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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Its amazing how texts can be misread and reading over messages again it looks like you were being pissy when you thought you were being funny.
Its important to say that you're sorry |
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By *oxiAnneWoman
over a year ago
Not on a Hot Gin Roof :/ |
It's important to say sorry if you're in the wrong, have hurt someone & genuinely mean that you are sorry.
'Sorry' can be such a throwaway word at times that it doesn't mean anything.
And yes the written word as we see frequently on here can be misconstrued! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's important to say sorry if you're in the wrong, have hurt someone & genuinely mean that you are sorry.
'Sorry' can be such a throwaway word at times that it doesn't mean anything.
And yes the written word as we see frequently on here can be misconstrued!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's important to say sorry if you're in the wrong, have hurt someone & genuinely mean that you are sorry.
'Sorry' can be such a throwaway word at times that it doesn't mean anything.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's important to say sorry if you're in the wrong, have hurt someone & genuinely mean that you are sorry.
'Sorry' can be such a throwaway word at times that it doesn't mean anything.
G"
Its not a throw away sentiment. If the message was mis-communicated or stated poorly then I think sorry is very appropriate and necessary |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If someone has misinterpreted what you said or meant then yes, apologise for causing confusion or a misunderstanding.
The best bit of advice I got on the subject was 'if you're genuinely sorry and in the wrong then apologise. Once. And mean it. But only once, don't keep on continuing apologising once you have'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's important to say sorry if you're in the wrong, have hurt someone & genuinely mean that you are sorry.
'Sorry' can be such a throwaway word at times that it doesn't mean anything.
G
Its not a throw away sentiment. If the message was mis-communicated or stated poorly then I think sorry is very appropriate and necessary"
Sometimes it's also the way a message is received though too. Sometimes messages can be poorly read or received so it should be a two way process. I had a block the other day from someone who totally misread what I posted on here, and I apologised for the confusion despite reading what I wrote back many times and being clear it didn't say anything like what they said it did!
So as I said in a previous reply, apologise once and mean it, then it's up to the other party to accept that it not. If they don't, it's their problem not yours |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've adapted a really good quote I saw on the subject:
"Apologizing doesn't need to mean you are wrong and they are right. It can just means you value your relationship more than your ego."
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Or that you're male and married  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've apologised to people for written communication before (including on here). But not because what I wrote was misinterpreted -rather because I was in a pissy mood and shouldn't have written it to begin with.
Things can be misinterpreted on here, but sometimes it may be easier to say what we wrote was misconstrued or written poorly when really we shouldn't have written it to begin with.
I'm not saying this to you in particular, OP. It's more of a general observation.
-Courtney |
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By *oxiAnneWoman
over a year ago
Not on a Hot Gin Roof :/ |
"It's important to say sorry if you're in the wrong, have hurt someone & genuinely mean that you are sorry.
'Sorry' can be such a throwaway word at times that it doesn't mean anything.
G
Its not a throw away sentiment. If the message was mis-communicated or stated poorly then I think sorry is very appropriate and necessary"
My observation wasn't directed at you specifically ~ I just think people are in the habit of saying 'sorry' whether they genuinely mean it or not.
Children are classic examples of this, they'll volunteer a quick 'sorry' to avoid being told off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've adapted a really good quote I saw on the subject:
"Apologizing doesn't need to mean you are wrong and they are right. It can just means you value your relationship more than your ego."
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Hmm, unless you do it too often/too easily in which case it ceases to have real meaning. |
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Most gauge sarcasm by vocal intonation, facial expression, body language.. Those things obviously being absent in the world of online communication; Something meant in a humourously disingenuous manner can very conceivably be misinterpreted as prickly, rude or even outright hostile.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you. I often forget that messages are so easy to read differently. What you thought was a fun playful tone can come over like a grump"
Amen to that... Many a cross word said over a misconstrued text |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I say sorry less now - I used to seem to end up saying it all the time to my ex years ago just to keep the peace.
With age - I will apologise but to those that I need to and should, rather than because someone makes you feel like you should for no reason. There's a vast difference.
Sarah
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I would like to say sorry too. I said some thing today to a lady and what I said was not related to her but I think she's taken it the wrong way and I'd like an opportunity to explain. I can't at the moment. So if that person is reading this.....3 years is a long time.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thank you. I often forget that messages are so easy to read differently. What you thought was a fun playful tone can come over like a grump
Amen to that... Many a cross word said over a misconstrued text "
Yes well lesson learned on this one |
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I have quite a dry sense of humour .... sometimes ... I think im being humourous ... but if u put a comma , an apostrophe, in the wrong place ...... or forget that kiss at the end .... the friendly , jovial message I have sent takes on a whole new meaning ...
And thats the problem with texting ....
No tone of voice , no facial expression or body language ... so if your reciever takes it the wrong way ....
It can be devastating for both parties .... 
And sometimes ends friendships or relationships ...
Xx  |
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"I have quite a dry sense of humour .... sometimes ... I think im being humourous ... but if u put a comma , an apostrophe, in the wrong place ...... or forget that kiss at the end .... the friendly , jovial message I have sent takes on a whole new meaning ...
And thats the problem with texting ....
No tone of voice , no facial expression or body language ... so if your reciever takes it the wrong way ....
It can be devastating for both parties ....
And sometimes ends friendships or relationships ...
Xx "
I'm fucking devastated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'Sorry not sorry' winds me up!  What does it actually mean?!"
I think it basically means "Go f**k yourself" in a manner of speaking.
I despise the use of this, especially when some of my colleagues use it with a preceeding "hashtag" |
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"I have quite a dry sense of humour .... sometimes ... I think im being humourous ... but if u put a comma , an apostrophe, in the wrong place ...... or forget that kiss at the end .... the friendly , jovial message I have sent takes on a whole new meaning ...
And thats the problem with texting ....
No tone of voice , no facial expression or body language ... "
Exactly. I am verrry sarcastic, so I have to be careful to put emoticons and "jk" when I text. Of course, I also really like this meme that says: I'm not actually funny; I'm just really mean, and people think I'm joking. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Maybe some people shouldn't log on to fab when they are having a hate the world day. Lesson learnt
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Quite probably, maybe fab should be specifically after the first cup of tea! |
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It's too easy to be misunderstood via text. It will be even more difficult on this site. There is probably 100 males per single female. So, they won't cry if make this wrong... They still have another 99 to check.
Hope you'll find girls with similar sense of humour |
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"I've adapted a really good quote I saw on the subject:
"Apologizing doesn't need to mean you are wrong and they are right. It can just means you value your relationship more than your ego."
Hmm, unless you do it too often/too easily in which case it ceases to have real meaning."
Ah, you're interpreting differently I think (QED!). I'm not talking about someone making glib insincere apologies, I'm talking about restoring the connection of the relationship being way more important that scoring a point. |
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"It's important to say sorry if you're in the wrong, have hurt someone & genuinely mean that you are sorry.
'Sorry' can be such a throwaway word at times that it doesn't mean anything.
G
Its not a throw away sentiment. If the message was mis-communicated or stated poorly then I think sorry is very appropriate and necessary
My observation wasn't directed at you specifically ~ I just think people are in the habit of saying 'sorry' whether they genuinely mean it or not.
Children are classic examples of this, they'll volunteer a quick 'sorry' to avoid being told off."
I think that's because they are continually told ( from tiny toddlers ) Say Sorry. Say Sorry. It's a learned response. They think it's correct. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've adapted a really good quote I saw on the subject:
"Apologizing doesn't need to mean you are wrong and they are right. It can just means you value your relationship more than your ego."
Hmm, unless you do it too often/too easily in which case it ceases to have real meaning.
Ah, you're interpreting differently I think (QED!). I'm not talking about someone making glib insincere apologies, I'm talking about restoring the connection of the relationship being way more important that scoring a point."
And that I do agree with. But still, if you have to regularly apologise for something to restore the connection of a relationship, something fundamental has gone tits up along the way that won't be fixed by saying sorry. So I'd stick with too often or too easily still being dangerous  |
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I agree with View that some people love to be outraged and take offence at the slightest comment even if it is not made to them or about them.
1. I always say sorry if i'm in the wrong. However............
2. People shouldn't use phone texts for anything other than Yes. No. 9 o clock at the station. type of messages. If you must joke or be sarky use a bloody emoticon. Note I'm not using an emoticon because ............
3. Sorry should only be said if you intend to stop doing what you are doing otherwise be honest and say something nice like . I've always fucking thought/done/wanted that and nothing on this Goddam earth is going to change that. Be prepared for all possible outcomes which are bound to result in ............. |
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"I've adapted a really good quote I saw on the subject:
"Apologizing doesn't need to mean you are wrong and they are right. It can just means you value your relationship more than your ego."
Hmm, unless you do it too often/too easily in which case it ceases to have real meaning.
Ah, you're interpreting differently I think (QED!). I'm not talking about someone making glib insincere apologies, I'm talking about restoring the connection of the relationship being way more important that scoring a point.
And that I do agree with. But still, if you have to regularly apologise for something to restore the connection of a relationship, something fundamental has gone tits up along the way that won't be fixed by saying sorry. So I'd stick with too often or too easily still being dangerous "
No argument there. |
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