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over a year ago
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"Yes but whenyou have loved someone and now they wont talk to you and if you try and ask why, they dont answer and then you are afraid you may become a stalker"
In that case as much as it may be hard i'd say you have to respect their wishes and give them time
Maybe once that happens, the person will be able to talk to you but pressing the issue isnt going to do you any good sadly |
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"Yes but whenyou have loved someone and now they wont talk to you and if you try and ask why, they dont answer and then you are afraid you may become a stalker"
Step away from the binoculars.
Seriously ..... It's a legacy from your childhood.
You can't have it. Accept it.
The sun really will rise tomorrow.
The earth will turn.
You will pay taxes and die eventually.
It's over. Do something fun. |
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"Yes but whenyou have loved someone and now they wont talk to you and if you try and ask why, they dont answer and then you are afraid you may become a stalker"
In which case move on... Itll hurt till you get the next one...
Let it go... Or waste time trying for something you probably wont get... |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I undestand that,but god im in so much pain,cant think straight ,sleep or hold a thought,and im not a kid"
I think the formula for getting over someone is to divide the time you were together by 2.
I found cider and chinese food helps. |
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"I undestand that,but god im in so much pain,cant think straight ,sleep or hold a thought,and im not a kid"
i take it yiu are not with them then...
i would say what you are feeling is not love,its need, yes it hurts now,but you have to recognise what hole that need is filling.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can i just say that when you love somebody so much it hurts what can you do?"
If you are actually with them them be happy about it
If you arnt then do something about it
If its right, it and you will find a way
Whats for ya wont pass by ya xx |
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"I undestand that,but god im in so much pain,cant think straight ,sleep or hold a thought,and im not a kid
I think the formula for getting over someone is to divide the time you were together by 2.
I found cider and chinese food helps."
Lager & 1 night stands did it for me! Done after 3 weeks! All fucked up now!  |
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"I undestand that,but god im in so much pain,cant think straight ,sleep or hold a thought,and im not a kid"
If it hurts it's rejection.
Love does not hurt.
You will recover. The truly ill will not. |
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"Yes but whenyou have loved someone and now they wont talk to you and if you try and ask why, they dont answer and then you are afraid you may become a stalker"
Arr right i missed this bit
Better to have loved and lost.........etc
The only thing you can do is back off and enjoy the memories
Ya never know life has a habit of turning things round when you least expect it xx |
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I've always believed that love has little to do with need.
I also totally believe that love itself does not hurt.
Love and 'want' are two different things. Right now you are hurting because you cannot have something you want. Try asking yourself, honestly, why you want something the other person clearly does not want.
When you ask yourself the question and analyse your honest answer try not to let 'love' muddy the waters, love has a way of making you see fantasy instead of reality. Love also has a habit of confusing the brain, it turns 'wants' into 'needs'.
I hope that by analysing your wants and accepting you cannot have them with that person this will help you to seperate your 'love' and help you realise these wants are not needs.
The 'wants' that you have are out there with another person, they won't be based on need, and because hopefully they'll want what you want, the love will be true.
Want is a selfish emotion, love is not. Don't try and grab or hold onto love, you'll just push it further away.
Close that chapter on your life, put away that book, brush yourself off and go to a new bookshop.....there's loads out there.
Good luck mate.
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"I've always believed that love has little to do with need.
I also totally believe that love itself does not hurt.
Love and 'want' are two different things. Right now you are hurting because you cannot have something you want. Try asking yourself, honestly, why you want something the other person clearly does not want.
When you ask yourself the question and analyse your honest answer try not to let 'love' muddy the waters, love has a way of making you see fantasy instead of reality. Love also has a habit of confusing the brain, it turns 'wants' into 'needs'.
I hope that by analysing your wants and accepting you cannot have them with that person this will help you to seperate your 'love' and help you realise these wants are not needs.
The 'wants' that you have are out there with another person, they won't be based on need, and because hopefully they'll want what you want, the love will be true.
Want is a selfish emotion, love is not. Don't try and grab or hold onto love, you'll just push it further away.
Close that chapter on your life, put away that book, brush yourself off and go to a new bookshop.....there's loads out there.
Good luck mate.
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"I've always believed that love has little to do with need.
I also totally believe that love itself does not hurt.
Love and 'want' are two different things. Right now you are hurting because you cannot have something you want. Try asking yourself, honestly, why you want something the other person clearly does not want.
When you ask yourself the question and analyse your honest answer try not to let 'love' muddy the waters, love has a way of making you see fantasy instead of reality. Love also has a habit of confusing the brain, it turns 'wants' into 'needs'.
I hope that by analysing your wants and accepting you cannot have them with that person this will help you to seperate your 'love' and help you realise these wants are not needs.
The 'wants' that you have are out there with another person, they won't be based on need, and because hopefully they'll want what you want, the love will be true.
Want is a selfish emotion, love is not. Don't try and grab or hold onto love, you'll just push it further away.
Close that chapter on your life, put away that book, brush yourself off and go to a new bookshop.....there's loads out there.
Good luck mate.
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"Yes but whenyou have loved someone and now they wont talk to you and if you try and ask why, they dont answer and then you are afraid you may become a stalker"
Relationships are like shopping for clothes - you try a few on before finding one that fits perfectly. You might really like the first one you try but it just doesn't fit you as it should so you have to put it back on the peg and look for something else. It doesn't stop you liking that first one though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Interestingly, you don't say whether she is on here or not, and your profile shows verifications from couples only. Please don't say you've fallen for the wife of someone you've played with.  |
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not sure love should ever hurt though. Am reminded of my favorite all time quote.
Immature love says i want you because i need you, mature love says i need you because i want you.