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By *uby0000 OP Woman
over a year ago
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if you want to end it with someone would you do the dumping? how would you do it? by text?
I was in this situation recently where I did not want to see someone again as boy had they changed and not for the better
text is not very personal but I think best |
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By *uby0000 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I got dumped via email... Not nice.. but depends how serious the thing is x"
at the end of the day if its over its over so don't really matter how its done I myself am very relieved its done now and they are welcome to him |
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I think its a matter or the times we live in. It seems were happy to take the human element out of starting things but not ending them. Online dating, Emails, text messages, etc. Then meet up but if it doesn't go well we're upset when it ends the way it started. With a message on a screen. I think we need to learn to put down our devices and talk again. And yes I know the irony what I've said and the fact its written here lol.x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got dumped via email... Not nice.. but depends how serious the thing is x
at the end of the day if its over its over so don't really matter how its done I myself am very relieved its done now and they are welcome to him"
Depends really on how you have communicated in the past, if text is the normal method of communication i dont see it as a problem |
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Have been both the dumper an dumpie many time thankfully always face to face. If you can get into a relationship with someone surely its only right when ever possible but fully understand that at times depending on the facts txts email might be the best optain |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In days gone bye, a letter was seen as a reasonable way of ending things, and in my time away with the military I have sent and received such Dear Johns.
Email and text are the letter of the 21 st C. What matters are the words and sentiment in them, I wouldn't advocate text speak or telling someone that their brother has a bigger willy though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends on the situation,if all respect for that person had gone due to their behaviour then yes a text or possibly being a bit more mature a phone call,why put yourself in a position of a needless face to face confrontation?
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Depends on the situation...a casual someone I would do it by text, a relationship would be face to face. A relationship in my book involves and emotional attachment at some point and this would be someone I had cared about, so I would explain my reasons properly
I have in the past had to walk away from platonic friendships because the person had changed or behaved in a way I could not find acceptable and have always explained in person why i could no longer be friends with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think it depends on the reasons for dumping and the level of the relationship.
I would say that telling someone you had filed for divorce, after 20 years of marriage and the only reason being you had just grown apart... Might be a tad heartless.
Telling someone it just isn't working after a few dates I think it's kinda ok.
There are degrees. I just think the text way is a little erm gutless (sorry) as it means you don't have to deal with the other person's feelings at all. But I guess there are circumstances where that is the only way.
Personally I would always prefer the human touch. Even if it's over the phone. And I would always prefer honesty.
If someone had changed for the worse I think I would want to tell them this. Clearly they weren't always that way and maybe they need to hear they have taken a bad turn. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I dumped my first ever bf by text  in my defence I was only 15 and I hadn't planned to do it by text, but he kept on and on so it had to be done! Lol
That said, being adults, I think it would be pretty nasty to end a relationship by text. Seems so tacky n lazy. In my opinion it would only be acceptable to do this if you weren't in a proper relationship with them to begin with!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think it depends on the circumstances surrounding the "relationship" i dont see there is a problem if the circumstances prevented communication by phone or face to face and the two people had only been using texting as their means of communicating.
or the relationship was an affair and one was married and didnt want to tip off the spouse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I walked away with out saying anything... I know it was wrong and should of said something, but i had made my mind up and no amount of words that could have been said was going to make me stay....
I have since said "sorry" a little too late maybe..... |
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"I walked away with out saying anything... I know it was wrong and should of said something, but i had made my mind up and no amount of words that could have been said was going to make me stay....
I have since said "sorry" a little too late maybe..... "
Sometimes people need time and space to get their head around things and only when that is all sorted, do they have the time and inclination to say sorry. I hate americanisms* but some 'closure' is necessary at some point and 'sorry' is a mature thing to say.
* except for "giddyahereyawolf!" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unless there is a risk of violence (in which case there are other measures to take) then no. Never. Absolutely not.
Have the balls to do it in person if you're going to to do it. By email / text is a selfish, cowardly and cruel way to do it and it shows a lack of respect for the other person. |
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"if you want to end it with someone would you do the dumping? how would you do it? by text?
I was in this situation recently where I did not want to see someone again as boy had they changed and not for the better
text is not very personal but I think best"
I think it would come down to whether I had any all inclusive or free texts left   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got dumped via carrier pigeon once, that was weird
better than being dumped on by a carrier pigeon."
I'd never even contemplate a relationship with a pigeon! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got dumped via email... Not nice.. but depends how serious the thing is x"
ditto! I had been away six months, three weeks before I was due to arrive home I got a dear John via email, It was very hard to take! |
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Text? I felt bad enough doing by phone! In my defense, he was over 200 miles away and was expecting a visit. If I had the money I would've gone up there, had "the talk" and then either stayed in a hotel or booked a coach straight home but at the time I thought I would rather he know beforehand so that if he still wanted me to visit it would be as friends only.
All other break-ups I have done face to face.
- Amy. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ive been dumped by a text message & its not nice... if u have the balls to start seeing someone face to face then do it to their face. Yes we do online dating... but text dumping isnt the way to go |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think ending a relationship by text is quite low myself, my daughters boyfriend text her to say he had met someone else and they way over, man enough to find a new partner behind her back but not man enough to give her enough respect after 3 years to tell her to her face  i cant think of a lower way to finish with someone myself |
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By *uby0000 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think dumping someone by text or email is spineless and an inexcusable way to behave if I'm perfectly honest.
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a lot of peeps on here agree then that dumping by text is low
it shows what the person was like oh and I was referring to someone that they were engaged to!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dumping by text is low but at least you know where you stand. My cousin went to work one day is ex wife got removal men in cleaned out the flat shipped the contents back to South America and got on a plane.
He came home to the carpet everything was gone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Dumping by text is low but at least you know where you stand. My cousin went to work one day is ex wife got removal men in cleaned out the flat shipped the contents back to South America and got on a plane.
He came home to the carpet everything was gone."
wow!  |
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