I'm mainly looking for women's perspectives on this topic.
Let's say you're contacted via a text app by someone who's name you don't recognise. They say they had been in contact with you a long time ago but won't say who they are, if you've met, or where they had initially made contact with you through. They seem to find the situation funny and maybe a little cute... do you share their opinion? Or do you find it creepy and unsettling? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would find it creepy
But then my mind would starting ticking and thinking maybe it could be a guy I’ve met who I thought wasn’t single and it’s his partner fishing
So I wound instantly block them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would be mad. If he doesn't want to tell me who he is, why did he send a message? Just to have fun seeing how I'm trying to guess his identity? I would just ignore him after a few messages just to stay calm 
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Can see it might be "humourous" if it were a handful of messages in quick succession before a big reveal along the lines of "It's me XXXX did you not recognise my number?" and from someone you knew quite well but other than that I'm not sure there's any way of looking at it other than it being creepy and unsettling - particularly if it's carried on over a period of time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm mainly looking for women's perspectives on this topic.
Let's say you're contacted via a text app by someone who's name you don't recognise. They say they had been in contact with you a long time ago but won't say who they are, if you've met, or where they had initially made contact with you through. They seem to find the situation funny and maybe a little cute... do you share their opinion? Or do you find it creepy and unsettling?"
Block!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d give them one go at coming clean about who they are. Then I’d turn off what’s app notifications and I gnore any further messages. They’d be bound to tell you then, as it’s no fun is it , if the other person isn’t replying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm mainly looking for women's perspectives on this topic.
Let's say you're contacted via a text app by someone who's name you don't recognise. They say they had been in contact with you a long time ago but won't say who they are, if you've met, or where they had initially made contact with you through. They seem to find the situation funny and maybe a little cute... do you share their opinion? Or do you find it creepy and unsettling?"
Id say creepy...especially if they won't tell you where they know you from..
That happened to me a few months back.. they wouldn't say where they knew me from so i just blocked the number |
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"Can see it might be "humourous" if it were a handful of messages in quick succession before a big reveal along the lines of "It's me XXXX did you not recognise my number?" and from someone you knew quite well but other than that I'm not sure there's any way of looking at it other than it being creepy and unsettling - particularly if it's carried on over a period of time."
A quick reveal from a good friend I'd somehow lost touch with would be nice... I can see how that might be a pleasant surprise. But I've experienced this twice now, and its never been the case.
One guy got quite annoyed when I said I found it creepy, he took it as an insult and then blocked me lol.
I have a feeling these were guys who took my contact info from group chats that were set up prior to events in the past, and probably never spoke to directly.
I just wondered if I was being oversensitive in finding someone's refusal to say who they were or how they happened to have your contact info creepy.
They may or may not be on Fab. I've no idea unless anyone tells me otherwise, but just thought that guys who do this kind of thing and think its funny might think twice if they were to see how women perceive this kind of stealth messaging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depending o the tone Id think they were either
hitting the Chardonnay too hard and d*unkenly thought it was hilarious,
are a former trivial contact who now wants to revive something and has way overestimated their impact on your consciousness or, and in my opinion most likely,
The suspicious partner of a former contact clumsily trying to get you to reveal who you are and the nature of the contact.
I’d kill it off swiftly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d put their number into google, Facebook and WhatsApp searches and 99% of the time you’ll find out exactly who they are.
^ and that’s why our numbers aren’t given out on here |
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I don't give out my phone number either. I can actually count the number of people from the swinging world whom I'm close enough to and trust enough to give my number to on one hand. This happened via kik, which is an app I've used intermittently for over 5 years as an alternative to giving out my phone number, and aside from participating in the occasional pre-event kik group, I'm almost as precious these days about giving my kik address to anyone as my phone number.
Thanks to everyone who gave their perspectives. Hopefully they might have the desired effect and make guys (or girls if they do it too!) realise just how creepy stealth texting can be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I definitely would play with that person...
Telling all sort of fantastic story abt my cousin Peter, the friend of my brother Paul who lost one of his leg in a roundabout |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm mainly looking for women's perspectives on this topic.
Let's say you're contacted via a text app by someone who's name you don't recognise. They say they had been in contact with you a long time ago but won't say who they are, if you've met, or where they had initially made contact with you through. They seem to find the situation funny and maybe a little cute... do you share their opinion? Or do you find it creepy and unsettling?"
I've had this twice on WhatsApp
I asked them who they were and how they knew me. They didn't tell me. I got bored and said well I don't know you so just delete me x |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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If they didnt tell me how they knew me in the first couple of messages I'd ignore them. Possibly block.
I don't give out my mo no anymore as I got a disturbing message how you describe. However a quick Google and a trail to fb and I found out who it was....someone is met for a social 2 years prior!!! |
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Very very creepy 
