FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swinging Support and Advice > New couple seeks advice
New couple seeks advice
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Hi all we are a new couple seeking some advice we are a bit shy but have gsoh and personality we want to get started into swinging but don't know whether it's best to go to a swingers club first or make/meet friends through here to see if we are going to enjoy this first no doubt we will 
Many thanks
Pete and lize |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ornyGCCouple
over a year ago
Slaithwaite |
Hi guys,
We started with personal meets but always recommend clubs to new people as we personally feel that, as long as you pick a good one, you can just go for a drink and chat with other like minded people and it's really easy to say no thanks as there is no pressure and plenty of choice for you and others.
You can even just drink in the bar for your first visit and get comfortable being in the environment.
Hope that helps or at least gives you another perspective x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hi guys,
We started with personal meets but always recommend clubs to new people as we personally feel that, as long as you pick a good one, you can just go for a drink and chat with other like minded people and it's really easy to say no thanks as there is no pressure and plenty of choice for you and others.
You can even just drink in the bar for your first visit and get comfortable being in the environment.
Hope that helps or at least gives you another perspective x"
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
We would also recommend clubs for first time, if you meet another couple at yours or theirs then if you don't play nobody plays which can add pressure you don't need. In a club you play if you want to, if not then there are plenty of others they can play with.....
BUT the best sex tends to be at home with a small group, it's strangely off-putting as you are approaching an orgasm to hear someone across the room in another play space screaming in orgasm! time it right and it's erotic... but time it wrong and you forget where you were!
So our recommendation is visit a club either alone or perhaps arrange to meet someone at the club. Try it out, and if you find someone you want to play with more, then perhaps invite them to yours another night.
Whatever you do, have fun... that is what this is all about, it doesn't matter so if it's not fun then don't do it.
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Hi all we are a new couple seeking some advice we are a bit shy but have gsoh and personality we want to get started into swinging but don't know whether it's best to go to a swingers club first or make/meet friends through here to see if we are going to enjoy this first no doubt we will
Many thanks
Pete and lize"
Hiya Pete & Lize, well first off welcome to the world of swinging and after 1 week on FAB i bet your eyes are a little wider than they were...
Like others I'd suggest a club, but bearing in mind where you live I'd suggest 1 of 2 clubs to you. They are similar but different.
The first, which I think would be best suited to you for you first experience would be Xtasia in West Brom. The reason I think it is best suited to you is it's a clothed nightclub type of club, so Pete will be in smart casual wear and Lize can dress as sexy as she dares. The club has new owners and has undergone some refurbishment, so it has a good well stocked bar, a large dance area, many social areas and private and public playrooms.
The other club is Chameleons in Darleston, which is a towel club. Now I've not been to this club personally but most towel clubs reqyuire you to get undressed as soon as you enter the building which means in Pete's case he's in a towel or shorts, whereas Lize most ladies in a towel club wear undies, towels aren't that flattering... This club has a wider range of things I believe like a cinema but may be a bit in your face for a first timer, though I'm sure plenty would disagree,
Both clubs have a mixed night on a Friday (males/couples/single ladies) and couples/single ladies only on a Saturday night and both have accomodation close by though that probably won't be needed by you.
I think if you went to Xtasia it would give you the chance to look around and see whats what while chatting to various people couples, singles etc withpout any pressure to join in. However if the urge gets to you, well there's plenty of places to join in and lots of willing people to help you achieve what you have set out in your profile.
Hope this helps you both.
Mark |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"We would also recommend clubs for first time, if you meet another couple at yours or theirs then if you don't play nobody plays which can add pressure you don't need. In a club you play if you want to, if not then there are plenty of others they can play with.....
BUT the best sex tends to be at home with a small group, it's strangely off-putting as you are approaching an orgasm to hear someone across the room in another play space screaming in orgasm! time it right and it's erotic... but time it wrong and you forget where you were!
So our recommendation is visit a club either alone or perhaps arrange to meet someone at the club. Try it out, and if you find someone you want to play with more, then perhaps invite them to yours another night.
Whatever you do, have fun... that is what this is all about, it doesn't matter so if it's not fun then don't do it.
"
Nail on the head. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Hi guys,
We started with personal meets but always recommend clubs to new people as we personally feel that, as long as you pick a good one, you can just go for a drink and chat with other like minded people and it's really easy to say no thanks as there is no pressure and plenty of choice for you and others.
You can even just drink in the bar for your first visit and get comfortable being in the environment.
Hope that helps or at least gives you another perspective x"
This would also be our recommendation. Go on a Couples Only night, as its pretty clear you might be a little nervous and the atmosphere in a venue is strikingly different from a mixed to a couples evening, thats not to say that mixed nights aren't fun, but you want to be comfortable and confident on the scene first. Really good clubs for first timers would be VA, Liberty Elite, Atlantis, La Chambre or Chams, though the latter might be a bit full on for first timers. All of the clubs are good for different reasons. Of them all we would recommend Liberty as the most comfortable enviroment for a nervous first time couple, simply because of the layout and the decor. Nothing is in your face. But any of the clubs above you would be hard pushed to have a bad time at.
Chams and Libs both have accomodation on site, there is a swingers B and B down the road from Atlantis as well.
As Xtasia's seems to be the nearest one to you, adding to Marks comments above, the new owners have done a great job at turning this once flagging club around, with alot of improvements still to come and the hotel is literally meters away, with most of the visiting swingers normally staying on the 7th floor. Its an unusual venue, but still a very good one, so thats not a bad choice either.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
we went to chams for our first taste.nik had never been with a woman.she ended up fucking 5 women and 3 men.
it was a brilliant night.
id recommend going to chams.its a good friendly club with places to get away from it all
go on a sat as the single men on fridays can be a pain if a little shy |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Also wanted to add that there was long standing talk of a Tamworth social, such as meeting up in a pub - it wouldn't have been sexual, but could allow you to chat and get to find some others that you might hit it off with.
Find and stay at your own pace. A lot of people meet socially, to check each other out, before a sexual meet, so you could meet couples/singles for coffee/a drink etc, so that when you do hook up for sex you already know them, probably are more comfortable and eager for it etc. For some that's not needed, as they want to move quickly, so it's horses for courses.
Generally good advice on this thread.
Anyway, welcome to Fab and good luck! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
If you do choose a club be sure to work out what you don't want before you go.
Don't be embarrassed to say no thanks to people, a straight but pleasant statement is always preferable to avoiding the subject and then feeling uncomfortable if you bump into them as the night goes on.
And don't be afraid to chat to lots of people, it doesn't mean you're hitting on them, most will ask in a straightforward manner "would you like to play". Clubs are very social places and if you don't chat you can spend your evening feeling like Norma no mates.
If you are playing then you may get a stroke of your arm/leg, usually by the lady. If you're not interested then a shake of the head will suffice. If you are interested in a couple playing near you then thus is a generally accepted way if showing it. Or a simple "can we join you?".
And don't be afraid to be firm and cleat if someone crosses your boundaries - a hand on a ladies bottom uninvited is not acceptable at any club and reminding people of that fact is not rude. You don't have to yell, but saying "keep your hands to yourself" is certainly not out if order - unless of course the owner of the hand is well fit then calling them cheeky as.you drag them off for a snog is ok too!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Our feelings are we went to club in Aberdeen luckily for us just a show around as people weren't our cup of tea. Maybe we are a bit fussy when wanting to meet attractive sexy people. I would say look through some profiles on the site here and send a friendly email and go from there definitely best meet for a quick social drink first to make sure you gell if so then get down to nitty gritty! Good luck! X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
