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over a year ago
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"So it seems quite a lot of girls like married men
How can you tell OP? "
They have a look, predatory and hungry, like a cougar ready to strike....apparently, according to the Internet, so it must be true 
Peach x |
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over a year ago
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I loved myself a married guy when I was single, although I met for socials I never actually went and further than a kiss. However I do get very turned on at the thought of women wanting Ads just because of the ring in March (well that and his sexy body etc etc lol).
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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"So it seems quite a lot of girls like married men
How can you tell OP?
They have a look, predatory and hungry, like a cougar ready to strike....apparently, according to the Internet, so it must be true
Peach x"
Is that the girls or the men?  |
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"So it seems quite a lot of girls like married men
How can you tell OP?
They have a look, predatory and hungry, like a cougar ready to strike....apparently, according to the Internet, so it must be true
Peach x
Is that the girls or the men? "
The men  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So it seems quite a lot of girls like married men
How can you tell OP?
They have a look, predatory and hungry, like a cougar ready to strike....apparently, according to the Internet, so it must be true
Peach x
Is that the girls or the men? "
Oh the married men loving women have the primal look the married man's look is more furtive and disbelieving....
Peach x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some girls do
Some girls don't.
Some girls will
Some girls won't
Is this a song?
Yep
Some girls need a lot of loving
And uh some girls don’t.
Racey c1979-1980"
Bloody song is going round my head now  |
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"Some girls do
Some girls don't.
Some girls will
Some girls won't
Is this a song?
Yep
Some girls need a lot of loving
And uh some girls don’t.
Racey c1979-1980
Bloody song is going round my head now "
Haha - earworm! |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
Hull |
"So it seems quite a lot of girls like married men
How can you tell OP?
They have a look, predatory and hungry, like a cougar ready to strike....apparently, according to the Internet, so it must be true
Peach x
Is that the girls or the men?
Oh the married men loving women have the primal look the married man's look is more furtive and disbelieving....
Peach x"
I’ll be sure to watch out for both |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"So it seems quite a lot of girls like married men "
This is certainly not true and you're being provocative. As has been said, I guess some married women would prefer married guys as it's more likely to be mutually NSA.
I've had men lie to me that they are single and so I've now stop worrying about it. As it is just for a bit of sex, I sometimes think its no point checking. The marriage contract is between them so it should be him who is in breach of contract - not me.
I've had a wife phone me up once (he told me he was single). Of course she called me every sexist derogatory name there was. I felt her anger and so I kept quiet and let her vent her spleen. I then politely explained her husband lied to me and respectfully suggested her anger should be directed at him instead. He was the one who promised to be faithful. The call actually ended amicably so I hope they can managed his infidelity within their marriage... I know some married couples do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some girls do
Some girls don't.
Some girls will
Some girls won't
Is this a song?
Yep
Some girls need a lot of loving
And uh some girls don’t.
Racey c1979-1980"
Thank you. I thought I'd heard this before.  |
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"Some girls do
Some girls don't.
Some girls will
Some girls won't
Is this a song?
Yep
Some girls need a lot of loving
And uh some girls don’t.
Racey c1979-1980
Thank you. I thought I'd heard this before. "
I actually bought it on a single...umm...that’s not cool is it...off to hide my head in shame. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's the shiny gold ring on the finger. We can't help pecking at it like enchanted magpies.
Get ye gone, ye harlot "
But a single man's ring holds no delights. Hold out your finger |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's the shiny gold ring on the finger. We can't help pecking at it like enchanted magpies.
Get ye gone, ye harlot
But a single man's ring holds no delights. Hold out your finger "
Pull My finger joke? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some girls do
Some girls don't.
Some girls will
Some girls won't
Is this a song?
Yep
Some girls need a lot of loving
And uh some girls don’t.
Racey c1979-1980
Thank you. I thought I'd heard this before.
I actually bought it on a single...umm...that’s not cool is it...off to hide my head in shame."
I could beat that embarrassment, thankfully I just stream bad songs now.  |
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It's horses for courses.
I've met some that have no problem with it, I've spoken with others who say 'go home to your wife', I've met others who are unsure and undecided (I know which way I'd prefer they decide - fingers crossed  ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's the shiny gold ring on the finger. We can't help pecking at it like enchanted magpies.
Get ye gone, ye harlot
But a single man's ring holds no delights. Hold out your finger
Pull My finger joke? "
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"Some girls do
Some girls don't.
Some girls will
Some girls won't
Is this a song?
Yep
Some girls need a lot of loving
And uh some girls don’t.
Racey c1979-1980
Thank you. I thought I'd heard this before.
I actually bought it on a single...umm...that’s not cool is it...off to hide my head in shame.
I could beat that embarrassment, thankfully I just stream bad songs now. "
Can you beat Gary Glitter and The Wombles? |
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"It's the shiny gold ring on the finger. We can't help pecking at it like enchanted magpies.
Get ye gone, ye harlot
But a single man's ring holds no delights. Hold out your finger
Pull My finger joke? "
Go on then, explain, I’m a bit fick |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So it seems quite a lot of girls like married men "
Maybe the women who meet married men just go quietly about their own business without putting threads up to point out the fact they do?
I'll also have my first grump of 2018. Girls? Men? Surely it is women and men, or girls and boys? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some girls do
Some girls don't.
Some girls will
Some girls won't
Is this a song?
Yep
Some girls need a lot of loving
And uh some girls don’t.
Racey c1979-1980
Thank you. I thought I'd heard this before.
I actually bought it on a single...umm...that’s not cool is it...off to hide my head in shame.
I could beat that embarrassment, thankfully I just stream bad songs now.
Can you beat Gary Glitter and The Wombles?"
Jive bunny and the mastermixers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some girls do
Some girls don't.
Some girls will
Some girls won't
Is this a song?
Yep
Some girls need a lot of loving
And uh some girls don’t.
Racey c1979-1980
Thank you. I thought I'd heard this before.
I actually bought it on a single...umm...that’s not cool is it...off to hide my head in shame.
I could beat that embarrassment, thankfully I just stream bad songs now.
Can you beat Gary Glitter and The Wombles?
Jive bunny and the mastermixers "
The Osmonds and Bay city Rollers x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So much emphasis on the guys cheating and not on the guys wives not giving them what they need..
Old saying full belly and an empty sack...
If a married woman doesn't feed her man's needs then why is the guy at fault for
"eating at another table"
It's basic human nature we crave sex
If it's not given in a relationship we sure as hell ain't gonna live a life of torment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So much emphasis on the guys cheating and not on the guys wives not giving them what they need..
Old saying full belly and an empty sack...
If a married woman doesn't feed her man's needs then why is the guy at fault for
"eating at another table"
It's basic human nature we crave sex
If it's not given in a relationship we sure as hell ain't gonna live a life of torment."
Interesting to look at it that way. |
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"So much emphasis on the guys cheating and not on the guys wives not giving them what they need..
Old saying full belly and an empty sack...
If a married woman doesn't feed her man's needs then why is the guy at fault for
"eating at another table"
It's basic human nature we crave sex
If it's not given in a relationship we sure as hell ain't gonna live a life of torment."
I wouldn't have put it quite the way you have but there's a lot of condemnation of men (who say) they're on here because they're in a sexless marriage. Normally when people get into a relationship they expect it to be sexual and monogamous unless negotiated otherwise. Why do we expect people to keep to one side of the bargain only and have less sympathy for the person who goes elsewhere for sex? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So much emphasis on the guys cheating and not on the guys wives not giving them what they need..
Old saying full belly and an empty sack...
If a married woman doesn't feed her man's needs then why is the guy at fault for
"eating at another table"
It's basic human nature we crave sex
If it's not given in a relationship we sure as hell ain't gonna live a life of torment.
I wouldn't have put it quite the way you have but there's a lot of condemnation of men (who say) they're on here because they're in a sexless marriage. Normally when people get into a relationship they expect it to be sexual and monogamous unless negotiated otherwise. Why do we expect people to keep to one side of the bargain only and have less sympathy for the person who goes elsewhere for sex?"
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"So much emphasis on the guys cheating and not on the guys wives not giving them what they need..
Old saying full belly and an empty sack...
If a married woman doesn't feed her man's needs then why is the guy at fault for
"eating at another table"
It's basic human nature we crave sex
If it's not given in a relationship we sure as hell ain't gonna live a life of torment."
Not all cheats are doing it because they're in a sexless relationship though. On here we don't know the reasons they're cheating, we just know they are. |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"So much emphasis on the guys cheating and not on the guys wives not giving them what they need..
It's basic human nature we crave sex
If it's not given in a relationship we sure as hell ain't gonna live a life of torment."
For me it is what you declared and promised her at the altar. She may not have promised to give you endless sex but for sure you pledged fidelity.
In my last relationship, I was so in love with my BF that when an ex flame (who I fancied the pants off) contacted me and offered sex on a plate - I turned him down because it would make me feel so bad - and would have tarnish my relationship. We were living together and not married. I guess you don't feel that way about your wife? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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At the end of the day cheating ain't nice but there's reasons it happens..yes some guys are snakes who will sleep with anyone and not care who it may hurt but then some women also fall into that category
Life isn't black and white
Some guys love there wives dearly and want to stay with them but are stuck in a sexless marriage
Maybe some of them only stay for the sake of the kids
There's a million and 1 reasons why people cheat but to right them all off as snakes and bad people is ludicrous.
Il also say that some of the people who run married guys down are having the time of there lives crammed full of cock on there pics and good for them
But don't judge others and cast aspersions for desperately wanting a bit of what you have.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So much emphasis on the guys cheating and not on the guys wives not giving them what they need..
It's basic human nature we crave sex
If it's not given in a relationship we sure as hell ain't gonna live a life of torment.
For me it is what you declared and promised her at the altar. She may not have promised to give you endless sex but for sure you pledged fidelity.
In my last relationship, I was so in love with my BF that when an ex flame (who I fancied the pants off) contacted me and offered sex on a plate - I turned him down because it would make me feel so bad - and would have tarnish my relationship. We were living together and not married. I guess you don't feel that way about your wife?"
Sorry how many years did you say you'd gone without sex and closeness for?
What is in 1 relationship isnt always in another...
Don't be judgemental about people you know nothing about.
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Sorry how many years did you say you'd gone without sex and closeness for?
What is in 1 relationship isnt always in another...
Don't be judgemental about people you know nothing about.
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I have never been without sex nor closeness because I manage these needs in a relationship carefully. My last relationship ended because that dynamic changed. I would not allow myself to be imprisoned into a life I did not want.
I am merely judging you on one simple marriage clause and that is fidelity. All other issues is just you complaining.
It is about taking responsibility for your actions rather than just blaming others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry how many years did you say you'd gone without sex and closeness for?
What is in 1 relationship isnt always in another...
Don't be judgemental about people you know nothing about.
I have never been without sex nor closeness because I manage these needs in a relationship carefully. My last relationship ended because that dynamic changed. I would not allow myself to be imprisoned into a life I did not want.
I am merely judging you on one simple marriage clause and that is fidelity. All other issues is just you complaining.
It is about taking responsibility for your actions rather than just blaming others."
Look up judgemental in the dictionary..il not bother explaining as it is clearly a waste of time. |
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By *ineMan
over a year ago
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Don't feed the troll.
Not even one day into the new year...
And the same old threads
The same old entrenched positions
The same old black and white views
I do not have the right to judge others lives. I have not walked in their shoes...
Have you? |
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"Sorry how many years did you say you'd gone without sex and closeness for?
What is in 1 relationship isnt always in another...
Don't be judgemental about people you know nothing about.
I have never been without sex nor closeness because I manage these needs in a relationship carefully. My last relationship ended because that dynamic changed. I would not allow myself to be imprisoned into a life I did not want.
I am merely judging you on one simple marriage clause and that is fidelity. All other issues is just you complaining.
It is about taking responsibility for your actions rather than just blaming others."
What about this part of the ceremony?
With this Ring I thee wed, with my body I thee worship, and with all my worldly goods I thee endow: In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost. Amen.
Is this still included?
What about people like us who have a civil ceremony? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't feed the troll.
Not even one day into the new year...
And the same old threads
The same old entrenched positions
The same old black and white views
I do not have the right to judge others lives. I have not walked in their shoes...
Have you? "
You said exactly what I was trying to say in so fewer words |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
"With this Ring I thee wed, with my body I thee worship, and with all my worldly goods I thee endow: In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost. Amen.
Is this still included?
What about people like us who have a civil ceremony?"
For me it is simply down to your pledge/contract and then not keeping to it. Everything else is noise.
I recently attended a Civil Partnership where the couple went with the standard vow which promised fidelity. Actually, in that civil ceremony, you can write your own pledge and that would be part of the declaration that we all bore witness to. I was a little disappointed they didn't write their own as they had and will have an open partnership. I am not judging them for that - the "contract" excluding fidelity would just be more honest and with integrity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Relationships are complex things. Profiles are not.
So which is preferable: a married guy in a troubled relationship who's honest about it, or a married guy who lies on a dating site about being single? |
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"With this Ring I thee wed, with my body I thee worship, and with all my worldly goods I thee endow: In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost. Amen.
Is this still included?
What about people like us who have a civil ceremony?
For me it is simply down to your pledge/contract and then not keeping to it. Everything else is noise.
I recently attended a Civil Partnership where the couple went with the standard vow which promised fidelity. Actually, in that civil ceremony, you can write your own pledge and that would be part of the declaration that we all bore witness to. I was a little disappointed they didn't write their own as they had and will have an open partnership. I am not judging them for that - the "contract" excluding fidelity would just be more honest and with integrity."
But the "with my body I thee worship" seems to me to be saying that you will have a sexual relationship. Is that just noise?  |
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"With this Ring I thee wed, with my body I thee worship, and with all my worldly goods I thee endow: In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost. Amen.
Is this still included?
What about people like us who have a civil ceremony?
For me it is simply down to your pledge/contract and then not keeping to it. Everything else is noise.
I recently attended a Civil Partnership where the couple went with the standard vow which promised fidelity. Actually, in that civil ceremony, you can write your own pledge and that would be part of the declaration that we all bore witness to. I was a little disappointed they didn't write their own as they had and will have an open partnership. I am not judging them for that - the "contract" excluding fidelity would just be more honest and with integrity.
But the "with my body I thee worship" seems to me to be saying that you will have a sexual relationship. Is that just noise? "
But you can have a sexual relationship & still have an open relationship, surely? |
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"Don't feed the troll.
Not even one day into the new year...
And the same old threads
The same old entrenched positions
The same old black and white views
I do not have the right to judge others lives. I have not walked in their shoes...
Have you? "
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"So much emphasis on the guys cheating and not on the guys wives not giving them what they need..
Old saying full belly and an empty sack...
If a married woman doesn't feed her man's needs then why is the guy at fault for
"eating at another table"
It's basic human nature we crave sex
If it's not given in a relationship we sure as hell ain't gonna live a life of torment."
Often when men make this excuse and you look closer, you find that the man is an entitled dickhead who does nothing for his wife so she in turn stopped doing anything for him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So much emphasis on the guys cheating and not on the guys wives not giving them what they need..
Old saying full belly and an empty sack...
If a married woman doesn't feed her man's needs then why is the guy at fault for
"eating at another table"
It's basic human nature we crave sex
If it's not given in a relationship we sure as hell ain't gonna live a life of torment.
Often when men make this excuse and you look closer, you find that the man is an entitled dickhead who does nothing for his wife so she in turn stopped doing anything for him."
There are also lots of women who refuse to loose their stake in a husband (lifestyle/status/comfort etc) whilst still twisting the screws. So many different ways people live their lives that can lead to bitterness or apathy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So much emphasis on the guys cheating and not on the guys wives not giving them what they need..
Old saying full belly and an empty sack...
If a married woman doesn't feed her man's needs then why is the guy at fault for
"eating at another table"
It's basic human nature we crave sex
If it's not given in a relationship we sure as hell ain't gonna live a life of torment.
Often when men make this excuse and you look closer, you find that the man is an entitled dickhead who does nothing for his wife so she in turn stopped doing anything for him.
There are also lots of women who refuse to loose their stake in a husband (lifestyle/status/comfort etc) whilst still twisting the screws. So many different ways people live their lives that can lead to bitterness or apathy."
sorry I just had to add you to my hotlist your gorgous... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So much emphasis on the guys cheating and not on the guys wives not giving them what they need..
Old saying full belly and an empty sack...
If a married woman doesn't feed her man's needs then why is the guy at fault for
"eating at another table"
It's basic human nature we crave sex
If it's not given in a relationship we sure as hell ain't gonna live a life of torment.
Often when men make this excuse and you look closer, you find that the man is an entitled dickhead who does nothing for his wife so she in turn stopped doing anything for him.
There are also lots of women who refuse to loose their stake in a husband (lifestyle/status/comfort etc) whilst still twisting the screws. So many different ways people live their lives that can lead to bitterness or apathy."
Indeed. I have heard many stories like that. Some horrific ones, where the woman holds all the cards
Both these examples illustrate perfectly that life simply isnt black and white |
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"With this Ring I thee wed, with my body I thee worship, and with all my worldly goods I thee endow: In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost. Amen.
Is this still included?
What about people like us who have a civil ceremony?
For me it is simply down to your pledge/contract and then not keeping to it. Everything else is noise.
I recently attended a Civil Partnership where the couple went with the standard vow which promised fidelity. Actually, in that civil ceremony, you can write your own pledge and that would be part of the declaration that we all bore witness to. I was a little disappointed they didn't write their own as they had and will have an open partnership. I am not judging them for that - the "contract" excluding fidelity would just be more honest and with integrity.
But the "with my body I thee worship" seems to me to be saying that you will have a sexual relationship. Is that just noise?
But you can have a sexual relationship & still have an open relationship, surely?"
Yes. My point is that if withdrawing fidelity is against the marriage contract withdrawing sex is too. |
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"So much emphasis on the guys cheating and not on the guys wives not giving them what they need..
Old saying full belly and an empty sack...
If a married woman doesn't feed her man's needs then why is the guy at fault for
"eating at another table"
It's basic human nature we crave sex
If it's not given in a relationship we sure as hell ain't gonna live a life of torment.
Often when men make this excuse and you look closer, you find that the man is an entitled dickhead who does nothing for his wife so she in turn stopped doing anything for him."
Quite! None of us ever know what goes on in other people's relationships. That's why we prefer to keep away from married people playing alone, regardless of their reasons or even if they have permission.
Of course we can't know for sure that a person is genuinely single but we do our best to avoid it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think like most people who contribute to the forums, this debate is the most tiresome.
Why are those who are married trying to justify their position on a public forum? It's your choice, do you honestly believe others will simply say "do what ever you want it's fine" in here? Why do you need that affirmation from strangers?
Then there's those who've been cheated on who will be incredibly bitter towards you.
Live your life as you see fit but don't seek approval from strangers, if you're not entirely comfortable with the situatiin yourself? You won't convince them it's a good idea if you're not convinced yourself. |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"There are also lots of women who refuse to loose their stake in a husband (lifestyle/status/comfort etc) whilst still twisting the screws. So many different ways people live their lives that can lead to bitterness or apathy."
My issue is simply: stick to the contract (however you want to write it) and everything else is noise.
But to respond to your point, I am in no doubt that some married people positively hate each other. To me this is just not a good place to be... |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"this debate is the most tiresome."
Indeed I don't disagree in context of marriage and all the "judgement" around it.
But as I have said, to me its simply a contractual issue.
Party A agrees a contract with Party B. Say a broadband company promising to connect you as long as you pay.
Whist still in agreement, Party A then acts in breach of contract. Your broadband cuts you off.
Do you see this as above "judgement"? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"this debate is the most tiresome.
Indeed I don't disagree in context of marriage and all the "judgement" around it.
But as I have said, to me its simply a contractual issue.
Party A agrees a contract with Party B. Say a broadband company promising to connect you as long as you pay.
Whist still in agreement, Party A then acts in breach of contract. Your broadband cuts you off.
Do you see this as above "judgement"?"
No I take your point fully, and I've cut my opinions relatively short as this subject gets to the point where you just can't be bothered.
I work on the basis of one size doesn't fit all.
Some folk in the position are almost justified, others are just out to get what they can etc etc.
My point is....why come on the forum seeking approval? I fully understand why people do it. But i beg to differ that anyones entirely comfortable with the situation. |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
"Yes. My point is that if withdrawing fidelity is against the marriage contract withdrawing sex is too."
I agree with you, perhaps I should have said so in earlier post.
But as you say, there may be lots of reasons why people stop having sex. The dynamic with my ex-bf certainly changed so we decided to end the relationship as I did not want an unhappy sexless relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"this debate is the most tiresome.
Indeed I don't disagree in context of marriage and all the "judgement" around it.
But as I have said, to me its simply a contractual issue.
Party A agrees a contract with Party B. Say a broadband company promising to connect you as long as you pay.
Whist still in agreement, Party A then acts in breach of contract. Your broadband cuts you off.
Do you see this as above "judgement"?"
If they cut you off do you live without broadband forever? Or seek another provider? |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"this debate is the most tiresome.
Indeed I don't disagree in context of marriage and all the "judgement" around it.
But as I have said, to me its simply a contractual issue.
Party A agrees a contract with Party B. Say a broadband company promising to connect you as long as you pay.
Whist still in agreement, Party A then acts in breach of contract. Your broadband cuts you off.
Do you see this as above "judgement"?
If they cut you off do you live without broadband forever? Or seek another provider?"
The key is though, you don't have two broadband companies at once if you've promised one to be your solitary provider. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some girls do
Some girls don't.
Some girls will
Some girls won't
Is this a song?
Yep
Some girls need a lot of loving
And uh some girls don’t.
Racey c1979-1980
Thank you. I thought I'd heard this before.
I actually bought it on a single...umm...that’s not cool is it...off to hide my head in shame.
I could beat that embarrassment, thankfully I just stream bad songs now.
Can you beat Gary Glitter and The Wombles?
Jive bunny and the mastermixers
The Osmonds and Bay city Rollers x "
The mask motion picture soundtrack  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So much emphasis on the guys cheating and not on the guys wives not giving them what they need..
Old saying full belly and an empty sack...
If a married woman doesn't feed her man's needs then why is the guy at fault for
"eating at another table"
It's basic human nature we crave sex
If it's not given in a relationship we sure as hell ain't gonna live a life of torment.
Often when men make this excuse and you look closer, you find that the man is an entitled dickhead who does nothing for his wife so she in turn stopped doing anything for him."
So my women friends say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are also lots of women who refuse to loose their stake in a husband (lifestyle/status/comfort etc) whilst still twisting the screws. So many different ways people live their lives that can lead to bitterness or apathy.
My issue is simply: stick to the contract (however you want to write it) and everything else is noise.
But to respond to your point, I am in no doubt that some married people positively hate each other. To me this is just not a good place to be..."
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I'm not sure if it's married men these women are into or good looking, respectful (well arguably not to their spouse, although the world is not black and white) men who can hold good conversation with wit and charm. Maybe the fact their married or not has little to do with it? But I think most are put off by the fact that cheating on your spouse generally indicates a lack of respect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So it seems quite a lot of girls like married men
Don't know where you got that from as every married man post gets a slating"
And yet married women don't |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So much emphasis on the guys cheating and not on the guys wives not giving them what they need..
Old saying full belly and an empty sack...
If a married woman doesn't feed her man's needs then why is the guy at fault for
"eating at another table"
It's basic human nature we crave sex
If it's not given in a relationship we sure as hell ain't gonna live a life of torment.
I wouldn't have put it quite the way you have but there's a lot of condemnation of men (who say) they're on here because they're in a sexless marriage. Normally when people get into a relationship they expect it to be sexual and monogamous unless negotiated otherwise. Why do we expect people to keep to one side of the bargain only and have less sympathy for the person who goes elsewhere for sex?"
I need a bit more than just a promise of monogamy to get me going.
We only ever hear one side but I've always suspected that these sexless relationships are more to do with the husband not giving his wife much motivation than anything else. |
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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago
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"So much emphasis on the guys cheating and not on the guys wives not giving them what they need..
Old saying full belly and an empty sack...
If a married woman doesn't feed her man's needs then why is the guy at fault for
"eating at another table"
It's basic human nature we crave sex
If it's not given in a relationship we sure as hell ain't gonna live a life of torment.
I wouldn't have put it quite the way you have but there's a lot of condemnation of men (who say) they're on here because they're in a sexless marriage. Normally when people get into a relationship they expect it to be sexual and monogamous unless negotiated otherwise. Why do we expect people to keep to one side of the bargain only and have less sympathy for the person who goes elsewhere for sex?
I need a bit more than just a promise of monogamy to get me going.
We only ever hear one side but I've always suspected that these sexless relationships are more to do with the husband not giving his wife much motivation than anything else. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is a taboo topic.
Probably a few like them but they're too scared to try it and they'll stay away from temptation.
They won't even admit it, not even to themselves.
I'm not a woman, so I can't put myself in their shoes. But I can tell you from experience that having a thing with a married woman is most enjoyable.
The first time it was a one night stand and I was too young and inexperienced, so I didn't really appreciate it. Then I had a couple of dalliances and I really treasure those memories.
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"So it seems quite a lot of girls like married men
Don't know where you got that from as every married man post gets a slating
And yet married women don't "
Haven't seen married women post on the forum. Possibly to avoid the slating I'm sure there are plenty on here x |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"So it seems quite a lot of girls like married men
Don't know where you got that from as every married man post gets a slating
And yet married women don't
Haven't seen married women post on the forum. Possibly to avoid the slating I'm sure there are plenty on here x"
There are but there is a double standard on this point.
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"So it seems quite a lot of girls like married men
Don't know where you got that from as every married man post gets a slating
And yet married women don't
Haven't seen married women post on the forum. Possibly to avoid the slating I'm sure there are plenty on here x
There are but there is a double standard on this point.
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A lot of men see it as a plus, as they seem to get off on meeting a married women, they don't have the same morals as most women.
Though I am aware some women also get off on the idea |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So it seems quite a lot of girls like married men "
I wish there were, my wife has a male friend she spends time with on her own and would be happy for me to have a female friend I get to spend time with one-on-one whatever her status is |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"It’s well known that married men make the most attentive and capable lovers - except with their wives of course until she finds out
And what happens then?"
Hearts and lives are never the same. Dont think I would ever get over that level of betrayal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m thinking the op has it wrong big time!!
I am always honest about myself
I’m married I hardly ever meet, mind that’s mainly due to work commitments
I prefer couples to meet or tvs occasional women, but mostly men seem to be interested in meeting me |
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