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"How do I go about this? I’m based in Manchester, can I go by myself or is that strange or? I’m really not clued up about this   "
I found the best way to go about it was simply, just going to a club.
Winston
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Was it as easy as that? Like I don’t really know what I’m expecting if I’m honest with you, so I can go by myself or is that not something people do?
Cheers mate |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Was it as easy as that? Like I don’t really know what I’m expecting if I’m honest with you, so I can go by myself or is that not something people do?
Cheers mate "
Ask yourself this, what would happen if you went?
Then ask yourself, what would happen if you never went.
Then ask which you would prefer. |
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"Was it as easy as that? Like I don’t really know what I’m expecting if I’m honest with you, so I can go by myself or is that not something people do?
Cheers mate "
Men often go by themselves if the clubs allow. ( Some don't allow single guys to attend.)
Top tip is expect nothing, treat it as a night out, go mingle be respectful and get known for all the right reasons.
Men who attend clubs and follow people around hoping for a bit of action, rarely get what they are after, and often come across as very creepy and as someone to avoid. |
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"How do I go about this? I’m based in Manchester, can I go by myself or is that strange or? I’m really not clued up about this
I found the best way to go about it was simply, just going to a club.
Winston
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To be fair, you are very hot xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Was it as easy as that? Like I don’t really know what I’m expecting if I’m honest with you, so I can go by myself or is that not something people do?
Cheers mate "
Best tip... Expect nothing.
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"Was it as easy as that? Like I don’t really know what I’m expecting if I’m honest with you, so I can go by myself or is that not something people do?
Cheers mate "
You'll see lots of scantily clad women, nude people, and people engaging in sexual activity for sure. Don't think you're walking into a mass orgy and you're guaranteed some action though. Just observe and see what happens. |
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By *andy IanMan
over a year ago
cheshire/Preston |
You can go on your own but take some photo I.D. Some clubs insist on you proving your genuine. Once inside don’t expect to be met by loads of women wanting sex with you it takes time and a good chat up line to get things started.
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"Was it as easy as that? Like I don’t really know what I’m expecting if I’m honest with you, so I can go by myself or is that not something people do?
Cheers mate "
Yes, it really is that easy.
How you behave when inside, your attitude and expectations will determine your experience.
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"How do I go about this? I’m based in Manchester, can I go by myself or is that strange or? I’m really not clued up about this
I found the best way to go about it was simply, just going to a club.
Winston
To be fair, you are very hot xxx"
Thanks. In fairness, I'm not, m'lady is though. 
Winston |
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OP, just go on your own, what's the worst that can happen? You'd spend some money (but it's a night out) but at the very least you'd get verified as real by the club.
Go with no expectations, try to talk to people, be polite. Use the club's facilities- hot tub, if the club has one, is usually a great place to start conversation.
One thing not to do: please DO NOT TOUCH without being invited to. I went to a spa-based club the other day, there was a guy there who tried talking to me (great) but who had to keep touching me while talking - ok, my arm only but still! There was no need for that touching, and it made him get nowhere with me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you! That was one of my worries of what I’d be expecting. Wouldn’t look like a weirdo tho sat by self having a drink observing would i? Like people think I’m a perv hahaha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you! Yes I’m defiantly going to attend one asa mostly just looking for a good night out few drinks a laugh and good conversation! Ooo no I won’t be touching anyone with out there permission that’s something I’m strongly against if you don’t want touching people NEED to respect that! |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
Yes, it is as simple as just going. Do your homework first, of course - read everything the club has on its web site, make sure you know their rules, and pick a night that allows new single men.
The standard advice when you're there is "expect nothing", and that's where I disagree. "Expect nothing" starts from the assumption that you're going there only for sex, and that you probably won't get it. The second part might be true. The first part cuts you off from most of what a club can offer.
Some people can do it. Just turn up, look hot, and start playing. For the rest of us, swinging looks different.
Expect to have a good social night out. Expect to meet new people, and have interesting conversations with them. Dance if that's your thing. Enjoy the hot tub if the club has one.
Make connections. Get to know people. Be a person that people want to be with. Get yourself a good reputation.
I've had some fantastic times at the club on nights that I don't think anyone played. I've made good friendships that extend into 'real life'. And there's been plenty of great sex in there too.
Anyway, that's how I did clubs as a single man. It worked for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Best thing you can do is pluck up the courage and take yourself to a club as hiding behind messages or forum posts which can be easily wrongly interpreted is not going to help let your personality shine like meeting people in person.
I hadn’t been to a club in a few years but ventured to one over the past weekend, I attended with no expectations for play and treated it as a night out at a normal bar or night club and managed to have a really awesome night out by making the effort to mingle and chat with people in a decent and respectful manner.
As long as you attend with no expectations other than to socialise and engage in conversation, then if anything else happens, it's a bonus.
Do not be one of them weird and horny single guys that lurk around the entrance to the play rooms or leaning against the wall waiting to "hunt” out any action in a predatory manner.
You can be the nicest guy in the world but your projected behaviour will reflect on how successful your night could be and that is a sure way to get turn off people or run the risk of you being ejected and or possibly beaten up.
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Research the clubs, find 1 that best matches your needs, budget, availability etc. Apply for membership at the right point, as it's possibly in advance of attendance.
Visit and enjoy, going for the facilities, not expecting sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How do I go about this? I’m based in Manchester, can I go by myself or is that strange or? I’m really not clued up about this
Just go it’s not that bad"
Thanks I’ll be giving them ago asap  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your nearest club is Cupids, check out their website and the About Us section. You'll be fine just go! X"
Thank you! Yeah got nothing to lose I suppose! I’ll have a look online tonight x |
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Looking at your profile I am not sure how you will feel going to a club. It says nothng about you and you have only dick pics. As many said do your homework every club is different attracting different crowds. Ask yourself can I approach couples and start a conversation? Can I deal with possible non welcoming response?
Am I expecting to find an single unicorn woman? Am I able to adress both male and female when chatting to a couple? If I am lucky and invited to play can I perform on a group scenario? The list goes on OP. There are loads of treads on this forum with really useful tips.
Good luck! |
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OP.... everything's been said, but rember this....without single guys, couples like us (I don't join in generally) would have very slim pickings so we'd generally avoid clubs/events where there are NO single guys. So no....it's not strange to go on your own.
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
You would be best going to a quiet club and take notes.
Visit the CLUBS page at the top of and look for a club that accepts single blokes, on the night you want to visit. There is no hard and fast rule, just email the club and chat to them. They will be happy to answer all questions.
Any club worth their salt will welcome you.
Use this visit as a recce and don't expect to play, it doesn't work that way. It can get quiet, but that's life.
Rochdale has Decadence, which is small but has a tiny hot tub behind the bar. The staff are really easy to talk to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi has anyone been to libertys?
We are newbies and want to go next Saturday.
Are we ok to just turn up? What’s the dress code?
Is there a hotel nearby? Thanks ?? |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"Hi has anyone been to libertys?
We are newbies and want to go next Saturday.
Are we ok to just turn up? What’s the dress code?
Is there a hotel nearby? Thanks ?? "
I have and they have rooms just the other side of their lawn.
Check out their site, then Google Earth the location. |
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"Hi has anyone been to libertys?
We are newbies and want to go next Saturday.
Are we ok to just turn up? What’s the dress code?
Is there a hotel nearby? Thanks ?? "
We've been once. Of the four clubs we've been to, it's probably the classiest, though quite traditional (bi guy action seems to be frowned upon). They have twelve rooms to book which are recently refurbished and perfectly functional (but they are £75 per night).
Dress code seems to be same as most clubs. Smart casual for the guys, as sexy as you dare for the ladies (there's a pic in our gallery of Char in her backless dress when we visited). It's dress down in the hot-tub/play areas, and no nudity in the bar area.
There's a big open play area downstairs where the hot-tub is, plus a couple of private rooms downstairs round by the dancefloor, then four or five private rooms upstairs.
Hope you have a good time.
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I would be honest with people you chat too, let them know your new to the scene. I would often confess to being a bag of nervous, usuall only stay an hour or so…. Broke myself in gently?! Wey hey!
It does get easier |
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First time I went to a club I made a conscious decision not to play and just be a voyeur. By doing this I felt a lot more relaxed and that I can just sit on the sideline so to speak.
That way when I went back the second time I felt more comfortable.
This was a personal choice, we're all different after all. |
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"Most likely you'll just have a few drinks, chat to a few people and see some people shagging.
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This about sums it up really. You’re more likely to be underwhelmed and leave wondering what you were worried about  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would be honest with people you chat too, let them know your new to the scene. I would often confess to being a bag of nervous, usuall only stay an hour or so…. Broke myself in gently?! Wey hey!
It does get easier "
We really enjoy watching others playing on cam, is it okay to go to a club with the attitude of going for a night out, hopefully to watch others but not looking to play ourselves? Never been to a club but considering it. |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
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"We really enjoy watching others playing on cam, is it okay to go to a club with the attitude of going for a night out, hopefully to watch others but not looking to play ourselves? Never been to a club but considering it. "
Totally. Clubs are good places for exhibitionists, and they appreciate a good audience.
There's never any obligation to do anything, and there's no single "right way" to do clubs. You're free to do things your way, as long as that doesn't interfere with others doing theirs.
You'll probably get people asking to play with you. A simple "no thanks, we're just here to watch" should be enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are also single straight girls that go to clubs. I'm meeting a guy tonight I saw and didn't speak to at a club 2 weeks ago. We started chatting about the club visit here on fab and now we're meeting at the club tonight. He was there by himself and didn't really speak to anyone as he was nervous.. but he definitely won't be tonight  . Go, as nothing will ever happen if you don't, but something great may if you do. Good luck! |
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"How do I go about this? I’m based in Manchester, can I go by myself or is that strange or? I’m really not clued up about this "
Did you have to post something like this the first time you went to a pub? |
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"How do I go about this? I’m based in Manchester, can I go by myself or is that strange or? I’m really not clued up about this "
Just go to a club, don't overthink it and don't expect anything and tell folks in there it's your first time.
Don't be a limpet if you strike up a conversation with a couple, talk to both parties.
Have a great night, maybe pick a quieter night for your first time.
We picked a mid week night as we were terrified.
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By *luns1Man
over a year ago
Preston |
Some great advice from all the posters. And it all rings true. I was very lucky for my first time I was joined by my play partner but she encouraged me to mingle and meet other people. Just go, be yourself and expect nothing.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Was it as easy as that? Like I don’t really know what I’m expecting if I’m honest with you, so I can go by myself or is that not something people do?
Cheers mate "
No it’s not as easy as that.
But for the best chance of success, I’d highly recommend:-
- Go to a club.
- Be charming, slightly mysterious and polite.
- Have a massive cock
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We really enjoy watching others playing on cam, is it okay to go to a club with the attitude of going for a night out, hopefully to watch others but not looking to play ourselves? Never been to a club but considering it.
Totally. Clubs are good places for exhibitionists, and they appreciate a good audience.
There's never any obligation to do anything, and there's no single "right way" to do clubs. You're free to do things your way, as long as that doesn't interfere with others doing theirs.
You'll probably get people asking to play with you. A simple "no thanks, we're just here to watch" should be enough."
Perfect. Think this might have to be a priority going forward. |
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Everyone has to have a first time.
We were terrified on our first visit, sat at the bar drinking tea.
If a single guy approached we kept saying, he's coming over, he's coming over and without the chatty single guys, maybe we wouldn't have returned.
I never felt a jot of sexual excitement, just terror, never played or 2 visits but made up for it since.
Paul was so nervous he kept thinking he wanted a pee and was up and down to the toilet, when a lady smiled at him he almost fainted.
You single guys made our night so we now are always happy to smile, say hello and chat to singles.
Remember, the people who attend these clubs are the same as those people you see in Tesco, some nice, some not so nice some utter pricks, the secret is to learn to say hello and move on.
Lots of people on FAB will never progress anywhere other than forums or chat rooms, that's fine but don't take their advice as it won't be from experience.
Have fun and a wonderful journey, just go for it, it's an adventure.... |
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"Was it as easy as that? Like I don’t really know what I’m expecting if I’m honest with you, so I can go by myself or is that not something people do?
Cheers mate
Ask yourself this, what would happen if you went?
Then ask yourself, what would happen if you never went.
Great advice for all things in life
Then ask which you would prefer."
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"How do I go about this? I’m based in Manchester, can I go by myself or is that strange or? I’m really not clued up about this "
Just go by yourself, a number of couples like ourselves go to clubs looking for single men to enjoy playing with B.
I must also a disclaimer; that as always no one should go to a club thing they will have sex, it may happen or it may not. |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"How do I go about this? I’m based in Manchester, can I go by myself or is that strange or? I’m really not clued up about this "
As someone sId just go. However BE prepared to be grossly overcharged, most ignored and avoided by couples unless you are devastatingly good looking and hung like a donky.
All cynicism aside, I would suggest getting to know someone on here or any other swingers forum and site, then arranging to meet them there. This wY at least you will have someone to talk to. Don't expect anything to happen though just try to take the event for what it is. A very expensive night out with no guaranteed result. |
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over a year ago
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As someone sId just go. However BE prepared to be grossly overcharged, most ignored and avoided by couples unless you are devastatingly good looking and hung like a donky.
All cynicism aside, I would suggest getting to know someone on here or any other swingers forum and site, then arranging to meet them there. This wY at least you will have someone to talk to. Don't expect anything to happen though just try to take the event for what it is. A very expensive night out with no guaranteed result."
“There's a club if you'd like to go,
You could meet somebody who really loves you.
So you go and you stand on your own, and you leave on your own,
And you go home and you cry and you want to die” |
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" A very expensive night out with no guaranteed result."
So is the football
Depends on your idea of a guaranteed result, if meeting lots of like minded people, seeing lots of gorgeous ladies in the finest lingerie and witnessing some absolutely crazy scenes in the play rooms then go check it out. Expect nothing be polite. We don’t always manage to find playmates but have fun talking and getting to know people and relaxing naked in the hot tub.
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