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I have had a long chat with my wife about MFM. At first she was really up for it she did some reading on the Internet and all was going well. Now she like I don’t know am unsure. I think she would love it. Having known her for 25 years. I am unsure weather to bring it up again. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys |
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over a year ago
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Took a long while for my wife to be comfortable with the idea
I always liked the idea of seeing her pleasured, this place can be very hit and miss, more miss than hit from our experience but the wife is very picky
Tell her about the idea and reassure her.
Set up social meets with potential playmates before actually playing, build up a chemistry, it makes the play and experience better for all parties, or so we have found.
Hope you find some fun |
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My advice would be organise something, as she's said she's interested but we all get cold feet sometimes. Have a drink on the day to relax a bit, but not too much and be bold as fortune often favours the bold. |
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"I have had a long chat with my wife about MFM. At first she was really up for it she did some reading on the Internet and all was going well. Now she like I don’t know am unsure. I think she would love it. Having known her for 25 years. I am unsure weather to bring it up again. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys "
I'm not being rude at all but if you've known her for 25 years and say that this means you know her well enough to say you think she would love it you should also know her well enough to be sure about bringing the subject up again or not. We don't know her at all.
All I can say is talk to her, ask her why she changed her mind and if she's still interested. Don't arrange anything without her knowledge. |
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"Took a long while for my wife to be comfortable with the idea
I always liked the idea of seeing her pleasured, this place can be very hit and miss, more miss than hit from our experience but the wife is very picky
Tell her about the idea and reassure her.
Set up social meets with potential playmates before actually playing, build up a chemistry, it makes the play and experience better for all
parties, or so we have found.
Thanks
Hope you find some fun"
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"I have had a long chat with my wife about MFM. At first she was really up for it she did some reading on the Internet and all was going well. Now she like I don’t know am unsure. I think she would love it. Having known her for 25 years. I am unsure weather to bring it up again. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys
I'm not being rude at all but if you've known her for 25 years and say that this means you know her well enough to say you think she would love it you should also know her well enough to be sure about bringing the subject up again or not. We don't know her at all.
All I can say is talk to her, ask her why she changed her mind and if she's still interested. Don't arrange anything without her knowledge."
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Don't know if you've been to a club before, but it's the essy way to ease yourself in.
There is never any pressure, you can just play alone, watch, play with others watching, play with other couples, or play as part of MFM etc etc.
Really the easy way to establish your feelings before participating. |
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"Don't know if you've been to a club before, but it's the essy way to ease yourself in.
There is never any pressure, you can just play alone, watch, play with others watching, play with other couples, or play as part of MFM etc etc.
Really the easy way to establish your feelings before participating. "
I agree |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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Definitely don’t arrange anything without her knowledge. If it was me I’d need to like the guy.
Probably a club is easiest as suggested but people blow hot and cold so what might have seemed like a good idea at the time might not be good now.
Good luck. |
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Took my husband 18 years to convince me . Why don't you talk about attending a club. No pressure but just to watch and socialise.
This is how my husband Convinced me. Now so love it and glad we gave it a try. |
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"Took my husband 18 years to convince me . Why don't you talk about attending a club. No pressure but just to watch and socialise.
This is how my husband Convinced me. Now so love it and glad we gave it a try. "
Exactly same as our approach
Attended a club and first night was a hit.
Wife always meets socially first everyone I'm knowledge nothing will happen and if chemistry is good arrange a meet after
Also you find out how many are genuine |
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"Don't know if you've been to a club before, but it's the essy way to ease yourself in.
There is never any pressure, you can just play alone, watch, play with others watching, play with other couples, or play as part of MFM etc etc.
Really the easy way to establish your feelings before participating. "
Thanks |
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"Took my husband 18 years to convince me . Why don't you talk about attending a club. No pressure but just to watch and socialise.
This is how my husband Convinced me. Now so love it and glad we gave it a try. "
Sounds like a plan |
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OP has raised a really great topic here - one I was faced with from my first wife, she made first suggestion and I needed no encouragement, we never looked back for next 7 years -
OP, just tread carful as overstepping the boundary if you miss read the signals, could be a disaster - take small steps first - Role Play at home, be more and more suggestive, take her to a Pulse shop and treat her to some new stuff, tell her how turned on you feel if another man was looking at her all dressed for se......  |
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"OP has raised a really great topic here - one I was faced with from my first wife, she made first suggestion and I needed no encouragement, we never looked back for next 7 years -
OP, just tread carful as overstepping the boundary if you miss read the signals, could be a disaster - take small steps first - Role Play at home, be more and more suggestive, take her to a Pulse shop and treat her to some new stuff, tell her how turned on you feel if another man was looking at her all dressed for se...... "
Great advice thanks |
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"My advice would be organise something, as she's said she's interested but we all get cold feet sometimes. Have a drink on the day to relax a bit, but not too much and be bold as fortune often favours the bold."
OP says his wife is unsure. If I told my husband I was unsure and he surprised me like that I’d have to question his motives and respect for me. After I’d kicked him in the nuts. She clearly has reservations for a reason. Mrs x |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Communicate, communicate and communicate some more and then when you think you're done yep...communicate.
Talk about what you BOTH want and be prepared to compromise on boundaries to the lowest common denominator not the highest one.
Attending a club is a great idea as you don't HAVE to do anything more than you want to but provides the vibe for you to do so if you both choose.
The important thing though OP is not to pressure your wife and be prepared to turn your back on the idea if she really isn't up for it.
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"Communicate, communicate and communicate some more and then when you think you're done yep...communicate.
Talk about what you BOTH want and be prepared to compromise on boundaries to the lowest common denominator not the highest one.
Attending a club is a great idea as you don't HAVE to do anything more than you want to but provides the vibe for you to do so if you both choose.
The important thing though OP is not to pressure your wife and be prepared to turn your back on the idea if she really isn't up for it.
Once again fantastic advice thank you
Good luck "
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"My advice would be organise something, as she's said she's interested but we all get cold feet sometimes. Have a drink on the day to relax a bit, but not too much and be bold as fortune often favours the bold.
OP says his wife is unsure. If I told my husband I was unsure and he surprised me like that I’d have to question his motives and respect for me. After I’d kicked him in the nuts. She clearly has reservations for a reason. Mrs x "
lol am feeling that think she would do her nut |
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You have to let her make the decision in her own time, it took me (MrsH) 2yrs of discussing things before doing anything
As much as I knew MrH was into this lifestyle (him & his ex wife used to see other people) he didn't push me & I'd have resented him if he had
For me it was a combination or trust, jealousy & confidence that held me back, I needed to be 100% sure it wouldn't effect our relationship in a negative way
Thankfully the last 15 months has been a highly positive experience |
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"You have to let her make the decision in her own time, it took me (MrsH) 2yrs of discussing things before doing anything
As much as I knew MrH was into this lifestyle (him & his ex wife used to see other people) he didn't push me & I'd have resented him if he had
For me it was a combination or trust, jealousy
& confidence that held me back, I needed to be 100% sure it wouldn't effect our relationship in a negative way
Thankfully the last 15 months has been a highly positive experience "
Really good advice again thank you x |
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A lot of girls worry at first that if the guy's fantasy of seeing them fucked by another man becomes reality it will upset the guy and things will never be the same for them. You cannot "un-see" these things.
Also "why does he care so little for me he is not bothered if i fuck another man?" Sex is one thing, Emotion another. |
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"A lot of girls worry at first that if the guy's fantasy of seeing them fucked by another man becomes reality it will upset the guy and things will never be the same for them. You cannot "un-see" these things.
Also "why does he care so little for me he is not bothered if i fuck another man?" Sex is one thing, Emotion another. "
Dam that’s good thanks |
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Women are but a mystery.
I would leave it alone. That way if she mentions it you can nurture it. Then you can both dip your toes in the knowledge that you have not put pressure on her.
And if it all goes pair shaped you won't receive any blame. And further you will both learn something more about yourselves.
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"Women are but a mystery.
I would leave it alone. That way if she mentions it you can nurture it. Then you can both dip your toes in the knowledge that you have not put pressure on her.
And if it all goes pair shaped you won't receive any blame. And further you will both learn something more about yourselves.
Fair point
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"Some people are so lucky. Might have to shelve it for a bit I don’t want to push it’s out there I guess "
I think it needs shelving completely OP that’s if this is a genuine post. Does she know you are on Fab?
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"Some people are so lucky. Might have to shelve it for a bit I don’t want to push it’s out there I guess
I think it needs shelving completely OP that’s if this is a genuine post. Does she know you are on Fab?
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That would be a no a friend I talked to said get on fab have a look ask questions so I did has taken me a while to pluck up the courage to talk to her about it |
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"Some people are so lucky. Might have to shelve it for a bit I don’t want to push it’s out there I guess
I think it needs shelving completely OP that’s if this is a genuine post. Does she know you are on Fab?
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What makes you think I am not being genuine. |
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"Some people are so lucky. Might have to shelve it for a bit I don’t want to push it’s out there I guess
I think it needs shelving completely OP that’s if this is a genuine post. Does she know you are on Fab?
What makes you think I am not being genuine. "
It’s surprising you come on here asking a bunch of strangers for advice on your wife. A good husband would know not to push such a fantasy with his wife who is unsure as that would affect the marriage. It doesn’t ring true and now you’ve admitted it’s actually your fantasy and not hers which is awkward to read. Only my opinion and I’m not intending to offend you. |
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"I have had a long chat with my wife about MFM. At first she was really up for it she did some reading on the Internet and all was going well. Now she like I don’t know am unsure. I think she would love it. Having known her for 25 years. I am unsure weather to bring it up again. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys "
We would talk about it and put porn on then we started going out once a month to pubs and she would pick the guy she liked best and we would play and pretend he was with us,this went on for years and it got close to happening a few times but she would back out,what done it for us was going to a club and watching,after that we would meet, go for a meal then back to theres, ours,or hotel, but constantly chatting about what we like our turn ons and fantasies and let it happen,
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"I have had a long chat with my wife about MFM. At first she was really up for it she did some reading on the Internet and all was going well. Now she like I don’t know am unsure. I think she would love it. Having known her for 25 years. I am unsure weather to bring it up again. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys We would talk about it and put porn on then we started going out once a month to pubs and she would pick the guy she liked best and we would play and pretend he was with us,this went on for years and it got close to happening a few times but she would back out,what done it for us was going to a club and watching,after that we would meet, go for a meal then back to theres, ours,or hotel, but constantly chatting about what we like our turn ons and fantasies and let it happen, "
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"We tried it twice and would definitely recommend, the female is always in control always safe,we took a video too to watch it back,meet first have a drink or two and if it happens,WOWxxxH"
I can not get it out of my head |
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It came about from a game 20 questions witch we played via text at work. She was so horny she went home for a strum. It’s been on me ever since.
I had thoughts about it well it was in the wank bank lol |
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"It came about from a game 20 questions witch we played via text at work. She was so horny she went home for a strum. It’s been on me ever since.
I had thoughts about it well it was in the wank bank lol "
Can I ask what a ‘strum’ is? I’ve not come across the term. |
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"It came about from a game 20 questions witch we played via text at work. She was so horny she went home for a strum. It’s been on me ever since.
I had thoughts about it well it was in the wank bank lol "
it is a amazing thing to happen I still can remember our first threesum |
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"It came about from a game 20 questions witch we played via text at work. She was so horny she went home for a strum. It’s been on me ever since.
I had thoughts about it well it was in the wank bank lol
Can I ask what a ‘strum’ is? I’ve not come across the term. "
Masterbate |
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"It came about from a game 20 questions witch we played via text at work. She was so horny she went home for a strum. It’s been on me ever since.
I had thoughts about it well it was in the wank bank lol
Can I ask what a ‘strum’ is? I’ve not come across the term. "
Very good |
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