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How do you deal with people that just lie there like a sack of spuds?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you just get it over with and get the hell outta dodge? Or spend time communicating with them, bringing them out of their shell to let them learn that it's "ok" to move around a bit?
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"Do you just get it over with and get the hell outta dodge? Or spend time communicating with them, bringing them out of their shell to let them learn that it's "ok" to move around a bit?
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peel em n roast em |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are we purely talking in the context of Fab meets? If so I'd be giving a bit of a nudge in the right direction but if that doesn't work quickly and politely making a getaway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you just get it over with and get the hell outta dodge? Or spend time communicating with them, bringing them out of their shell to let them learn that it's "ok" to move around a bit?
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peel em and chuck em in pan with some eggs  |
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"I'll pull them around, move their hands for them, tell them where I want them and make them move  if still nothing then game over and no second chance. "
The prospect of you guiding my hands to exactly where you want them sounds rather sexy. Not that I would profess to lie there like a sack of spuds but being assisted to heighten your enjoyment is rather sexy.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you just get it over with and get the hell outta dodge? Or spend time communicating with them, bringing them out of their shell to let them learn that it's "ok" to move around a bit?
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Get the hell out of there. I never sit still having sex, I’m moving her in every position, picking her up, pushing and pulling everything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would have already worked out that they were not worth meeting lol...."
Chatting with them and a coffee meet usually sorts this out.
...but if you're there and its happened and no change after some encouragement and training , get them to watch you as you finish yourself off and then say thank you that was lovely and one of my best fucks ever. Make sure you say that in their veri too. . We all need to know  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a wimp so would probably scrunch my face up and pretend I'm having the most amazing time. I don't have it in me to tell someone they are really rather rubbish at sex. I would hate to crush a guys confidence. I wouldn't verify and if they asked to meet again I would just say something like "no chemistry". |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"Do you just get it over with and get the hell outta dodge? Or spend time communicating with them, bringing them out of their shell to let them learn that it's "ok" to move around a bit?
Get the hell out of there. I never sit still having sex, I’m moving her in every position, picking her up, pushing and pulling everything. "
Haha!! Pretty much me (him) too. In my head there’s a million and one things I’d like to be trying. |
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"Do you just get it over with and get the hell outta dodge? Or spend time communicating with them, bringing them out of their shell to let them learn that it's "ok" to move around a bit?
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If they can't be arsed to make the effort then fuck 'em. That's what I'd do. |
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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago
Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;) |
Patience is a virtue..... I'm told.. We were all that nervous person once and how does a person know what a stranger likes..
Chatting and sometimes a little guidance is a must, but if it's still a non starter then just call it a day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you just get it over with and get the hell outta dodge? Or spend time communicating with them, bringing them out of their shell to let them learn that it's "ok" to move around a bit?
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I'd untie them first  |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"Do you just get it over with and get the hell outta dodge? Or spend time communicating with them, bringing them out of their shell to let them learn that it's "ok" to move around a bit?
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Stop the sex and leave. |
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"Patience is a virtue..... I'm told.. We were all that nervous person once and how does a person know what a stranger likes..
Chatting and sometimes a little guidance is a must, but if it's still a non starter then just call it a day"
True but I do know what I want and I don't want a corps or a novice thanks. :-d |
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"Do you just get it over with and get the hell outta dodge? Or spend time communicating with them, bringing them out of their shell to let them learn that it's "ok" to move around a bit?
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Chatting first, and meeting for a social before any play, usually helps me decide whether we’re compatible for the bedroom, and should prevent this situation ever happening. Not been an issue so far |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Might say..."Right! Now it's your turn to go on top while I just lie back n chill"
I really doubt I'd manage to stay still though.....I'd give myself 5 min max before I was firmly gripping hips,licking tits n tweaking nips while thrusting from underneath |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You've got to go for the dirty fuckers, they never just lay there 
I'm not sure how i'd handle it really. I do have (sometimes) in my profile that i won't meet with men who just lay there.
I get alarm bells if a man says about licking pussy for hours and hours. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is it the woman or man who tends to lie there like a sack of spuds?
I’d rather that than someone who thinks they’re in a porn movie and I’m a blow up doll who can get into positions only a contortionist could get into   |
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"How can you tell from a social what they'd be like in bed?
Do they sit like a sack of spuds whilst drinking coffee "
I met one woman for coffee once, who did sit like a sack of spuds, and was really hard work to get any more than one-word answers from. I complained about how bad the coffee was (and it was genuinely awful), to which she replied "I can make a better one back at my place if you like?", but I'd already made the decision I wasn't going any further, and made the excuse that I didn't have time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How can you tell from a social what they'd be like in bed?"
Whats the purpose of the social?
I've yet to be wrong with someone after a social. It can give you a very good idea, unless the social isn't being used properly to find out if there's a good connection, what their character and experience is like. Their veris should also give some indication. Maybe I've just been lucky. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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just up and leave is my simple answer, thats what i have done in past, if the sex was awful and not going well , cant be assed to waste time pulling teeth and delaying the onset of boredom .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"just up and leave is my simple answer, thats what i have done in past, if the sex was awful and not going well , cant be assed to waste time pulling teeth and delaying the onset of boredom .. "
well you could try and encourage good sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it the woman or man who tends to lie there like a sack of spuds?
I’d rather that than someone who thinks they’re in a porn movie and I’m a blow up doll who can get into positions only a contortionist could get into "
I am that contortionist |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How can you tell from a social what they'd be like in bed?
Whats the purpose of the social?
I've yet to be wrong with someone after a social. It can give you a very good idea, unless the social isn't being used properly to find out if there's a good connection, what their character and experience is like. Their veris should also give some indication. Maybe I've just been lucky."
I don't use veris for anything. True about character and connection. I don't discuss my experiences and don't ask either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When that situation has arisen I have found that if you can make them want you badly enough they do get up and put the effort in, some just need more encouragement than others.
It's also not always their fault some can just be inexperienced. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How can you tell from a social what they'd be like in bed?
Whats the purpose of the social?
I've yet to be wrong with someone after a social. It can give you a very good idea, unless the social isn't being used properly to find out if there's a good connection, what their character and experience is like. Their veris should also give some indication. Maybe I've just been lucky.
I don't use veris for anything. True about character and connection. I don't discuss my experiences and don't ask either."
Maybe there is the key. I'll never meet anyone without seeing their veris. They can see mine. Veris can be a good source of information... Easy to look past the bullshit and white knight veris... Do they do repeats or are they just one off meets. Is there a genuine common thread. What type of guys are they attracting or meeting? This applies to those whom they have met too. Yes im fussy and very selective... Been told a few times im too fussy... But that works well for me and I've yet to have a stodgy flapjack in bed.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you just get it over with and get the hell outta dodge? Or spend time communicating with them, bringing them out of their shell to let them learn that it's "ok" to move around a bit?
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Perhaps you should use less rohypnol? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How can you tell from a social what they'd be like in bed?
Whats the purpose of the social?
I've yet to be wrong with someone after a social. It can give you a very good idea, unless the social isn't being used properly to find out if there's a good connection, what their character and experience is like. Their veris should also give some indication. Maybe I've just been lucky.
I don't use veris for anything. True about character and connection. I don't discuss my experiences and don't ask either.
Maybe there is the key. I'll never meet anyone without seeing their veris. They can see mine. Veris can be a good source of information... Easy to look past the bullshit and white knight veris... Do they do repeats or are they just one off meets. Is there a genuine common thread. What type of guys are they attracting or meeting? This applies to those whom they have met too. Yes im fussy and very selective... Been told a few times im too fussy... But that works well for me and I've yet to have a stodgy flapjack in bed.... "
Even if I showed all my veris they wouldn't give a true picture of me. That's why I don't use veris for anything. Fab is just one tiny part of life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How can you tell from a social what they'd be like in bed?
Whats the purpose of the social?
I've yet to be wrong with someone after a social. It can give you a very good idea, unless the social isn't being used properly to find out if there's a good connection, what their character and experience is like. Their veris should also give some indication. Maybe I've just been lucky.
I don't use veris for anything. True about character and connection. I don't discuss my experiences and don't ask either.
Maybe there is the key. I'll never meet anyone without seeing their veris. They can see mine. Veris can be a good source of information... Easy to look past the bullshit and white knight veris... Do they do repeats or are they just one off meets. Is there a genuine common thread. What type of guys are they attracting or meeting? This applies to those whom they have met too. Yes im fussy and very selective... Been told a few times im too fussy... But that works well for me and I've yet to have a stodgy flapjack in bed....
Even if I showed all my veris they wouldn't give a true picture of me. That's why I don't use veris for anything. Fab is just one tiny part of life."
No one gives a true picture of themselves... Even in everyday life we rarely do too.... They do help with the tiny bit of of FAB fun and as its a small part of life its good to try and make the most of it using all tools available to achieve that I guess. |
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