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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ok, you've seen them, you've talked to them....how do you move into the "id like to play with you, arena?" top tips and advice please...."
If its via pm just come out with it |
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By *uzy444 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"ok, you've seen them, you've talked to them....how do you move into the "id like to play with you, arena?" top tips and advice please....
If its via pm just come out with it"
what if its at a club ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In a club we always chat a bit, then we ask the other person/people what they are into, how they are finding the club, what they are looking to do that night. If what they are looking for matches what we are, we (or they) usually then suggest going to a playroom 
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I'm crap at gauging if someone is as into me as I am into them. I hate making myself look a twat if I've got it completely wrong. Funny as I haven't got a problem with making a twat of myself when d*unk!! |
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By *uzy444 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm crap at gauging if someone is as into me as I am into them. I hate making myself look a twat if I've got it completely wrong. Funny as I haven't got a problem with making a twat of myself when d*unk!! "
i rarely drink...maybe this is my problem...lolol but yes im a total moron when it comes to knowing...i just think people are just being chatty and friendly and sociable  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm crap at gauging if someone is as into me as I am into them. I hate making myself look a twat if I've got it completely wrong. Funny as I haven't got a problem with making a twat of myself when d*unk!!
i rarely drink...maybe this is my problem...lolol but yes im a total moron when it comes to knowing...i just think people are just being chatty and friendly and sociable "
I'm shit at it too, especially sober, which is most of the time!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Normally once i have chatted for a while and i feel they are into me i will usually something like" i will catch you later if you fancy playing". Never failed me yet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm crap at gauging if someone is as into me as I am into them. I hate making myself look a twat if I've got it completely wrong. Funny as I haven't got a problem with making a twat of myself when d*unk!!
i rarely drink...maybe this is my problem...lolol but yes im a total moron when it comes to knowing...i just think people are just being chatty and friendly and sociable "
Im the same in a club or party setting. But not had much experience. Usually find when play starts with someone else another guy asks to join in  |
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"I'm crap at gauging if someone is as into me as I am into them. I hate making myself look a twat if I've got it completely wrong. Funny as I haven't got a problem with making a twat of myself when d*unk!!
i rarely drink...maybe this is my problem...lolol but yes im a total moron when it comes to knowing...i just think people are just being chatty and friendly and sociable "
Nowt wrong with not drinking much my kidneys say the same thing every weekend!... I worry about the rejection that I'll look a fool which is silly cause I'd have no problem in say no sorry to someone I didn't find attractive |
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By *uzy444 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Normally once i have chatted for a while and i feel they are into me i will usually something like" i will catch you later if you fancy playing". Never failed me yet "
i like this, not too pushy... |
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"ok, you've seen them, you've talked to them....how do you move into the "id like to play with you, arena?" top tips and advice please...."
Walk up to them, give a big kiss, grab hold of their cock and lead them away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Normally once i have chatted for a while and i feel they are into me i will usually something like" i will catch you later if you fancy playing". Never failed me yet
i like this, not too pushy... "
Its all about reading body language, sometimes people will say there only there to meet couple/ females etc, doesnt mean you can socialise and chat with them though.
Other times i will ask what they are looking for etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Normally once i have chatted for a while and i feel they are into me i will usually something like" i will catch you later if you fancy playing". Never failed me yet
i like this, not too pushy...
Its all about reading body language, sometimes people will say there only there to meet couple/ females etc, doesnt mean you can socialise and chat with them though.
Other times i will ask what they are looking for etc "
Come say hi |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Normally once i have chatted for a while and i feel they are into me i will usually something like" i will catch you later if you fancy playing". Never failed me yet
i like this, not too pushy...
Its all about reading body language, sometimes people will say there only there to meet couple/ females etc, doesnt mean you can socialise and chat with them though.
Other times i will ask what they are looking for etc
Come say hi "
Maybe if your good  |
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"ok, you've seen them, you've talked to them....how do you move into the "id like to play with you, arena?" top tips and advice please....
If its via pm just come out with it
what if its at a club ?"
Are you serious? You cannot be serious, I saw chalk dust! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"ok, you've seen them, you've talked to them....how do you move into the "id like to play with you, arena?" top tips and advice please...."
I have a chat see if there's any common ground, if a conversation goes well without any awkward pauses then I just ask if the person/s would like to play sometime. Doesn't necessarily mean right now but the intention can be interpreted either way by the other person/s. If it's at a club the other party usually suggests going for it and we take it from there |
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By *uzy444 OP Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"You look fab!
How many people have asked you on here?"
im not talking about being asked,..and in clubs, only ever been asked twice by a couple and never by a woman ..to date...
im talking about asking.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm crap at gauging if someone is as into me as I am into them. I hate making myself look a twat if I've got it completely wrong. Funny as I haven't got a problem with making a twat of myself when d*unk!! "
Been my problem forever bit like that Billy Connoly sketch with the girl with her tongue in his ear and he has no idea she's into him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You look fab!
How many people have asked you on here?
im not talking about being asked,..and in clubs, only ever been asked twice by a couple and never by a woman ..to date...
im talking about asking...."
Honestly just ask if you dont you wont no. |
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By *uzy444 OP Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"Just ask them Suzy. You don't seem like a woman who would come across as rude xx"
thankyou..i am very respectful of boundaries..even more so with couples.. i expect them to go and discuss stuff between themselves and come back to ask, i suppose... wouldnt want to put them on the spot, so to speak |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just ask them Suzy. You don't seem like a woman who would come across as rude xx
thankyou..i am very respectful of boundaries..even more so with couples.. i expect them to go and discuss stuff between themselves and come back to ask, i suppose... wouldnt want to put them on the spot, so to speak "
I think you should of gone for it, nothing ventured nothing gained and they may have been feeling the same way too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just ask them Suzy. You don't seem like a woman who would come across as rude xx
thankyou..i am very respectful of boundaries..even more so with couples.. i expect them to go and discuss stuff between themselves and come back to ask, i suppose... wouldnt want to put them on the spot, so to speak "
If me and hubby go as a couple we chat with couples and when they ask i feel guilty saying i only play with men and he watches. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm crap at gauging if someone is as into me as I am into them. I hate making myself look a twat if I've got it completely wrong. Funny as I haven't got a problem with making a twat of myself when d*unk!! "
This exactly for me! lol
too frightened to ask to play, might get myself banned from the club  |
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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago
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Oh my 'Playdar' is totally off at the mo, so interested to see how others do this, I don't drink at all so 'dutch courage' isn't an option.
I worry that I come across as too interested and pushy or as if I don't give a damn 
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By *uzy444 OP Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"Just ask them Suzy. You don't seem like a woman who would come across as rude xx
thankyou..i am very respectful of boundaries..even more so with couples.. i expect them to go and discuss stuff between themselves and come back to ask, i suppose... wouldnt want to put them on the spot, so to speak
I think you should of gone for it, nothing ventured nothing gained and they may have been feeling the same way too "
i have a feeling you might be right about that...i shall totally bear that in mind..thankyou xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"ok, you've seen them, you've talked to them....how do you move into the "id like to play with you, arena?" top tips and advice please...."
Just ask me nicely lol |
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By *uzy444 OP Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"ok, you've seen them, you've talked to them....how do you move into the "id like to play with you, arena?" top tips and advice please....
Just ask me nicely lol "
me. you nook and cranny exploring in north wales?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"ok, you've seen them, you've talked to them....how do you move into the "id like to play with you, arena?" top tips and advice please....
Just ask me nicely lol
me. you nook and cranny exploring in north wales? "
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By *uzy444 OP Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"Just ask. What's the worst that can happen? Or you could play spin the duck
Wish we had played "
right thats it! i get to choose for my birthday the spin the duck contestants...and if there is more than 9, ill stay in the damn hot tub... |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"Just ask. What's the worst that can happen? Or you could play spin the duck
Wish we had played
right thats it! i get to choose for my birthday the spin the duck contestants...and if there is more than 9, ill stay in the damn hot tub... "
Choose me, choose me |
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By *educedWoman
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Just ask. What's the worst that can happen? Or you could play spin the duck
Wish we had played
right thats it! i get to choose for my birthday the spin the duck contestants...and if there is more than 9, ill stay in the damn hot tub... "
The chosen ones lol. Let the duck decide! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just ask. What's the worst that can happen? Or you could play spin the duck
Wish we had played
right thats it! i get to choose for my birthday the spin the duck contestants...and if there is more than 9, ill stay in the damn hot tub...
The chosen ones lol. Let the duck decide! "
That duck does have a lot to answer for  |
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By *uzy444 OP Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"Just ask. What's the worst that can happen? Or you could play spin the duck
Wish we had played
right thats it! i get to choose for my birthday the spin the duck contestants...and if there is more than 9, ill stay in the damn hot tub...
Choose me, choose me "
why of course.xx.31st oct jaydees we have a date with the duck, and if it doesnt oblige, we will shoot the damn thing...lolol |
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By *uzy444 OP Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"Just ask. What's the worst that can happen? Or you could play spin the duck
Wish we had played
right thats it! i get to choose for my birthday the spin the duck contestants...and if there is more than 9, ill stay in the damn hot tub...
The chosen ones lol. Let the duck decide! "
i think its on my side..seems to have been anyway... wanna play again? xx |
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By *uzy444 OP Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"Just ask. What's the worst that can happen? Or you could play spin the duck
Wish we had played
right thats it! i get to choose for my birthday the spin the duck contestants...and if there is more than 9, ill stay in the damn hot tub...
The chosen ones lol. Let the duck decide!
That duck does have a lot to answer for "
no alchol..got to blame something |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm crap at gauging if someone is as into me as I am into them. I hate making myself look a twat if I've got it completely wrong. Funny as I haven't got a problem with making a twat of myself when d*unk!!
i rarely drink...maybe this is my problem...lolol but yes im a total moron when it comes to knowing...i just think people are just being chatty and friendly and sociable "
I totally disagree with having a drink if I'm trying to chat with someone. I feel the scale of being an arse tips out of my favour with every sip. Even if it's just social, alcohol and caffeine are my social killzones because I go manic on caffeine (definitely fun for work without my phone) and alcohol just does nothing for my already sketchy social filtering |
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By *educedWoman
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Just ask. What's the worst that can happen? Or you could play spin the duck
Wish we had played
right thats it! i get to choose for my birthday the spin the duck contestants...and if there is more than 9, ill stay in the damn hot tub...
The chosen ones lol. Let the duck decide!
i think its on my side..seems to have been anyway... wanna play again? xx"
Absolutely. I am always up for duck play. |
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By *uzy444 OP Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"James is furiously trying to clear his diary for 31st October... considering some of the potential attendees...
you could be the surprise in the birthday cake? ..mmmmmm yum xx
You hoping for a pretty big cake then greedy Suzy you'd have to share it me thinks "
sharing is caring xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At a club I just go up to them smile and lead them off to the nearest play area ...works for me "
I can see that being highly effective. If you do that to me, ever, please bite my shoulder and let me know I'm not dreaming. One of my biggest fantasies |
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"ok, you've seen them, you've talked to them....how do you move into the "id like to play with you, arena?" top tips and advice please...."
Just send them a message & attach the pic of your tongue poking out.
That pretty much says very playful to me x |
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By *ames6ft5Man
over a year ago
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"James is furiously trying to clear his diary for 31st October... considering some of the potential attendees...
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You're just teasing
(Suzy... you see you were right to ask the question... I've no idea when there is or isn't interest.) |
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By *uzy444 OP Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"James is furiously trying to clear his diary for 31st October... considering some of the potential attendees...
You're just teasing
(Suzy... you see you were right to ask the question... I've no idea when there is or isn't interest.)"
hey someone had to find out the answers... .its like playing give me a clue otherwise..xx
(ps..james, do you think my question was subtle enough??) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never been chatting to someone in the club and asked to play with them, i have waited until i have seen a door ajar popped my head in and asked can i come in, i have probably missed loads of opportunities though but i just don't get if a woman wants to play or not, so annoying ha |
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