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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am considering training and working in one of the medical fields; nurse, midwife, ODP etc. and wondered what peoples reactions would be to a man in one of those professions?
Are people as relaxed about male midwives as they are about female police officers?
Would a male nurse raise any eyebrows in the 21st Century?
Is it still considered unusual to cross traditional gender barriers now?
What do you all think? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can't see how a male midwife and a female police officer are comparable."
I just meant in the fact that they both cross traditional gender roles in the workplace, not the job itself; women had to fight for equality in order to be taken seriously in what was seen as typically male role  |
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To be honest in this day and age joe public shouldnt batter an eyelid, but some things, like midwifery, will take time to change peoples minds.
Most male nurses go into the mental health sector. That and A&E.
When I had my last baby, there was one male midwife and he was lovely. But be prepared to get the odd refusal, from women or their other halves.
When I was nursing on a general ward, I had a few guys refusing me and demending a male nurse! So its all swings and roundabouts.
If its something you really want to do. Go far it. Wish you all the luck in the world x |
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"I am considering training and working in one of the medical fields; nurse, midwife, ODP etc. and wondered what peoples reactions would be to a man in one of those professions?
Are people as relaxed about male midwives as they are about female police officers?
Would a male nurse raise any eyebrows in the 21st Century?
Is it still considered unusual to cross traditional gender barriers now?
What do you all think?"
Does that mean you can put professional on ya profile
On a serious note, some people would not be comfortable with a male midwife but I was that high on the crap they give you, I let a whole bunch of students in to watch the male registrar stitch me up - and he did - never been right since  |
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i remember being asked if i was ok with a male midwife, i was fine, but there is an element of experience you can clearly never share. However since you can now go into midwifery and healthvisiting without being an SEN first, you will be in the same boat as many of the women there...
Like the idiot trainee health visitor who asked me if the noises my youngest made breastfeeding were normal
You cant be worse than her |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How can you be called a 'midwife' when you're a bloke? Surely it would be 'midhusband' - don't have the same ring to it I think.  "
No, apparently it is from the saxon; 'mid' means 'with' and 'wife' means 'woman' so the literal translation is 'with woman'..it is a description of what they do rather than gender centric so a male midwife would really just be a midwife. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i remember being asked if i was ok with a male midwife, i was fine, but there is an element of experience you can clearly never share. However since you can now go into midwifery and healthvisiting without being an SEN first, you will be in the same boat as many of the women there...
Like the idiot trainee health visitor who asked me if the noises my youngest made breastfeeding were normal
You cant be worse than her "
Thanks and although I can see where you are coming from, there is no guarantee that a female would have had the same experience that you would have had and so she may not know either...I would hope that I would not make mistakes like that but you never know lol
Did you have a male midwife then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There are plenty of bloody good male nurses around, and you don't get called Sister if you get a promotion.
You will have a harder time as a male midwife - many patients will refuse you on religious grounds, and ward managers tend to try and get female staff in greater numbers.
I can thoroughly recommend the ambulance service |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There are plenty of bloody good male nurses around, and you don't get called Sister if you get a promotion.
You will have a harder time as a male midwife - many patients will refuse you on religious grounds, and ward managers tend to try and get female staff in greater numbers.
I can thoroughly recommend the ambulance service "
Thanks, I appreciate the recommendation Jupiter  |
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"i remember being asked if i was ok with a male midwife, i was fine, but there is an element of experience you can clearly never share. However since you can now go into midwifery and healthvisiting without being an SEN first, you will be in the same boat as many of the women there...
Like the idiot trainee health visitor who asked me if the noises my youngest made breastfeeding were normal
You cant be worse than her
Thanks and although I can see where you are coming from, there is no guarantee that a female would have had the same experience that you would have had and so she may not know either...I would hope that I would not make mistakes like that but you never know lol
Did you have a male midwife then? "
One of the midwives on the ward was male, for delivery no, but i said i was happy to... he didnt seem to be treated any differently. He was quite fit too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My brother went into nursing in his 30's after being made redundant from Rover, and after spending time helping to care for our Dad who was terminally ill.
He certainly found his vocation
He started as a mature student nurse and his single minded dedication fast tracked him through his training.
He was student nurse of the year 3yrs running and when he qualified he continued to progress and was Charge Nurse/Sister in double quick time.
He moved to London to work in a Private Hospital and now, only 12yrs after choosing a new career, he is Assistant Director of Nursing at a Private Hospital.
So yes, you can be accepted, and if you work hard you can see what can be achieved, just like my kid brother  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i remember being asked if i was ok with a male midwife, i was fine, but there is an element of experience you can clearly never share. However since you can now go into midwifery and healthvisiting without being an SEN first, you will be in the same boat as many of the women there...
Like the idiot trainee health visitor who asked me if the noises my youngest made breastfeeding were normal
You cant be worse than her
Thanks and although I can see where you are coming from, there is no guarantee that a female would have had the same experience that you would have had and so she may not know either...I would hope that I would not make mistakes like that but you never know lol
Did you have a male midwife then?
One of the midwives on the ward was male, for delivery no, but i said i was happy to... he didnt seem to be treated any differently. He was quite fit too "
Thats a refreshing attitude to see...I would have thought you would have been too busy to notice if he was attractive   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My brother went into nursing in his 30's after being made redundant from Rover, and after spending time helping to care for our Dad who was terminally ill.
He certainly found his vocation
He started as a mature student nurse and his single minded dedication fast tracked him through his training.
He was student nurse of the year 3yrs running and when he qualified he continued to progress and was Charge Nurse/Sister in double quick time.
He moved to London to work in a Private Hospital and now, only 12yrs after choosing a new career, he is Assistant Director of Nursing at a Private Hospital.
So yes, you can be accepted, and if you work hard you can see what can be achieved, just like my kid brother "
That is really inspiring! It's that kind of example that I find fuels my passion to get into that profession |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is only one one thing that limits a person and that is themselves.
If you know its what you want and you feel that you can be an asset to others and yourself, DO IT!!
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By *waymanMan
over a year ago
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"i remember being asked if i was ok with a male midwife, i was fine, but there is an element of experience you can clearly never share. However since you can now go into midwifery and healthvisiting without being an SEN first, you will be in the same boat as many of the women there...
Like the idiot trainee health visitor who asked me if the noises my youngest made breastfeeding were normal
You cant be worse than her "
Had a male health visitor when the bairns were younger - he was brilliant, but full of book learning... |
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By *annGentMan
over a year ago
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Love my job !!!
I left school and joined the Royal Navy to be a weapons engineer.
Chucked out following back surgery, and have not looked back since I started my nurse training !
Usual fun when asked what I do !
"I'm a nurse"
"Oh, a male nurse ?"
"No, I'm a nurse !"
"But you're a man !!"
"very observant !"
Have met a few folks who automatically have you down as homosexual, sometimes I'll play on it, having been in the Navy !!
But less so these days.
What stereotyped barriers that used to be around, are hardly there, if at all.
Difficult for me to say 100% though, as I work in a very specialised field.
Go for it ! |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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"trust me when going through child birth you dont really care if its a man or woman delivering the baby you just want it out haha "
Good point. But when I was induced I went to the delivery suite to see a gorgeous, slim, blonde, fake tanned and not the typical midwife look about her and was put off at first, feeling fatter and uglier than normal, but she was lovely as was the midwife who took over. I wouldnt refuse a male midwife so long as he had the compassion and whatever it takes to get any baby safely out. I love watching One Born Every Minute and see the great midwives who have never laboured before still doing a great ob.
If you have the heart and mindset go for it! And I wish you luck in whatever you choose. |
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