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"Wow and your together now?" Yes we've been together nearly a year and very, very happy  | |||
"Just relax and go with the flow ,its nice chatting to someone and getting to know them,but when you meet it can be completely different." Yeah think I need to relax just see how it goes. I don't want to meet anyone else until I meet him though as I'd feel bad? | |||
"Wow and your together now? Yes we've been together nearly a year and very, very happy "Brilliant  | |||
"Wow and your together now? Yes we've been together nearly a year and very, very happy Brilliant "Thank you Obviously it wasn't the intent of either of us to have a relationship but it just happened and it works so very well. Not for everyone to have a relationship with someone from here but each to their own. | |||
"Wow and your together now? Yes we've been together nearly a year and very, very happy Brilliant
Thank you Obviously it wasn't the intent of either of us to have a relationship but it just happened and it works so very well. Not for everyone to have a relationship with someone from here but each to their own. "Good on you if it works out then why not eyy! If you have the same interests then why not
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"Wow and your together now? Yes we've been together nearly a year and very, very happy Brilliant
Thank you Obviously it wasn't the intent of either of us to have a relationship but it just happened and it works so very well. Not for everyone to have a relationship with someone from here but each to their own.
Good on you if it works out then why not eyy! If you have the same interests then why not
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"We both had single profiles and met on fab.... Now we are proper loved up.... We don't play with others much but are still on the scene for the friends we have.... We also still go to clubs but only really play with each other and me the odd lady.... We are very happy.... Just go with the flow you will both know if it feels right xxx" | |||
"Anyone found someone on here that they think they have feelings for? How do you know if to trust them? Not met yet but have that connection.. will be another couple of weeks to meet due to his work. New to all this so don't know how to feel. What have you done about it? What should I do about it? Help! " I would say hold on there. You haven't met in person and you've contacted each other on a swingers site where it's usual (but not mandatory) for people to not be exclusive. Only you can know "once you've met him" if you can trust him and I really would in a nice way advise caution. Good luck, I truly hope you both find what's best for you but please don't make yourself vulnerable. | |||
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"online communication can become very intense very quickly. it's a ratified atmosphere where people feel they can be themselves, warts and all and trust that the other person is being as open and honest as they are. it can be quite intoxicating but we often don't make sensible decisions when intoxicated. not saying it's not possible to meet your soul mate swinging. I did and we're very happy together but we didn't get into messaging and chat. our attraction to each other came through meeting...embrace the possibilities by all means. after all people meet in all kinds of ways nowadays, who's to say one is more valid than the other but I'm never truly convinced you can really know someone is for you until you're actually in the same room together" Yeah I agree just hold on till the meet I suppose thankyou | |||
"Just treat it like an ordinay meet. If it goes well meet again. Feelings will come when they are right. "Thankyou! | |||
"Anyone found someone on here that they think they have feelings for? How do you know if to trust them? Not met yet but have that connection.. will be another couple of weeks to meet due to his work. New to all this so don't know how to feel. What have you done about it? What should I do about it? Help! I would say hold on there. You haven't met in person and you've contacted each other on a swingers site where it's usual (but not mandatory) for people to not be exclusive. Only you can know "once you've met him" if you can trust him and I really would in a nice way advise caution. Good luck, I truly hope you both find what's best for you but please don't make yourself vulnerable. "Thankyou I'm trying my best to hold them in till the meet we will see | |||
"We both had single profiles and met on fab.... Now we are proper loved up.... We don't play with others much but are still on the scene for the friends we have.... We also still go to clubs but only really play with each other and me the odd lady.... We are very happy.... Just go with the flow you will both know if it feels right xxx" Thankyou just felt abit silly didn't realise if people actually have met people off here before I've been on Pof met people off that but I'm into all this stuff so why not meet someone with the same interests and have fun at the same time! I just hope I get to meet him soon... x | |||
"online communication can become very intense very quickly. it's a ratified atmosphere where people feel they can be themselves, warts and all and trust that the other person is being as open and honest as they are. it can be quite intoxicating but we often don't make sensible decisions when intoxicated. not saying it's not possible to meet your soul mate swinging. I did and we're very happy together but we didn't get into messaging and chat. our attraction to each other came through meeting...embrace the possibilities by all means. after all people meet in all kinds of ways nowadays, who's to say one is more valid than the other but I'm never truly convinced you can really know someone is for you until you're actually in the same room together"  | |||
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"Anyone found someone on here that they think they have feelings for? How do you know if to trust them? Not met yet but have that connection.. will be another couple of weeks to meet due to his work. New to all this so don't know how to feel. What have you done about it? What should I do about it? Help! " in the past I have met someone off here that I developed feelings for, and vice versa, but only after we had met a couple of times in the real world..at the time we decided to try and make it work so we both came off here. It lasted for over a year but then he moved away for work so we decided to finish things but I wouldn't rule out meeting anyone again...in fact I am actively looking again  | |||
"Anyone found someone on here that they think they have feelings for? How do you know if to trust them? Not met yet but have that connection.. will be another couple of weeks to meet due to his work. New to all this so don't know how to feel. What have you done about it? What should I do about it? Help! " Hi op,we met on here,Chatted a while,had a social and got on great in real life.we took a bit of time away from here to get to know each other,before creating a couple profile Just go enjoy yourself op,best of luck..Miss xx | |||
"Just relax and go with the flow ,its nice chatting to someone and getting to know them,but when you meet it can be completely different. Yeah think I need to relax just see how it goes. I don't want to meet anyone else until I meet him though as I'd feel bad?" You may not be meeting others til you meet him but how do you know hes not still meeting others while hes waiting to meet you since this is a swingers site | |||
"Try not to get your hopes up too much. Messaging is very different to meeting in person. I have not always got on as well face to face with someone as i have through messaging. Also beware that people can pretend they are whoever they want to be online. Don't want to shit on your parade but also don't want you heartbroken if it doesn't work out xx" | |||
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"I've been burnt by this whole feelings thing.... Then I saw a pic and now they're gone! Whoop. I do love romance though and people find it anywhere and everywhere. What does it matter it was here? Is this not somewhere that most people can be their whole selves and drop the pretence? Fairy tales were based on something....maybe you have found your fab one! Xx" Totally agree, I think a lot of us really let the barriers down on here and sometimes that allows us to find someone we have an unexpected connection with. It's happened to me! Good luck OP | |||
"Just relax and go with the flow ,its nice chatting to someone and getting to know them,but when you meet it can be completely different. Yeah think I need to relax just see how it goes. I don't want to meet anyone else until I meet him though as I'd feel bad? You may not be meeting others til you meet him but how do you know hes not still meeting others while hes waiting to meet you since this is a swingers site" That's what I'm worried about  he's met people off here before I have such bad insecurities. Uve got to give everyone a chance but we arranged to meet today then he had to work.. just don't know what to do if to wait and see if he does meet me or just move on to someone else. | |||
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"Just relax and go with the flow ,its nice chatting to someone and getting to know them,but when you meet it can be completely different. Yeah think I need to relax just see how it goes. I don't want to meet anyone else until I meet him though as I'd feel bad? You may not be meeting others til you meet him but how do you know hes not still meeting others while hes waiting to meet you since this is a swingers site That's what I'm worried about he's met people off here before I have such bad insecurities. Uve got to give everyone a chance but we arranged to meet today then he had to work.. just don't know what to do if to wait and see if he does meet me or just move on to someone else."do you know he did have to go to work ie was it last minute he was called in or do you think he cancelled for another reason. if it was for work genuinely did he say when hed rearrange for also not to be blunt but do you know he is definitely single and not attached as there are usually tell tale signs on their profile | |||
"Please don't get too caught up... Mr online Prince Charming can be Mr. Frog when you meet face to face. Continue to chat and meet people until you actually meet him . Because you never know how many people he is chatting to and meeting. Good luck" This | |||
"Just relax and go with the flow ,its nice chatting to someone and getting to know them,but when you meet it can be completely different. Yeah think I need to relax just see how it goes. I don't want to meet anyone else until I meet him though as I'd feel bad? You may not be meeting others til you meet him but how do you know hes not still meeting others while hes waiting to meet you since this is a swingers site That's what I'm worried about he's met people off here before I have such bad insecurities. Uve got to give everyone a chance but we arranged to meet today then he had to work.. just don't know what to do if to wait and see if he does meet me or just move on to someone else.
do you know he did have to go to work ie was it last minute he was called in or do you think he cancelled for another reason. if it was for work genuinely did he say when hed rearrange for also not to be blunt but do you know he is definitely single and not attached as there are usually tell tale signs on their profile"What are the tell tale signs? He has a house a couple of hours away from me so he's leaving work to travel there to them travel back to work the next morning he's in the RAF | |||
"Just relax and go with the flow ,its nice chatting to someone and getting to know them,but when you meet it can be completely different. Yeah think I need to relax just see how it goes. I don't want to meet anyone else until I meet him though as I'd feel bad? You may not be meeting others til you meet him but how do you know hes not still meeting others while hes waiting to meet you since this is a swingers site That's what I'm worried about he's met people off here before I have such bad insecurities. Uve got to give everyone a chance but we arranged to meet today then he had to work.. just don't know what to do if to wait and see if he does meet me or just move on to someone else.
do you know he did have to go to work ie was it last minute he was called in or do you think he cancelled for another reason. if it was for work genuinely did he say when hed rearrange for also not to be blunt but do you know he is definitely single and not attached as there are usually tell tale signs on their profile
What are the tell tale signs? He has a house a couple of hours away from me so he's leaving work to travel there to them travel back to work the next morning he's in the RAF"Whether he can accommodate or not, if he is only looking for meets at specific times | |||
"Just relax and go with the flow ,its nice chatting to someone and getting to know them,but when you meet it can be completely different. Yeah think I need to relax just see how it goes. I don't want to meet anyone else until I meet him though as I'd feel bad? You may not be meeting others til you meet him but how do you know hes not still meeting others while hes waiting to meet you since this is a swingers site That's what I'm worried about he's met people off here before I have such bad insecurities. Uve got to give everyone a chance but we arranged to meet today then he had to work.. just don't know what to do if to wait and see if he does meet me or just move on to someone else.
do you know he did have to go to work ie was it last minute he was called in or do you think he cancelled for another reason. if it was for work genuinely did he say when hed rearrange for also not to be blunt but do you know he is definitely single and not attached as there are usually tell tale signs on their profile
What are the tell tale signs? He has a house a couple of hours away from me so he's leaving work to travel there to them travel back to work the next morning he's in the RAF
Whether he can accommodate or not, if he is only looking for meets at specific times "Also no public face pics or pics in general, states he has to be discreet | |||
"Just relax and go with the flow ,its nice chatting to someone and getting to know them,but when you meet it can be completely different. Yeah think I need to relax just see how it goes. I don't want to meet anyone else until I meet him though as I'd feel bad? You may not be meeting others til you meet him but how do you know hes not still meeting others while hes waiting to meet you since this is a swingers site That's what I'm worried about he's met people off here before I have such bad insecurities. Uve got to give everyone a chance but we arranged to meet today then he had to work.. just don't know what to do if to wait and see if he does meet me or just move on to someone else.
do you know he did have to go to work ie was it last minute he was called in or do you think he cancelled for another reason. if it was for work genuinely did he say when hed rearrange for also not to be blunt but do you know he is definitely single and not attached as there are usually tell tale signs on their profile
What are the tell tale signs? He has a house a couple of hours away from me so he's leaving work to travel there to them travel back to work the next morning he's in the RAF
Whether he can accommodate or not, if he is only looking for meets at specific times
Also no public face pics or pics in general, states he has to be discreet"Is he verified? Much older than you? Why not start chatting to others in case this doesn't work out | |||
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"Just relax and go with the flow ,its nice chatting to someone and getting to know them,but when you meet it can be completely different. Yeah think I need to relax just see how it goes. I don't want to meet anyone else until I meet him though as I'd feel bad?" if you feel bad about seeing other people before you've even met this guy ask yourself "am i really into this life style or am i just looking for a partner?" | |||
"Just treat it like an ordinay meet. If it goes well meet again. Feelings will come when they are right. " | |||
"Wow and your together now? Yes we've been together nearly a year and very, very happy "We met as singles on fab over 3 years ago, moved in together nearly 3 years ago, still have our singles profile, but seldom meet off them now xxx | |||
"Wow and your together now? Yes we've been together nearly a year and very, very happy
We met as singles on fab over 3 years ago, moved in together nearly 3 years ago, still have our singles profile, but seldom meet off them now xxx"We agreed to get rid of the single profiles when we "officially" got together and would prefer r meet together now and not alone X | |||
"Please don't get too caught up... Mr online Prince Charming can be Mr. Frog when you meet face to face. Continue to chat and meet people until you actually meet him . Because you never know how many people he is chatting to and meeting. Good luck This "and visa versa | |||
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"Anyone found someone on here that they think they have feelings for? How do you know if to trust them? Not met yet but have that connection.. will be another couple of weeks to meet due to his work. New to all this so don't know how to feel. What have you done about it? What should I do about it? Help! I would say hold on there. You haven't met in person and you've contacted each other on a swingers site where it's usual (but not mandatory) for people to not be exclusive. Only you can know "once you've met him" if you can trust him and I really would in a nice way advise caution. Good luck, I truly hope you both find what's best for you but please don't make yourself vulnerable.
Thankyou I'm trying my best to hold them in till the meet we will see "Holy crap 
You've only just joined this SWINGING site and the first guy you meet it might be love before you've even met him?
STANDBY TO GET BURNT!
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"Anyone found someone on here that they think they have feelings for? How do you know if to trust them? Not met yet but have that connection.. will be another couple of weeks to meet due to his work. New to all this so don't know how to feel. What have you done about it? What should I do about it? Help! I would say hold on there. You haven't met in person and you've contacted each other on a swingers site where it's usual (but not mandatory) for people to not be exclusive. Only you can know "once you've met him" if you can trust him and I really would in a nice way advise caution. Good luck, I truly hope you both find what's best for you but please don't make yourself vulnerable.
Thankyou I'm trying my best to hold them in till the meet we will see
Holy crap
You've only just joined this SWINGING site and the first guy you meet it might be love before you've even met him?
STANDBY TO GET BURNT!
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"Anyone found someone on here that they think they have feelings for? How do you know if to trust them? Not met yet but have that connection.. will be another couple of weeks to meet due to his work. New to all this so don't know how to feel. What have you done about it? What should I do about it? Help! I would say hold on there. You haven't met in person and you've contacted each other on a swingers site where it's usual (but not mandatory) for people to not be exclusive. Only you can know "once you've met him" if you can trust him and I really would in a nice way advise caution. Good luck, I truly hope you both find what's best for you but please don't make yourself vulnerable.
Thankyou I'm trying my best to hold them in till the meet we will see
Holy crap
You've only just joined this SWINGING site and the first guy you meet it might be love before you've even met him?
STANDBY TO GET BURNT!
"Omg seriously 1. I was on a couples site before using another profile so I know what it's about. 2. I never said I was in 'love' at all I was asking if anyone had caught feelings before?! 3. If you've got nothing constructive to say then don't bother | |||
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"Anyone found someone on here that they think they have feelings for? How do you know if to trust them? Not met yet but have that connection.. will be another couple of weeks to meet due to his work. New to all this so don't know how to feel. What have you done about it? What should I do about it? Help! I would say hold on there. You haven't met in person and you've contacted each other on a swingers site where it's usual (but not mandatory) for people to not be exclusive. Only you can know "once you've met him" if you can trust him and I really would in a nice way advise caution. Good luck, I truly hope you both find what's best for you but please don't make yourself vulnerable.
Thankyou I'm trying my best to hold them in till the meet we will see
Holy crap
You've only just joined this SWINGING site and the first guy you meet it might be love before you've even met him?
STANDBY TO GET BURNT!
Omg seriously
1. I was on a couples site before using another profile so I know what it's about.
2. I never said I was in 'love' at all I was asking if anyone had caught feelings before?!
3. If you've got nothing constructive to say then don't bother " It's your journey hunni, just enjoy the experience | |||
"Anyone found someone on here that they think they have feelings for? How do you know if to trust them? Not met yet but have that connection.. will be another couple of weeks to meet due to his work. New to all this so don't know how to feel. What have you done about it? What should I do about it? Help! I would say hold on there. You haven't met in person and you've contacted each other on a swingers site where it's usual (but not mandatory) for people to not be exclusive. Only you can know "once you've met him" if you can trust him and I really would in a nice way advise caution. Good luck, I truly hope you both find what's best for you but please don't make yourself vulnerable.
Thankyou I'm trying my best to hold them in till the meet we will see
Holy crap
You've only just joined this SWINGING site and the first guy you meet it might be love before you've even met him?
STANDBY TO GET BURNT!
Omg seriously
1. I was on a couples site before using another profile so I know what it's about.
2. I never said I was in 'love' at all I was asking if anyone had caught feelings before?!
3. If you've got nothing constructive to say then don't bother "That was probably the most constructive message so far on the thread . Just because it may not have been what you wanted to read , doesn't make it less constructive .  | |||
"Wow and your together now? Yes we've been together nearly a year and very, very happy
We met as singles on fab over 3 years ago, moved in together nearly 3 years ago, still have our singles profile, but seldom meet off them now xxx
We agreed to get rid of the single profiles when we "officially" got together and would prefer r meet together now and not alone X "Should have added our single meets have been socials x | |||
"Anyone found someone on here that they think they have feelings for? How do you know if to trust them? Not met yet but have that connection.. will be another couple of weeks to meet due to his work. New to all this so don't know how to feel. What have you done about it? What should I do about it? Help! I would say hold on there. You haven't met in person and you've contacted each other on a swingers site where it's usual (but not mandatory) for people to not be exclusive. Only you can know "once you've met him" if you can trust him and I really would in a nice way advise caution. Good luck, I truly hope you both find what's best for you but please don't make yourself vulnerable.
Thankyou I'm trying my best to hold them in till the meet we will see
Holy crap
You've only just joined this SWINGING site and the first guy you meet it might be love before you've even met him?
STANDBY TO GET BURNT!
Omg seriously
1. I was on a couples site before using another profile so I know what it's about.
2. I never said I was in 'love' at all I was asking if anyone had caught feelings before?!
3. If you've got nothing constructive to say then don't bother
That was probably the most constructive message so far on the thread .
Just because it may not have been what you wanted to read , doesn't make it less constructive .
"How is that constructive? Basically taking the piss out of what I asked is constructive? | |||
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"Anyone found someone on here that they think they have feelings for? How do you know if to trust them? Not met yet but have that connection.. will be another couple of weeks to meet due to his work. New to all this so don't know how to feel. What have you done about it? What should I do about it? Help! I would say hold on there. You haven't met in person and you've contacted each other on a swingers site where it's usual (but not mandatory) for people to not be exclusive. Only you can know "once you've met him" if you can trust him and I really would in a nice way advise caution. Good luck, I truly hope you both find what's best for you but please don't make yourself vulnerable.
Thankyou I'm trying my best to hold them in till the meet we will see
Holy crap
You've only just joined this SWINGING site and the first guy you meet it might be love before you've even met him?
STANDBY TO GET BURNT!
Omg seriously
1. I was on a couples site before using another profile so I know what it's about.
2. I never said I was in 'love' at all I was asking if anyone had caught feelings before?!
3. If you've got nothing constructive to say then don't bother
That was probably the most constructive message so far on the thread .
Just because it may not have been what you wanted to read , doesn't make it less constructive .
How is that constructive? Basically taking the piss out of what I asked is constructive?"It wasn't taking the piss , it was an honest appraisal . Those on the thread who found each other on here and made a happy relationship together are considerably older than you - check out their ages . They will have a lot more experience of life , and Rachel was simply saying that your situation is very likely to leave you being hurt . Her post is a reality check . | |||
"Anyone found someone on here that they think they have feelings for? How do you know if to trust them? Not met yet but have that connection.. will be another couple of weeks to meet due to his work. New to all this so don't know how to feel. What have you done about it? What should I do about it? Help! I would say hold on there. You haven't met in person and you've contacted each other on a swingers site where it's usual (but not mandatory) for people to not be exclusive. Only you can know "once you've met him" if you can trust him and I really would in a nice way advise caution. Good luck, I truly hope you both find what's best for you but please don't make yourself vulnerable.
Thankyou I'm trying my best to hold them in till the meet we will see
Holy crap
You've only just joined this SWINGING site and the first guy you meet it might be love before you've even met him?
STANDBY TO GET BURNT!
Omg seriously
1. I was on a couples site before using another profile so I know what it's about.
2. I never said I was in 'love' at all I was asking if anyone had caught feelings before?!
3. If you've got nothing constructive to say then don't bother
That was probably the most constructive message so far on the thread .
Just because it may not have been what you wanted to read , doesn't make it less constructive .
How is that constructive? Basically taking the piss out of what I asked is constructive?"uve stated ur holding in the feelings you have developed for a guy you havent met and wont meet others so what was stated is constructive as it seems you have fell for a guy u have never met so ok then go get burnt and get your heart broke because if he still is meeting others while ur waiting you WILL get burnt | |||
"Try not to get your hopes up too much. Messaging is very different to meeting in person. I have not always got on as well face to face with someone as i have through messaging. Also beware that people can pretend they are whoever they want to be online. Don't want to shit on your parade but also don't want you heartbroken if it doesn't work out xx" chatting to someone online is nothing like falling for someone in the real world. I had the worlds worst date off POF years back with someone who I thought I really clicked with in messages. And we had spent a couple of months chatting before meeting! | |||
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"I'd be made up if I met someone off here! " Me too! but messages on here are just words that mean nothing ...... I'm very cynical, unless I've met them and get to know them. | |||
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"Anyone found someone on here that they think they have feelings for? How do you know if to trust them? Not met yet but have that connection.. will be another couple of weeks to meet due to his work. New to all this so don't know how to feel. What have you done about it? What should I do about it? Help! I would say hold on there. You haven't met in person and you've contacted each other on a swingers site where it's usual (but not mandatory) for people to not be exclusive. Only you can know "once you've met him" if you can trust him and I really would in a nice way advise caution. Good luck, I truly hope you both find what's best for you but please don't make yourself vulnerable. "Wise wise words.... I had two friends on here who developed feelings beyond what was expected on a site like this. It happens because we met regularly.... (I'm very much not a many user type). Both found it very hard if/when I met someone else. Both have actually left the site as a result. We still keep in touch as we became good friends through our times together. One has now met a partner through vanilla meet. Hope though it works out. | |||
"Anyone found someone on here that they think they have feelings for? How do you know if to trust them? Not met yet but have that connection.. will be another couple of weeks to meet due to his work. New to all this so don't know how to feel. What have you done about it? What should I do about it? Help! " Yes... both me and Mrs have feelings for our friends, just like we have feelings for our nilla friends too... but won't ever stop us loving each other  | |||
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"Anyone found someone on here that they think they have feelings for? How do you know if to trust them? Not met yet but have that connection.. will be another couple of weeks to meet due to his work. New to all this so don't know how to feel. What have you done about it? What should I do about it? Help! " In one word. Chilax | |||
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"I'd be surprised if I thought I had feelings for someone I'd not even met yet. I did go out with someone from here for 18 months but I realised it wasn't going anywhere so ended it. I think this may be a mistake people make, invest too much in a person they hardly know. I never have any expectations and I'm never disappointed "Yep  | |||
