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It's still as rude as when you asked 2 weeks ago. No, it's not.
A DM is like junk mail, you didn't ask for it, it's an advert trying to entice you to reply. Very different to an official letter which requires a reply or there will be consequences.
This is the internet, different rules apply. Yeah in person it's rude to ignore people's attempts to talk to you but in person it's unlikely you'd get hundreds of people trying to talk to you at once whilst waving their dicks in your face. |
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"Is it rude not to reply to a dm. Is it rude not to reply to a official letter.
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no it’s not rude at all !
If the official letter needs a reply then yes it would be replied to .
Junk mail that doesn’t ! |
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"Is it rude not to reply to a dm. Is it rude not to reply to a official letter.
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With an approach of that sort buddy you will find your dms will go unread like a percentage of official letters do 
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From a womans point of view.
No one has to reply, no one owes anyone a reply.
I do try to reply even just to say no thanks.
BUT half the time u get abuse back.
So its easier to just delete the ones your not interested in.
Were all adults, if someone doesnt reply take it on the chin, put on ur big boy / girl pants and move on. Simples.
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"From a womans point of view.
No one has to reply, no one owes anyone a reply.
I do try to reply even just to say no thanks.
BUT half the time u get abuse back.
So its easier to just delete the ones your not interested in.
Were all adults, if someone doesnt reply take it on the chin, put on ur big boy / girl pants and move on. Simples.
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This ^^^ a no reply should be taken as a not interested which to be fair most guys accept with the odd exception . |
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"Is it rude not to reply to a dm. Is it rude not to reply to a official letter.
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Re-read the type of messages you send buddy because I’ve just found it to be pushy and actually a little aggressive. I don’t care as I’d bet im a faster runner than you so you wouldn’t catch me, plus even if you did, I’m flexible so I’d manage to wriggle free. But, to females, that pushy style really isn’t welcome.
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over a year ago
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When chatting to female friends on here they can get bombarded with up to hundreds of mail and if I was in that position I'd find it hard reply to all and on a weekly/daily basis they just can't get to them all.
A no reply on most occasions isn't personal and I do respect a thanks but no thanks but it must get boring and tedious doing that a lot and fabs here to compliment our life not be our life and got to respect people do things there own way.
With letters I can't imagine anyone getting the same amount of volume as on here.
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Nah its not rude, it's an acknowledgement of no interest to pursue further communication from the intended recipient & that's an answer as crystal clear as your ever going to get.
Re official letters it would be wise to reply if further action will be taken if not file or spread.
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Just to play devils advocate.
If we take an example that is sometimes used, about not sending dick pics. Its often said sending a dick pic is akin to walking upto soneone in a bar and getting your dick out. Which I agree with 100% unsolicited dick pics are just wrong.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
For the record I accept the no reply means you are not interested. But it can be a bit disheartening to send polite messages with some thought behind them to not even get a no thanks. |
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
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The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
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I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in |
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in"
but should she if she’s not remotely interested in chatting to them ? |
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over a year ago
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
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Why are you paraphrasing my argument?
I already set the terms that online and real life is the same. This idea has not been proposed by me, the idea that online and real life was set buy ladies on fab when they liken dick pics to walking up in a bar and getting your cock out.
So you have to answer the question onnthat context that has been set by the group who the OP has an issue with not replying.
And again for clarification, I am mearly playing devils advocate. |
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in"
OP are you trying to get people to hate you?
I want to retract my argument as devils advocate and have nothing to do with the OP. |
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in"
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in
Ah yes, it's always the woman's fault "
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in
OP are you trying to get people to hate you?
I want to retract my argument as devils advocate and have nothing to do with the OP."
No he isn't, but he refuses to acknowledge that the reason he's not getting meets is a problem at his end, and in his mind we're all stuck up bitches. |
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in
Ah yes, it's always the woman's fault
Well you would eat that apple after god said not to! "
My bad, it just looked so tasty! |
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in
Ah yes, it's always the woman's fault
Well you would eat that apple after god said not to!
My bad, it just looked so tasty! "
I would love to eat you |
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in
Ah yes, it's always the woman's fault
Well you would eat that apple after god said not to!
My bad, it just looked so tasty!
I would love to eat you"
My dude, just no. |
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over a year ago
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Why are you paraphrasing my argument?
I already set the terms that online and real life is the same. This idea has not been proposed by me, the idea that online and real life was set buy ladies on fab when they liken dick pics to walking up in a bar and getting your cock out.
So you have to answer the question onnthat context that has been set by the group who the OP has an issue with not replying.
And again for clarification, I am mearly playing devils advocate. "
Two things this, one, I paraphrased and explained the weakness of your point but still explained as to why it isn’t a practicable or viable point.
Two, I do not have to do anything just because you write words on an open forum.
I do not think you understand the meaning of putting across a devils advocate counter. But it’s Sunday, I’m chilled and having the last of what’s been a good weekend so, il pat you on the head softly, as patronising as possible, and wish you well little one x
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over a year ago
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in
Ah yes, it's always the woman's fault
Well you would eat that apple after god said not to!
My bad, it just looked so tasty! "
To be honest I would have eaten it aswell. |
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Do you get 'no thanks' replies from the men you message OP?
You've mentioned women in this thread but just wondering if it's only women who don't reply to all messages. Or if any other bi men want to chip in and say if men also don't always reply?
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"Do you get 'no thanks' replies from the men you message OP?
You've mentioned women in this thread but just wondering if it's only women who don't reply to all messages. Or if any other bi men want to chip in and say if men also don't always reply?
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I tend to ignore the men who message a ‘hey’.
I’ll get maybe 8-10 a week. And I don’t have time for those.
OP imagine the women who get 80-100 a day.
Ain’t nobody got time for that |
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"Do you get 'no thanks' replies from the men you message OP?
You've mentioned women in this thread but just wondering if it's only women who don't reply to all messages. Or if any other bi men want to chip in and say if men also don't always reply?
I tend to ignore the men who message a ‘hey’.
I’ll get maybe 8-10 a week. And I don’t have time for those.
OP imagine the women who get 80-100 a day.
Ain’t nobody got time for that "
Thanks for enlightening me
The last few times I have replied no thanks to someone, they have kept messaging. I've tried 101 different ways to try run the inbox but they all have pros and cons.
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in"
Why should she put effort in, at all? I try to reply to everyone, even if it's a no, which it always is just now. But, to suggest that if 100 men try to talk to a woman, she should 'put in some effort' and talk to them... Eh, why? If I'm on a night out, I'm trying to enjoy myself, not be polite to strangers who feel they have a God given right to speak to me.
I'm going to suggest the lack of reply from women on here is likely to do with your attitude. Given your response to Leia, it's obvious you see women as a sexual commodity. Not cool. |
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Thanks for enlightening me
The last few times I have replied no thanks to someone, they have kept messaging. I've tried 101 different ways to try run the inbox but they all have pros and cons.
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Best just to read, delete, move on.
Maybe that’s the issue. Haha messages don’t get deleted?
Personally, if I don’t get a reply, that’s it. I get the hint.
Maybe OP wants the messages deleted so it’s a clear ‘no’
Ha
Maybe I’m just stirring the pot?
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over a year ago
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"Is it rude not to reply to a dm. Is it rude not to reply to a official letter.
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I ahould have asked this to begin with, why do you think a DM is similar to an official letter? |
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"Is it rude not to reply to a dm. Is it rude not to reply to a official letter.
I ahould have asked this to begin with, why do you think a DM is similar to an official letter?"
Good point.
I've never had a letter from the Chairman of the Neighbourhood Watch asking if I'd like to watch him wank. |
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in
Why should she put effort in, at all? I try to reply to everyone, even if it's a no, which it always is just now. But, to suggest that if 100 men try to talk to a woman, she should 'put in some effort' and talk to them... Eh, why? If I'm on a night out, I'm trying to enjoy myself, not be polite to strangers who feel they have a God given right to speak to me.
I'm going to suggest the lack of reply from women on here is likely to do with your attitude. Given your response to Leia, it's obvious you see women as a sexual commodity. Not cool."
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in
Why should she put effort in, at all? I try to reply to everyone, even if it's a no, which it always is just now. But, to suggest that if 100 men try to talk to a woman, she should 'put in some effort' and talk to them... Eh, why? If I'm on a night out, I'm trying to enjoy myself, not be polite to strangers who feel they have a God given right to speak to me.
I'm going to suggest the lack of reply from women on here is likely to do with your attitude. Given your response to Leia, it's obvious you see women as a sexual commodity. Not cool."
It was me that used the analogy of a night out because its used when talking about dick pics being sent as first messages.
No that I disagree with not sending dick pics or not replying to messages.
But it could be argued that if you expect people to accept the analogy of tge dick pics you have to accept the extension of that analogy. This is pure from a devils advocate perspective.
My own opinion is, if something annoys anyone that much, justvleave the site, unless they get off on complaining about it. Which very well could be the case for many people.
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No it's not rude. we ignore a huge number of messages on here, because either the sender has not read our profile or they are clearly message carpet bombing numerous people with the same cut and paste message. We get the same people sending the same message time after time. Even when you respond and politely say we are not interested, these people still send the same message. |
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"No it's not rude. we ignore a huge number of messages on here, because either the sender has not read our profile or they are clearly message carpet bombing numerous people with the same cut and paste message. We get the same people sending the same message time after time. Even when you respond and politely say we are not interested, these people still send the same message."
I wouldn't have the patience, I would just block them if they arent getting the message.
Would it be feasible to remove users who repeated pester other users with multiple messages after being told no thanks?
Because it does seem to be an ongoing issue. |
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"Is it rude not to reply to a dm. Is it rude not to reply to a official letter.
An official letter from whom? Has the court been in touch again?"
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It's not rude. It's a well known rule on fab that no answer is a polite no.
Sadly a 2 dimensional site like this can be cruel but we have life outside this and cannot reply to everyone.
Equally it is so obvious when people do not read the profile they are messaging....if they did they would see what we are looking for |
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over a year ago
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in"
If someone spoke to me in a pub using the same language in some of the messages then they’d be wearing my drink! |
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in
If someone spoke to me in a pub using the same language in some of the messages then they’d be wearing my drink! "
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in"
And this is an example if why a return polite message of disinterest in chatting turned into 3 hrs back and forth as to why not. Being pushy and entitled is not attractive.
Yip I was bored for a bit and wondered how many ways it was possible to say no.... |
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in
And this is an example if why a return polite message of disinterest in chatting turned into 3 hrs back and forth as to why not. Being pushy and entitled is not attractive.
Yip I was bored for a bit and wondered how many ways it was possible to say no.... "
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By *essaWoman
over a year ago
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Not rude AT ALL! I get loads of messages, lots of which say “hi how are you?” And there’s no photos, nothing. I genuinely don’t have time to respond to them all. Plus I actually think just ignoring it is better than explaining why I’m not interested! If you don’t get an answer, take it as a no and move on. I don’t like to hurt people by explaining it’s a no. And for what it’s worth, any time I have engaged with someone to say “thanks but no” they take it as an invitation to bombard me with more messages! |
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in
And this is an example if why a return polite message of disinterest in chatting turned into 3 hrs back and forth as to why not. Being pushy and entitled is not attractive.
Yip I was bored for a bit and wondered how many ways it was possible to say no....
I would have blocked and reported them. Did you try fuck off you weirdo?"
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in
If someone spoke to me in a pub using the same language in some of the messages then they’d be wearing my drink!
I wouldn't waste a drink on them. "
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in
And this is an example if why a return polite message of disinterest in chatting turned into 3 hrs back and forth as to why not. Being pushy and entitled is not attractive.
Yip I was bored for a bit and wondered how many ways it was possible to say no....
I would have blocked and reported them. Did you try fuck off you weirdo?
I am never so uncouth as to utter such profanities "
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in
And this is an example if why a return polite message of disinterest in chatting turned into 3 hrs back and forth as to why not. Being pushy and entitled is not attractive.
Yip I was bored for a bit and wondered how many ways it was possible to say no....
I would have blocked and reported them. Did you try fuck off you weirdo?
I am never so uncouth as to utter such profanities
Let me do it for you "
Yer fine. I can look after myself. I'm an independent woman ya know |
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"Just to play devils advocate.
So if we use a similar argument, if a guy walked upto you in a bar and spoke to you in a polite way, would you just ignore him?
The point here though is that online is very different to an in-person situation. About 3/4’s of the men that dm women here wouldn’t approach them in a bar, just wouldn’t do it.
But for the sake of it, say they do and a female gets 100+ guys go up to speak to her when she’s in a pub for 2-3 hours, it would physically be impossible to speak to them all.
I disagree, she could gob of to all if she but her drink down, and put some effort in
And this is an example if why a return polite message of disinterest in chatting turned into 3 hrs back and forth as to why not. Being pushy and entitled is not attractive.
Yip I was bored for a bit and wondered how many ways it was possible to say no....
I would have blocked and reported them. Did you try fuck off you weirdo?
I am never so uncouth as to utter such profanities
Let me do it for you
Yer fine. I can look after myself. I'm an independent woman ya know "
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"Here's an example, a single male has just sent me this:
'Can I suck your asssss'
Why should I respond to that?
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over a year ago
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A DM on a swingers site isn't remotely the same as an official letter for a start. No reply means not interested on here, that is explained clearly in the site FAQs. An official letter wouldn't automatically qualify for a reply either. |
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"Here's an example, a single male has just sent me this:
'Can I suck your asssss'
Why should I respond to that?
Depends .are they hot .??
Couldn't tell you, 4 cock pics and thats it "
Gutted. Was hoping this would unfold a bit more. |
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"It's still as rude as when you asked 2 weeks ago. No, it's not.
A DM is like junk mail, you didn't ask for it, it's an advert trying to entice you to reply. Very different to an official letter which requires a reply or there will be consequences.
Did I ask 2 weeks ago
This is the internet, different rules apply. Yeah in person it's rude to ignore people's attempts to talk to you but in person it's unlikely you'd get hundreds of people trying to talk to you at once whilst waving their dicks in your face. "
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Some folk say that charging to use the site would get rid of a lot of problems such as the fact many don’t understand the site rule on a non response being a polite no thanks but I like the fact the site is free and easy to use. I also don’t think it would help that much. Yes, one can use ones filters but then one misses out on chatting to some very lovely people.
I wonder if having a simple questionnaire with questions such as “What should a non response to your message be taken as?” might at least raise awareness and improve the “fab experience” for everyone. |
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"You've typed in the middle of the quote there OP?
OP do you have a pal called Ernie?
I was trying to set someone up with a muppet joke
Bert and Ernie was Sesame Street "
Yup. He's Kermitted a crime against comedy there. |
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I honestly fail to see what is gained from having a 'no thanks' reply rather than your message deleted?
It doesn't change the outcome.
Or is it when it's read and left sitting without deletion or reply?
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"You've typed in the middle of the quote there OP?
OP do you have a pal called Ernie?
I was trying to set someone up with a muppet joke
Bert and Ernie was Sesame Street
Yup. He's Kermitted a crime against comedy there. "
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"I honestly fail to see what is gained from having a 'no thanks' reply rather than your message deleted?
It doesn't change the outcome.
Or is it when it's read and left sitting without deletion or reply?
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That one always gets me… i usually got back 3/4 weeks and have a look and if its not deleted i try again and if they dont respond i usually block them myself to stop me accidentally sending another message and wasting my own time…
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"You've typed in the middle of the quote there OP?
OP do you have a pal called Ernie?
I was trying to set someone up with a muppet joke
Bert and Ernie was Sesame Street "
Don't be a grouch! |
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Yup. He's Kermitted a crime against comedy there.
This made me sick in my mouth a bit. So worth it
Sounds like you need to work on your gag reflex.
That almost sounds like an offer to help "
See Bert |
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Yup. He's Kermitted a crime against comedy there.
This made me sick in my mouth a bit. So worth it
Sounds like you need to work on your gag reflex.
That almost sounds like an offer to help
See Bert "
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Yup. He's Kermitted a crime against comedy there.
This made me sick in my mouth a bit. So worth it
Sounds like you need to work on your gag reflex.
That almost sounds like an offer to help
See Bert
What about me "
Sorry -
See Bert or Dr When. |
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Yup. He's Kermitted a crime against comedy there.
This made me sick in my mouth a bit. So worth it
Sounds like you need to work on your gag reflex.
That almost sounds like an offer to help
See Bert
What about me
Sorry -
See Bert or Dr When. "
Thats more like it! You know me I always like to be included.
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Yup. He's Kermitted a crime against comedy there.
This made me sick in my mouth a bit. So worth it
Sounds like you need to work on your gag reflex.
That almost sounds like an offer to help
See Bert
What about me
Sorry -
See Bert or Dr When.
Thats more like it! You know me I always like to be included.
Hate to feel left out "
Haha well lucky me. Such supportive people In Here. |
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"I would chip in woman or cpls that are getting 80/100 messages a day need to use their filters "
Lots of people miss that this is a reason not to reply.
When you put filters on anyone you’ve communicated with can bypass it. Even if all you’ve done is said “no thanks”
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"Some folk say that charging to use the site would get rid of a lot of problems such as the fact many don’t understand the site rule on a non response being a polite no thanks but I like the fact the site is free and easy to use. I also don’t think it would help that much. Yes, one can use ones filters but then one misses out on chatting to some very lovely people.
I wonder if having a simple questionnaire with questions such as “What should a non response to your message be taken as?” might at least raise awareness and improve the “fab experience” for everyone. "
I think charging more/charging everyone would make the site worse.
Can you imagine the entitlement of some if they were paying for the site? It would be off the scale - akin to some of the guys who end up fuming when they pay to go to a club but then don’t end up with queues of women offering them sex. |
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"Some folk say that charging to use the site would get rid of a lot of problems such as the fact many don’t understand the site rule on a non response being a polite no thanks but I like the fact the site is free and easy to use. I also don’t think it would help that much. Yes, one can use ones filters but then one misses out on chatting to some very lovely people.
I wonder if having a simple questionnaire with questions such as “What should a non response to your message be taken as?” might at least raise awareness and improve the “fab experience” for everyone.
I think charging more/charging everyone would make the site worse.
Can you imagine the entitlement of some if they were paying for the site? It would be off the scale - akin to some of the guys who end up fuming when they pay to go to a club but then don’t end up with queues of women offering them sex."
To be clear, yes that was what I said. I don’t think charging is the answer. Good point on the entitlement card though. |
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Just answered a message to meet in a hotel in town from a guy from London.. says its a no from me read my profile...he answered back ..your too fat anyway and blocks me so there's why we don't bother answering |
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"Just answered a message to meet in a hotel in town from a guy from London.. says its a no from me read my profile...he answered back ..your too fat anyway and blocks me so there's why we don't bother answering "
He sounds like a right t**t! Ps you're anything but fat x |
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"Just answered a message to meet in a hotel in town from a guy from London.. says its a no from me read my profile...he answered back ..your too fat anyway and blocks me so there's why we don't bother answering
He sounds like a right t**t! Ps you're anything but fat x"
Totally agree  |
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"Just answered a message to meet in a hotel in town from a guy from London.. says its a no from me read my profile...he answered back ..your too fat anyway and blocks me so there's why we don't bother answering "
The sign of a bruised and fragile ego.
Or a complete walloper.
Probably both. |
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