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Nah.
Not for me.
If someone insists the first encounter has to involve physical interactions when I don't yet know what the chemistry is like in person and if I'll even want to, sack that shit right off  |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.
Is it a good idea?"
Don’t
He doesn’t respect you, that’s why he asked
If you accept, he’ll respect you even less |
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"Nah.
Not for me.
If someone insists the first encounter has to involve physical interactions when I don't yet know what the chemistry is like in person and if I'll even want to, sack that shit right off "
Exactly this! |
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"Nah.
Not for me.
If someone insists the first encounter has to involve physical interactions when I don't yet know what the chemistry is like in person and if I'll even want to, sack that shit right off "
This is the wise choice indeed
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By (user no longer on site) OP 38 weeks ago
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"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.
Is it a good idea?
But will he still respect you in the morning?"
Do you think he respected me when he suggested skipping the social? |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 38 weeks ago
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If you've gotten to know them well enough through messaging, then you may feel as if sex is the best thing and a social is just confirming what you already know about compatibility. I prefer socials, personally  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 38 weeks ago
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"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.
Is it a good idea?
Don’t
He doesn’t respect you, that’s why he asked
If you accept, he’ll respect you even less "
Agreed.
Sorry I'm working backwards through the thread. God knows why. |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.
Is it a good idea?
Don’t
He doesn’t respect you, that’s why he asked
If you accept, he’ll respect you even less
Agreed.
Sorry I'm working backwards through the thread. God knows why."
It’s as clear as that
Wondering, had you already arranged/agreed to a social, then he brought this up?
I think a lot of guys are clueless to how offensive they can sound
In his head = wow your just so stunning I don’t know if I could make it through a social without needing you
Reality = I don’t really care about knowing you, I’d like to just rush to the part where I use you like a way hole |
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By *hilloutMan 38 weeks ago
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Depends. How much interaction have you had with the individual?
If you've spoken frequently and built up a rapport that's one thing.
If contact has been very recent and minimal so far, then he's showing a lack of respect for not wanting a social first; particularly if this was a request of yours. |
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God no what if he opens his mouth and is full on chav, or doesn't have two brain cells to run together?
Even worse hasn't washed for a week and you don't realise until naked.
For me no social no sex.
Mrs
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"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.
Is it a good idea?
But will he still respect you in the morning?
Do you think he respected me when he suggested skipping the social?"
Isn't that your answer then? |
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It is nice to have a social first but unfortunately in a lot of people’s cases they simply haven’t got the free time available to spend an evening having a “social”.
Most of our meets have been without a social first as we only get to play on occasional weekends due to kids & having to work some weekends.
I suppose we’ve been lucky in that it’s always worked for us so far, we do a WhatsApp group chat between parties involved so we can get to know each other likes dislikes etc before we meet |
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We always insist on a social, guys can be as nice as pie on here, but sat face to face is another matter.. you can still take things further on the evening if there's that spark.. men shouldn't be pushing the rules.. |
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Hello
I’ve read all comments and have to ask a dim question but if I don’t ask I wont know:
What happens when people visit a club and meet random people for nookie there?
Is there a social aspect first? Is it more likely to be ok because it’s a safe place?
Never been so don’t know.
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I only social when I’m not sure. More times they have resulted in no second meet than going onto fucking.
However I had a break on here as I met someone… and when I came back my fab senses had dwindled… so the next guy I arranged a social despite him pushing for a straight meet. I’m glad I did… 4 minutes in I knew it wasn’t a goer… 8 minutes in I ended the social.
I guess I’m saying go with your gut. If you’re asking on here I’ll assume a social is needed x |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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"Hello
I’ve read all comments and have to ask a dim question but if I don’t ask I wont know:
What happens when people visit a club and meet random people for nookie there?
Is there a social aspect first? Is it more likely to be ok because it’s a safe place?
Never been so don’t know.
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The club is a social aspect in itself, so there’s that
also, a club environment offers a level of safety. A big part of the social is getting to know someone not only so there’s a vibe/connectiok, it’s also to get a feel for how safe you’ll be.
The last thing you want to do is be locked in a house with a stranger
Now imagine she isn’t getting the right vibe and needing to ask this stranger (that’s expecting sex) they need to leave
It’s all about getting a good connection and feeling safe |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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"We always insist on a social, guys can be as nice as pie on here, but sat face to face is another matter.. you can still take things further on the evening if there's that spark.. men shouldn't be pushing the rules.. "
If anyone pushes for more than a social I cancel it totally. |
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"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.
Is it a good idea?"
very bad idea,, anyone can send nice polite messages but your safety is paramount first instincts are there for a reason,,, what is he hiding,,? the guy sounds spooky,,,  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 38 weeks ago
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"It sounds as though he might be lacking in the personality department and is worried a social will bore you off. "
I love this answer!!!
Ain't that the truth!  |
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"It is nice to have a social first but unfortunately in a lot of people’s cases they simply haven’t got the free time available to spend an evening having a “social”.
Most of our meets have been without a social first as we only get to play on occasional weekends due to kids & having to work some weekends.
I suppose we’ve been lucky in that it’s always worked for us so far, we do a WhatsApp group chat between parties involved so we can get to know each other likes dislikes etc before we meet "
That's great when you're a couple and you have each other as a safety net.
If someone can't spare an hour for a quick coffee, with will they have more time for an actual meet? |
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"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.
Is it a good idea?"
Happened before ... The connection n tease over the phone was so hot
By the time both met for first date/social the hot fun toke place even before the first hello ...
You Mr,right here,right now !!! In her place
Followed by more meets . That was hot ...
One other ... Instant hotel meet.
No chat , no connection no nothing .
Mr , here now , hotel.
Boring  done nothing to me
Ended with 90 quid shorter and empty balls .
Fast blind hook up ? Risky .
Mind the STI . Try at list make sure is safe . . . |
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I seem to have had a different experience to others on here - I’ve had meets without socials a few times. Lots of texting, sharing voice notes and recent / real time pics - nothing hotter sometimes than inviting a guy into your bed then kicking him out after!
Always on the understanding that if he turns up and there is absolutely no chemistry, he has catfished me or is not clean that I get to shut the door in his face!
Busy life, lots to juggle, don’t always have loads of free time for socials - but do trust your gut and make sure you’ve spent enough time chatting
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I laughed way to much at that!!
