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Being nosey or something more sinister?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Would you give information about a meet to another person on here? I am a bit confused as someone i know has been approached by a person who has done nothing but ask about someone on his verification list. Asking what they look like, what they drive and other personal stuff and it just doesn’t make sense to me. Would you pass on details? Would it make a difference if it was a man or a woman?
Mina xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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how would you feel if the role was reversed and someone was asking for information on you??
if ANYONE was to ask for info on someone who appeared on my verification list i would tell them politely where to go!
hence maybe thats why i dont show friends list or verifications |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I find the whole thing rather creepy. Mina xxx
Yep, agreed.
Did your friend ask the other person why they wanted to know that information? If so, what reason did they give?"
Yes, said he thought it was someone he knew. Mina xxx |
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"I find the whole thing rather creepy. Mina xxx
Yep, agreed.
Did your friend ask the other person why they wanted to know that information? If so, what reason did they give?Yes, said he thought it was someone he knew. Mina xxx"
Ha, in that case, I think he should be talking to "the person he knew" rather than asking your friend to potentially stitch someone up.
Just my 2¢ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone was asking us about someone we would ignore them. They can't be doing it for honest reasons or they would ask the person them self. We would find it a bit creepy. Ok a lot creepy but i don't know if it is against the site rules. Does anyone know if it is? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't show friends list or verifications. I can show them once I know people a bit and they need proof of meets etc.
But generally I don't want people keeping tabs on who I meet who I have sex with and who my friends are....I've often had guys contact me and say I'm a friend of so and so on your friends list, fancy meeting me? or they check who is on my friends list and contact them and say, Laine said we should contact you! If I ever think that or wish to do that, I'd tell my friends direct if someone was interested, and have called or texted them to say...so and so is interested in you. personal preferences are just that, personal and kept that way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Discresion is the name a the game as far as im concerend
I may generalise about meets but never give specific details to anyone
They as far as im concerned are between me and the meet xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't give even the tiniest of details.
I once had a woman message me and ask me about a bloke she was going to meet that I had verified. She asked me was he worth it.
I told her to find out for herself.
But given that i've known him for three years I messaged him and warned him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i would. not personal details like phone numbers and car registration...but you have verified someone, why would you not confirm that verification if asked?
how many folk have been on here complaining about folk who dont look like their pictures or are how they sound?
it could be that they've had similar experiences and don't want a repeat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldnt give any details about anyone Id met. People should have a certain amount of discretion.  "
I would agree totally. If you want to know you ask the person your self. Asking someone they have met is very furtive and underhand as we see it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldnt give any details about anyone Id met. People should have a certain amount of discretion.
I would agree totally. If you want to know you ask the person your self. Asking someone they have met is very furtive and underhand as we see it. "
surely by writing a veri you're already giving out detail. what if the person was just asking if the photo was a likeness.
it's not unreasonable to question the validity of a verification. amount of folk that have said..."oh i did write that, but i was being polite"....i don't understand what the issue is. you're no being indiscreet saying that the picture on a profile is the person they claim to be surely?
whether they perform well is a pointless question...whats good for me could be crap for someone else |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldnt give any details about anyone Id met. People should have a certain amount of discretion.
I would agree totally. If you want to know you ask the person your self. Asking someone they have met is very furtive and underhand as we see it.
surely by writing a veri you're already giving out detail. what if the person was just asking if the photo was a likeness.
it's not unreasonable to question the validity of a verification. amount of folk that have said..."oh i did write that, but i was being polite"....i don't understand what the issue is. you're no being indiscreet saying that the picture on a profile is the person they claim to be surely?
whether they perform well is a pointless question...whats good for me could be crap for someone else"
they were asking about what car they drive??? thats just a little out of place when analysing verifications  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldnt give any details about anyone Id met. People should have a certain amount of discretion.
I would agree totally. If you want to know you ask the person your self. Asking someone they have met is very furtive and underhand as we see it.
surely by writing a veri you're already giving out detail. what if the person was just asking if the photo was a likeness.
it's not unreasonable to question the validity of a verification. amount of folk that have said..."oh i did write that, but i was being polite"....i don't understand what the issue is. you're no being indiscreet saying that the picture on a profile is the person they claim to be surely?
whether they perform well is a pointless question...whats good for me could be crap for someone else"
Err when you write a verification you put all the detail in you wish to add. For someone you don't know mailing you asking about details about what they look like says to me they haven't seen a picture. Now it may be us or not but if that person wants someone to know what they look like then they will send them a picture not expect someone on their friends list or verifications to fill in details. I find it strange you seem to think its fine for people to pry yet hide all your details your self on your profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldnt give any details about anyone Id met. People should have a certain amount of discretion.
I would agree totally. If you want to know you ask the person your self. Asking someone they have met is very furtive and underhand as we see it.
surely by writing a veri you're already giving out detail. what if the person was just asking if the photo was a likeness.
it's not unreasonable to question the validity of a verification. amount of folk that have said..."oh i did write that, but i was being polite"....i don't understand what the issue is. you're no being indiscreet saying that the picture on a profile is the person they claim to be surely?
whether they perform well is a pointless question...whats good for me could be crap for someone else
they were asking about what car they drive??? thats just a little out of place when analysing verifications "
depends if the chap had made some big deal, ro asked her to look out for a particular make and model....as i said, i wouldnt give out personal details, but i would back up my verification if asked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldnt back up any verification, I dont see the need to, I dont treat it like cross examination. One mans meat is anothers poison so there would be little point.
I certainly wouldnt get into a conversation about someones sexual skils, that is just a really awful thing to do. |
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By *ig badMan
over a year ago
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"I wouldnt back up any verification, I dont see the need to, I dont treat it like cross examination. One mans meat is anothers poison so there would be little point.
I certainly wouldnt get into a conversation about someones sexual skils, that is just a really awful thing to do. "
Spot on! Discretion is an important thing. Who knows who the nosey person is but one thing it isn't is polite. If someone asked me i would want the ok from the person they are interested before i even considered it. |
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