spice things up routine" and let her contribute some ideas."
Boom baby that's what I said. She just wasn't up for. Never asked again. Then I ended it here I am on here haven't meet nobody on this site. . Meet more off POF. Com  |
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"You're not a swinger, you're a cheater. I feel sorry for your gf, show her your profile and see what happens "
you sure do have a point lad needs a pair of bollocks just tell her go from there.... |
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"Stop cheating and ask her
Hate that word cheating! Who are we to judge! I don’t think this site is the place to judge folks!
Just tell her you’ve had a idea and show her my website and my parties ha - classy! Tell her you’d love to take her!
Cheating is playing without a partners knowledge and consent. It's a useful word. Some of us on here don't wish to ever meet them. I certainly don't want to be on the receiving end of an angry partner when he or she finds out or to be part of a problem that breaks up a family. Just because we are on a swingers site it doesn't mean we can't judge for ourselves or have opinions. "
So you do back ground checks on every man you play with? You can’t be responsible for their actions! Swinging isn’t a real world! |
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"Stop cheating and ask her
Hate that word cheating! Who are we to judge! I don’t think this site is the place to judge folks!
Just tell her you’ve had a idea and show her my website and my parties ha - classy! Tell her you’d love to take her!
Cheating is playing without a partners knowledge and consent. It's a useful word. Some of us on here don't wish to ever meet them. I certainly don't want to be on the receiving end of an angry partner when he or she finds out or to be part of a problem that breaks up a family. Just because we are on a swingers site it doesn't mean we can't judge for ourselves or have opinions.
So you do back ground checks on every man you play with? You can’t be responsible for their actions! Swinging isn’t a real world! "
yeah and blood tipe medical status passport visa work place and a cv with all women sence birth...
I think it covers all...
Sorry had to say it. |
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well?
Why do you want her to swing? What scenario do you have in mind?
Partner swapping 3somes watching her with some else
Do you think she will be up for watching you fuck and or be fucked by men? "
Erm possibly but possibly not, x |
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"Always interesting to see how these threads go .. never usually well for the OP sure to the judgement that comes with asking for the advice on the first place.
1. Does she know you're on here? If indeed you haven't met anyone since being with her then mentioning you have a profile but only use it for the chat / banter / keeping in touch with friends shouldn't cause too much issue of you have a strong enough relationship ... although why have you only just mentioned this does spring to mind.
2. As others have said, duress she know you're Bi .. as this may come as a shock to her
3. Again .. as with others, have a conversation about spicing things up ... had she ever thought about 3somes etc ... although after a year it may be surprising if you haven't already had that chat
4. If she isn't interested, did you plan to stay here? To what end?
5. Hate to day this, but you may not have fully grasped the concept of swinging, especially as a couple
All in all ... best honest with yourself and what you want before you ask the question, and make sure you honestly answer the question of "What if she isn't interested?"
It's ok to have a past that included swinging, we all have history, but you need to be honest with her"
Thanks,
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"How do I raise the subject without causing offence, I mean surely a 3some would go down well?
Why do you want her to swing? What scenario do you have in mind?
Partner swapping 3somes
watching her with some else
Basically, I would suggest asking her if she's interested in that sort of thing.
Best to ask after few drinks then lol
If it's important to you I suggest you need to find out if you are with someone who is interested. If not, you can both go your separate ways.
Wouldn't leave her over it
You don't need too, just carry on beging the arse hole you already are by cheating on her. "
I was just thinking what a charmer. Some very selfish thoughts running through this thread. Glad I'm not his partner. |
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over a year ago
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"Stop cheating and ask her
Hate that word cheating! Who are we to judge! I don’t think this site is the place to judge folks!
Just tell her you’ve had a idea and show her my website and my parties ha - classy! Tell her you’d love to take her!
Cheating is playing without a partners knowledge and consent. It's a useful word. Some of us on here don't wish to ever meet them. I certainly don't want to be on the receiving end of an angry partner when he or she finds out or to be part of a problem that breaks up a family. Just because we are on a swingers site it doesn't mean we can't judge for ourselves or have opinions.
So you do back ground checks on every man you play with? You can’t be responsible for their actions! Swinging isn’t a real world! "
I do as many checks as possible. I've been here long enough to know how to root them out tbh. I'm in no way responsible for their actions, they are. However I will not facilitate them cheating. If you or others want to meet cheats then it's your choice, just be prepared to deal with the fallout caused by both of your actions. Their "swinging" (and I use that term very loosely!) does has an impact on the real world when they get found out unfortunately. |
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"Stop cheating and ask her
Hate that word cheating! Who are we to judge! I don’t think this site is the place to judge folks!
Just tell her you’ve had a idea and show her my website and my parties ha - classy! Tell her you’d love to take her!
Cheating is playing without a partners knowledge and consent. It's a useful word. Some of us on here don't wish to ever meet them. I certainly don't want to be on the receiving end of an angry partner when he or she finds out or to be part of a problem that breaks up a family. Just because we are on a swingers site it doesn't mean we can't judge for ourselves or have opinions.
So you do back ground checks on every man you play with? You can’t be responsible for their actions! Swinging isn’t a real world!
I do as many checks as possible. I've been here long enough to know how to root them out tbh. I'm in no way responsible for their actions, they are. However I will not facilitate them cheating. If you or others want to meet cheats then it's your choice, just be prepared to deal with the fallout caused by both of your actions. Their "swinging" (and I use that term very loosely!) does has an impact on the real world when they get found out unfortunately. "
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