Think of being on a swinging site less like a place it should be easy to get what you want and more like a place where you might find people with a similar interest.
Imagine if you wanted to find people to start a book club... a library may be a good starting point but not eveyone who walks through the door will want to read the same books or want to be in a club. |
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"Think of being on a swinging site less like a place it should be easy to get what you want and more like a place where you might find people with a similar interest.
Imagine if you wanted to find people to start a book club... a library may be a good starting point but not eveyone who walks through the door will want to read the same books or want to be in a club. "
great metaphor |
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"Think of being on a swinging site less like a place it should be easy to get what you want and more like a place where you might find people with a similar interest.
Imagine if you wanted to find people to start a book club... a library may be a good starting point but not eveyone who walks through the door will want to read the same books or want to be in a club. "
nice analogy  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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You have been verfied and for a single guy that is a great help.
Keep getting yourself known in your local scene.
Continue to go to socials, it is daunting as a single guy, maybe try and hook up with other single guys.. less scary standing at the bar all alone.
most important..
you need to go knocking on the door of opportunity, unlikely it will come knocking on yours....
good luck  |
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"Think of being on a swinging site less like a place it should be easy to get what you want and more like a place where you might find people with a similar interest.
Imagine if you wanted to find people to start a book club... a library may be a good starting point but not eveyone who walks through the door will want to read the same books or want to be in a club.
nice analogy "
i want a pokey out tongue smiley  |
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"Introduction. Never know what to put in my 1st message to people. "
How old are you? You want someone to come and hold your hand and show you how to put a half decent message together? |
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over a year ago
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"Introduction. Never know what to put in my 1st message to people. "
read their profile, digest it, craft a message introducing yourself, in a non pushy way offer yourself for consideration if you MATCH what they are seeking.
and then leave it there...
they will come back if interested.
no phone numbers... no msn.... |
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"Introduction advise "
Start with:-
Desperate from Halifax, need a fuck soon PLEASE!!!
Nothing else seems to work here so try that and let me know if it works
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"Introduction. Never know what to put in my 1st message to people.
read their profile, digest it, craft a message introducing yourself, in a non pushy way offer yourself for consideration if you MATCH what they are seeking.
and then leave it there...
they will come back if interested.
no phone numbers... no msn.... "
craft; intelligent, skill and dexterity. key word. like it |
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"I do feel I introduce myself like that but still doesn't seem to work"
It could be worse! All I am getting is messages from huge chicks and they seem nice but I am not attracted to them  |
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"I do feel I introduce myself like that but still doesn't seem to work
It could be worse! All I am getting is messages from huge chicks and they seem nice but I am not attracted to them "
oi!!!!! |
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over a year ago
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"I do feel I introduce myself like that but still doesn't seem to work
It could be worse! All I am getting is messages from huge chicks and they seem nice but I am not attracted to them "
maybe take off the bit in your profile about liking all shapes and sizes and be more specific about what you do like |
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"I do feel I introduce myself like that but still doesn't seem to work
It could be worse! All I am getting is messages from huge chicks and they seem nice but I am not attracted to them
maybe take off the bit in your profile about liking all shapes and sizes and be more specific about what you do like"
That's fine but I talked to someone who put 'no this or that' and got really nasty messages. There isn't a perfect solution. |
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Could always try the “fancy a shag approach” 
Or perhaps take a little time to fill out your profile rather than just tick all the boxes, at the moment all it tells us is that you cannot accommodate and you cannot travel so how would you intend meeting someone? Also it’s a dead giveaway that your favourite letter of the alphabet is x
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"I do feel I introduce myself like that but still doesn't seem to work
It could be worse! All I am getting is messages from huge chicks and they seem nice but I am not attracted to them
maybe take off the bit in your profile about liking all shapes and sizes and be more specific about what you do like
That's fine but I talked to someone who put 'no this or that' and got really nasty messages. There isn't a perfect solution."
course there isn't. why would there be. this site is a community of all sorts and mirrors everyday life. get your head round that and you will do better. |
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over a year ago
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"I do feel I introduce myself like that but still doesn't seem to work
It could be worse! All I am getting is messages from huge chicks and they seem nice but I am not attracted to them
maybe take off the bit in your profile about liking all shapes and sizes and be more specific about what you do like
That's fine but I talked to someone who put 'no this or that' and got really nasty messages. There isn't a perfect solution."
You don't have to say no this or that,just put what you do like its your profile and your preferences |
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"Introduction. Never know what to put in my 1st message to people. "
Try telling them why you are messaging them.
If it's because they are local.. tell 'um.
If it's because something stood out in their profile... tell 'um.
If it's because you're bored and have a semi-cob-on... tell 'um.
It's your reason for contacting them not anyone elses. |
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"I do feel I introduce myself like that but still doesn't seem to work
It could be worse! All I am getting is messages from huge chicks and they seem nice but I am not attracted to them
maybe take off the bit in your profile about liking all shapes and sizes and be more specific about what you do like"
Indeed...
Don't say you like all women if you don't.
It's a bit like saying you like taking it up the arse... then complaining at getting offers from men; because you really meant a woman's finger whilst she's giving head. |
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"That's fine but I talked to someone who put 'no this or that'
I suggest you make a cup of tea before reading ours!  "
Well yours tells them precisely what you don't want. do you get unpleasant messages? I might think about adding some things i don't like to mine. |
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"I do feel I introduce myself like that but still doesn't seem to work
It could be worse! All I am getting is messages from huge chicks and they seem nice but I am not attracted to them
maybe take off the bit in your profile about liking all shapes and sizes and be more specific about what you do like
Indeed...
Don't say you like all women if you don't.
It's a bit like saying you like taking it up the arse... then complaining at getting offers from men; because you really meant a woman's finger whilst she's giving head."
But i haven't said anything about a finger up my arse! I am confused with that bit. |
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"I believe I am been patient but was told about these forums so thought I'd check it out "
believe me 6 weeks is not patient. as a couple it took much longer than that to get actual sex. |
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over a year ago
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"I believe I am been patient but was told about these forums so thought I'd check it out
believe me 6 weeks is not patient. as a couple it took much longer than that to get actual sex."
You mean you've had actual sex?..........you rascals! |
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"I do feel I introduce myself like that but still doesn't seem to work
It could be worse! All I am getting is messages from huge chicks and they seem nice but I am not attracted to them
maybe take off the bit in your profile about liking all shapes and sizes and be more specific about what you do like
Indeed...
Don't say you like all women if you don't.
It's a bit like saying you like taking it up the arse... then complaining at getting offers from men; because you really meant a woman's finger whilst she's giving head.
But i haven't said anything about a finger up my arse! I am confused with that bit. "
That's why that bit starts with "it's a bit like saying"
I'll try another one. Saying you like all women and then complaining because fat birds you don't like message you, is a bit like ordering a full english breakfast and then complaining there was an egg included. |
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"do you get unpleasant messages?
If they don't fit our requirements, we block and move on, preventing any malicious messages being received "
I like that idea but it doesn't stop the first time hate mailers. Also a lot just don't read profiles. I bet you still get messages from people who dont read yours fully. Its all pretty frustrating at times |
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"I do feel I introduce myself like that but still doesn't seem to work
It could be worse! All I am getting is messages from huge chicks and they seem nice but I am not attracted to them
maybe take off the bit in your profile about liking all shapes and sizes and be more specific about what you do like
Indeed...
Don't say you like all women if you don't.
It's a bit like saying you like taking it up the arse... then complaining at getting offers from men; because you really meant a woman's finger whilst she's giving head.
But i haven't said anything about a finger up my arse! I am confused with that bit.
That's why that bit starts with "it's a bit like saying"
I'll try another one. Saying you like all women and then complaining because fat birds you don't like message you, is a bit like ordering a full english breakfast and then complaining there was an egg included."
Ok but i like eggs so that wouldn't be a problem. I don't like a finger up my arse at all though |
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"do you get unpleasant messages?
If they don't fit our requirements, we block and move on, preventing any malicious messages being received
I like that idea but it doesn't stop the first time hate mailers. Also a lot just don't read profiles. I bet you still get messages from people who dont read yours fully. Its all pretty frustrating at times "
report and delete hate and abusive mailers. that's where everyone has to do. perhaps you feel you are different in some way to others on here? |
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"I do feel I introduce myself like that but still doesn't seem to work
It could be worse! All I am getting is messages from huge chicks and they seem nice but I am not attracted to them
maybe take off the bit in your profile about liking all shapes and sizes and be more specific about what you do like
Indeed...
Don't say you like all women if you don't.
It's a bit like saying you like taking it up the arse... then complaining at getting offers from men; because you really meant a woman's finger whilst she's giving head.
But i haven't said anything about a finger up my arse! I am confused with that bit.
That's why that bit starts with "it's a bit like saying"
I'll try another one. Saying you like all women and then complaining because fat birds you don't like message you, is a bit like ordering a full english breakfast and then complaining there was an egg included.
Ok but i like eggs so that wouldn't be a problem. I don't like a finger up my arse at all though "
God help the fat chicks! |
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"I do feel I introduce myself like that but still doesn't seem to work
It could be worse! All I am getting is messages from huge chicks and they seem nice but I am not attracted to them
maybe take off the bit in your profile about liking all shapes and sizes and be more specific about what you do like
Indeed...
Don't say you like all women if you don't.
It's a bit like saying you like taking it up the arse... then complaining at getting offers from men; because you really meant a woman's finger whilst she's giving head.
But i haven't said anything about a finger up my arse! I am confused with that bit.
That's why that bit starts with "it's a bit like saying"
I'll try another one. Saying you like all women and then complaining because fat birds you don't like message you, is a bit like ordering a full english breakfast and then complaining there was an egg included.
Ok but i like eggs so that wouldn't be a problem. I don't like a finger up my arse at all though
God help the fat chicks!"
Why do they like eggs and fingers too? I like the hard fast sex its great. |
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"I do feel I say things like that I just dint seem to have any luck. I feel lack of verifications doesn't help "
FFS you have only been on here 6 weeks, you have a verification, that is more than some blokes have, this site is not an automatic shag site, you have to put yourself out there, become a member of the community, as you would do in real life, |
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over a year ago
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"If that's the case why would you just want a long friends list & how do I them out  "
If they're not keeping in touch with you or wanting to make any arrangements to meet you then they're not your friends so I would just delete them |
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"Do these people ever leave the house on their own...
I do wonder how they get themselves back "
Sat nav on their phone, or they only go to the local shop 3 doors down and the pub 5 doors up |
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"Do these people ever leave the house on their own...
I do wonder how they get themselves back
Sat nav on their phone, or they only go to the local shop 3 doors down and the pub 5 doors up "
n they got their mam wiv em |
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