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What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs |
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs"
"Hi" is just a little lazy, it invest zero time or effort. Why not go for:
" Hi,I'm Mick. I just stumbled across your profile and thought you sounded hot. Let me know if you'd be interested in a chat. " |
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Most people have the assumption - and I'm not saying it's right, but I use it - that people generally put the same effort into how they do the fucks like how they type.
Most people don't wanna be home by 9pm with cum in their hair and sixteen 'Hub tabs open.
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We used to answer all messages, even the Hi ones but the sequence that follows is usually "How's you" "what you up to""how's fab treating you""had much luck on here" etc so we are more selective now although the odd one might slip through. |
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Because of a million people doing the same thing. Like a factory line. It's not rude to say it's just not gonna stand out.
So instead I say dayumn gurl you know any medics because you're making my heart go cuurraaazzzzy.
Which results in 0 responses.
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We'll answer with the same back and most of the time there is absolutely zero chance of the sender bringing anymore to the conversation! Admittedly after the 20th 'Hi!' I generally give up and just delete. *shrug emoji
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over a year ago
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as an icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs"
And If this be error, and upon him proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved. |
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"We used to answer all messages, even the Hi ones but the sequence that follows is usually "How's you" "what you up to""how's fab treating you""had much luck on here" etc so we are more selective now although the odd one might slip through. "
We musr be messaging the same person! |
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By *red333Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs"
Some don't view it as a sex site, some view it as a way of life, a social setting with conversationalists and words (no spelling mistakes) some say like minded but how could anyone possibly think like me oh and some view it as a dating site, oh and some are completely over it and just come to waste time  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
If that is how you want to do fab OP then carry on. It's your fab journey. But you can't really complain if your way isn't the way others do their fab journey because despite you thinking everyone is on here for the same reason they are not,and quite a lot of people are fairly fussy about who they fuçk or chat to. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
If someone with a good detailed profile sends a hi,I'll probably give them the benefit of the doubt & reply.
If a profile with one line and not v good pics sends one I delete,it looks like they can't be arsed with a profile or to put any effort in a message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone with a good detailed profile sends a hi,I'll probably give them the benefit of the doubt & reply.
If a profile with one line and not v good pics sends one I delete,it looks like they can't be arsed with a profile or to put any effort in a message."
Really well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs"
hi op how r u? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs"
Because it’s boring getting the same messages over and over. Just because people want a fuck as you say doesn’t mean you will go with just anyone  for us needs to be some sort of spark/ connection |
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I think everything is wrong with “hi” and I’ll try to explain to the best of my ability why.
This is online world and you have only one chance here to impress. “Hi” isn’t the best way to do it.
Unlike in the real world, “hi” has a potential as it comes with energy exchange, body language, eye contact, chemistry, attraction and so on.
Hope this makes sense. |
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And there are variations of hi like hey, what's up, how's you etc. They all pop up from time to time usually unaccompanied by anything else. Icebreaker or lazy contact? Then why not use a wink? Whatever suits, you reep what you sow, I suppose |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On the flip side, some of us write well written, well thought out and relevant messages to people, and guess what? They get ignored as well OP.
Often the reason they get overlooked is because of all the pointless, ill-judged 'hi' messages from lazy men trying to get their leg over that overload all the women & couples so they end up ignoring or missing the good ones.
The 'hru bbe' brigade are the problem here. Be part of the solution, not part of the problem. |
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as an icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs"
OP, imagine if you will you’re a woman or couple on Fab.
You get anywhere between 10-100 messages per day and 90% of them start with “Hi” and nothing else. Despite yourself, you are feeling generous today and respond to them all with “Hi”. You then get back “How are you?” so you respond with “Good, thanks. And you?”
Imagine doing that 50 times while trying to juggle work, family life, home/personal admin, messages to friends and family and conversations with Fabbers you already know.
How quickly does it get tiresome?
As has been said above, if you have a good profile, someone *may* respond because they can see you’re not a boring wanking dead. The reality is you are unlikely to get a response because fab just isn’t the kind of platform where that sort of message works. Quite apart from the fact it’s not instant messaging so is a slow, painful way to have a conversation, you need to stand out from the crowd. Because us men are just that - a crowd.
It’s not people being rude or ignorant. It’s people managing their inbox, accounts and lives in whatever way they want. |
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By *AFKA HovisMan
over a year ago
Sindon Swingdon Swindon |
Imagine being given a hint on how not to fuck up, and instead of listening, complaining.
You don't have to write an essay.
Here's an old one that has worked
"I can tell you are a total size queen... So the only question is ... Large red or large white?"
You can have that for free. Just don't message anyone in the forum.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Imagine you're in a bar, and you walk up to a complete stranger and just say, "hi", probably with your cock out as well.
That's what you're presenting people with on here in essence.
I would ignore you as well. |
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As quite a few posters have said, the opening message has very little to do with it as long as it's not grim. We will click on the profile and see what we think. To be honest our vanilla life is stupid busy for the foreseeable so it's more a case of whether we reply to say no thanks if some effort has been put in or just delete.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Imagine you're in a bar, and you walk up to a complete stranger and just say, "hi", probably with your cock out as well.
That's what you're presenting people with on here in essence.
I would ignore you as well."
If a hot man walked up to me in a bar and said hi, I'd say hi back.
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As others have said, simple “hi” or “how are you?” messages show a complete lack of imagination. We often ignore these type of messages.
On the contrary, an essay (especially the copy and paste type) is unnecessary, but at least some degree of effort and indication your bio has been read is always welcome. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Imagine you're in a bar, and you walk up to a complete stranger and just say, "hi", probably with your cock out as well.
That's what you're presenting people with on here in essence.
I would ignore you as well.
If a hot man walked up to me in a bar and said hi, I'd say hi back.
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Yeah but just hi, and stood there with his dick out - I'd move away and call the police. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Imagine you're in a bar, and you walk up to a complete stranger and just say, "hi", probably with your cock out as well.
That's what you're presenting people with on here in essence.
I would ignore you as well.
If a hot man walked up to me in a bar and said hi, I'd say hi back.
Yeah but just hi, and stood there with his dick out - I'd move away and call the police."
Would you walk up to someone in a bar with your shirt off and deliver a monologue?
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over a year ago
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"Imagine you're in a bar, and you walk up to a complete stranger and just say, "hi", probably with your cock out as well.
That's what you're presenting people with on here in essence.
I would ignore you as well.
If a hot man walked up to me in a bar and said hi, I'd say hi back.
Yeah but just hi, and stood there with his dick out - I'd move away and call the police.
Would you walk up to someone in a bar with your shirt off and deliver a monologue?
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No, but I only changed my profile photo about 10 minutes ago re another thread. |
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs"
If you receive 100+ message a day and 80-90% have this as an introduction or icebreaker it literally becomes ohhh another
Yes it will be opened to see if they elaborate a bit more
Plenty of messages are a bit more cheeky or eye catching and will be engaged with
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"Hi, I noticed your profile and found it really interesting. I decided to drop you a line as I felt that after careful consideration my profile is a good match for your criteria and I feel that we could be a good match. I especially felt that what you wrote about a sense of humour was a good match, as well as your appreciation of exotic underwear and enticing footwear. Have a look at my profile and see if you feel it's a good match, and if not then I wish you the best of luck on here."
Chirping crickets and if you're lucky you're not blocked... |
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Personally, a “hi how are you?” pleasantry is bullshit and a waste of a message. The recipient will reply “fine and you?” or something similar which will warrant a similar “yes I am fine” response and it’s all empty conversation and a waste of time.
In a club or pub, such dialogue is fine - but on here we like to filter out the bull-shit. Face pics always guarantee a reply from us, even if it’s a polite no. |
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"Imagine you're in a bar, and you walk up to a complete stranger and just say, "hi", probably with your cock out as well.
That's what you're presenting people with on here in essence.
I would ignore you as well.
If a hot man walked up to me in a bar and said hi, I'd say hi back.
Yeah but just hi, and stood there with his dick out - I'd move away and call the police.
Would you walk up to someone in a bar with your shirt off and deliver a monologue?
No, but I only changed my profile photo about 10 minutes ago re another thread."
There's no argument either way with that, though.
Approaching at a bar is meeting on the fly, you're there, they're there, they can say no or walk or whatever.
Talking online is completely different. It allows people to understand specifics before they ever have to meet.
I've done both, a lot, and they'll just never be comparable.
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If I write a long message, it sometimes comes across as a cut and paste.
I've already put my cut and paste message on my profile so why would I waste time by cutting and pasting the same thing into a message?
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"We used to answer all messages, even the Hi ones but the sequence that follows is usually "How's you" "what you up to""how's fab treating you""had much luck on here" etc so we are more selective now although the odd one might slip through. "
This exactly is what is wrong with "Hi" messages. That and it shows zero effort. If they can't be bothered to read my profile and engage in a proper conversation with me, why would I bother to reply. |
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By *uperShyWoman
over a year ago
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs"
I know right! How dare people be so picky. They assume the more words used the better the fuck right? and why are they not swooning over a cock pic profile with lack of content? What's wrong with the people today? Like you said we all want to fuck, so you keep telling everybody that, I'm sure you'll change everyone's way of using the site
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Imagine you're in a bar, and you walk up to a complete stranger and just say, "hi", probably with your cock out as well.
That's what you're presenting people with on here in essence.
I would ignore you as well.
If a hot man walked up to me in a bar and said hi, I'd say hi back.
Yeah but just hi, and stood there with his dick out - I'd move away and call the police.
Would you walk up to someone in a bar with your shirt off and deliver a monologue?
No, but I only changed my profile photo about 10 minutes ago re another thread."
My point was, you can't compare real life introductions to those on here.
In real life most people say q simple hello. |
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as an icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs"
Bit lame if ask me. If I was a bird I’d want a bit more than what you say to someone you passed in the street and made weird eye contact with.
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You can be the same indistinct single man, like the others who said just 'Hi' and you'll likely never stand out.
You can say the same in a bar or club but there's body language etc, that expresses more.
There's nothing stopping you from carrying on the same way here. But most people will question your motivation level.
If the online world is too harsh for you, perhaps stick to swinging at the clubs. |
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"Most people have the assumption - and I'm not saying it's right, but I use it - that people generally put the same effort into how they do the fucks like how they type.
Most people don't wanna be home by 9pm with cum in their hair and sixteen 'Hub tabs open.
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Well that would be entirely false. I just really can't be arsed playing email ping-pong. There's a lot of lonely people on these apps who just like to chit chat.
That said if I get a response to a hi How are you the conversation generally goes quite well. But I'm fucked if I'm writing a long detailed message blowing smoke up some eejits ass that they will likely still ignore anyway.
That said I'm quite fortunate to not initiate many conversations anyway. |
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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago
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A hi in the pub might work, might get a response, a hi back. But I can also keep walking and not need to continue the conversation.
In a pub I also don’t have 100s of people from up and down the country saying hi at the same time. I wouldn’t have time for my drink, or to spend with my friends I’m there with before chucking out time.
There are lots of reasons why lots of people do and those who don’t respond.
I’m simply managing my time as best I can |
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By *ack 500Man
over a year ago
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Double standards on here most times , hi is just a way of letting them know you are attracted to them . No point wasting time and writing a paragraph to someone you don’t know or don’t even know if they want to engage back in conversation. |
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It makes it so much harder to choose who to actually reply to. Woman and couples tend to get tons of messages. When they are say, "hi, how are you", and the profile only gives us a dick pic and a 'looking for fun' bio with no verifications, how do we know if there is something to pursue there? You might just be looking for a fuck, but don't assume everyone else is only looking for the same. Sexual experiences and "a fuck" are very different things. Particularly where women and couples are concerned. If coupled-women wanted a simple fuck, they'd simply fuck their partner. For single women, they have to take the time to make sure you're not a psycho so they are safe, for starters, but then figure out if you're actually messaging to have an experience both parties enjoy, rather than the bloke just getting his end away and leaving her wholly unsatisfied. |
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"Double standards on here most times , hi is just a way of letting them know you are attracted to them . No point wasting time and writing a paragraph to someone you don’t know or don’t even know if they want to engage back in conversation. "
Exactly! Must be very tedious for men here from what they tell me! Personally I've never sent a first message only from forum stuff x |
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Image a list 50 long received every day. Which message gets your attention?
Hi
Hey
Wanna fuck?
Hi there
Hi
So horny rt now
Hi
Hey there
Much luck on here?
Fuck tonight?
Hi
Discerning, Devilish and Debonair…
Hey
hi
Fancy a fuk?
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By *AFKA HovisMan
over a year ago
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Tbh it shows off a few things
1) bit lazy
2) you think attraction is only based on looks
3) you don't get many messages (so arent bored shitless of answering the same question all the fucking time)
None are good looks for putting you to the front of the queue. But hey, more important to be right, than laid. |
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By *ack 500Man
over a year ago
stoke on trent |
"Image a list 50 long received every day. Which message gets your attention?
Hi
Hey
Wanna fuck?
Hi there
Hi
So horny rt now
Hi
Hey there
Much luck on here?
Fuck tonight?
Hi
Discerning, Devilish and Debonair…
Hey
hi
Fancy a fuk?
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Splendid choice |
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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere only we know |
"Tbh it shows off a few things
1) bit lazy
2) you think attraction is only based on looks
3) you don't get many messages (so arent bored shitless of answering the same question all the fucking time)
None are good looks for putting you to the front of the queue. But hey, more important to be right, than laid. "
100% |
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I ignore messages that just say 'Hi' because it's completely forgettable, I've lost interest in the conversation before it's even started.
Most guys profile look and sound the same, they are overwhelmingly generic. 'Hi' does nothing to stand out from the noise of other generic cock photo saying 'Hi'
I don't expect an essay but at the very least let me know why you messaged me specifically.
If you have some great photos (which most guys don't) and a interestingly written profile (which most guys don't) then you might get away with a 'Hi' but if you want to stand out from the cock forest in people's inboxes I would suggest tilting the odds in your favour and making an effort. |
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs"
Also consider that many women and couples don’t open the messages, they can jump to your profile in incognito mode, they see your message title AND your profile picture… of your cock… just like the 1000’s of other men who message week in week out…
I once checked a guys profile that was complaining on the forum that he never got any responses from all his messages - he had 439 pictures of his cock, nothing else |
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"I ignore messages that just say 'Hi' because it's completely forgettable, I've lost interest in the conversation before it's even started.
Most guys profile look and sound the same, they are overwhelmingly generic. 'Hi' does nothing to stand out from the noise of other generic cock photo saying 'Hi'
I don't expect an essay but at the very least let me know why you messaged me specifically.
If you have some great photos (which most guys don't) and a interestingly written profile (which most guys don't) then you might get away with a 'Hi' but if you want to stand out from the cock forest in people's inboxes I would suggest tilting the odds in your favour and making an effort."
“Cock forest” 
Can’t see the wood for the twigs.. |
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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere only we know |
"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs
Also consider that many women and couples don’t open the messages, they can jump to your profile in incognito mode, they see your message title AND your profile picture… of your cock… just like the 1000’s of other men who message week in week out…
I once checked a guys profile that was complaining on the forum that he never got any responses from all his messages - he had 439 pictures of his cock, nothing else "
That’s absolutely epic! I would probably message him to ask him if he was addicted to taking pics of his cock |
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Personally I don’t mind someone sending just a hi message it’s better than fancy a fuck .
.I totally understand some people myself included struggle chatting to people online that’s why we do all our meeting new people at clubs and group socials .I would just stick to doing what your happy with . |
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"Image a list 50 long received every day. Which message gets your attention?
Hi
Hey
Wanna fuck?
Hi there
Hi
So horny rt now
Hi
Hey there
Much luck on here?
Fuck tonight?
Hi
Discerning, Devilish and Debonair…
Hey
hi
Fancy a fuk?
Splendid choice "
Dude, do you climb mountains or just pull them down towards you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We put some effort into our profile, offering enough detail anyone may need to decide whether or not to contact us.
Way too often, a simple 'Hi' as a first message, is linked to a profile with nothing to appeal, either no pics or just dick pics, and usually a bio that offers nothing.
We're looking for like minded, aren't we all?
Therefore such a message and profile suggests we're not like minded, and we question what effort they'll put into a meet.
If you was to be selling something to the general public, would you hope saying 'Hi' would be enough to appeal?
Sell yourself, realise that first impressions do matter.
I've tried several times responding to such a message, each time it's been painful trying to have a conversation.
We're looking for fun, pleasure, enjoyment, excitement, and those messages inspire not a one.
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs
Also consider that many women and couples don’t open the messages, they can jump to your profile in incognito mode, they see your message title AND your profile picture… of your cock… just like the 1000’s of other men who message week in week out…
I once checked a guys profile that was complaining on the forum that he never got any responses from all his messages - he had 439 pictures of his cock, nothing else
That’s absolutely epic! I would probably message him to ask him if he was addicted to taking pics of his cock "
Little bird, It was one of those times where I had the thought, again, “will Fab get any weirder than this” and remarkably, it does. |
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as an icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs"
Imagine getting over 100 ‘hi’ messages every day. If you reply to them all, not only would it take you the best part of an hour but you’d then end up with 80 of them replying ‘what you up to’ which is the singularly most boring sentence ever, 10 of them saying ‘meet now’, 7 of them saying ‘pics’, 2 phone numbers and 1 stalker.
Nobody wants a goddamn Shakespearean sonnet, just a bit of stimulating conversation before the main event. Contrary to popular belief, we’re not all holes with pulses here purely to satisfy on demand the substandard penis of every entitled middle aged man who doesn’t have the social skills to start anything meaningful in real life and thinks fab is a fuckfest. |
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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs
Also consider that many women and couples don’t open the messages, they can jump to your profile in incognito mode, they see your message title AND your profile picture… of your cock… just like the 1000’s of other men who message week in week out…
I once checked a guys profile that was complaining on the forum that he never got any responses from all his messages - he had 439 pictures of his cock, nothing else
That’s absolutely epic! I would probably message him to ask him if he was addicted to taking pics of his cock
Little bird, It was one of those times where I had the thought, again, “will Fab get any weirder than this” and remarkably, it does. "
Every single day… and I love it |
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In addition to points above, I'm sure this is true for many couples profiles:
We both access the account, it could be either of us that see your message. But we are both very busy, time together is at a premium, and time together where we are actually discussing this sort of thing even more so. We're both involved in who we might meet, so if we feel theres something there we will generally have a chat together about where to take a particular conversation.
So with that in mind "how r u" unfortunately doesnt get over the threshold of being worth the effort of replying to.
If you're a single guy and youve been left on unread thats generally a positive sign. It means we've put a pin in you for when theres time to reply properly! |
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If you're message shows even the remotest idea that you've read my profile.
If you send a very short message, I'll try my hardest to send a shorter response. Normally that means no response.
You don't walk up to someone in a bar, say "hi" and stare at them waiting for them to put the effort into starting a conversation. Well not with any rate of success anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs
"Hi" is just a little lazy, it invest zero time or effort. Why not go for:
" Hi,I'm Mick. I just stumbled across your profile and thought you sounded hot. Let me know if you'd be interested in a chat. ""
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs"
If it says that on the profile, maybe just don't message them
I can't be arsed with small talk. I don't blame anyone else that can't either. If you want to do that shit just do it to the people that don't say not to bother them with it.
People use fab for a variety of things. If they're using it in a different way to you with different intentions, move on and find someone with the same outlook as you.
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OP there's nothing wrong with "Hi" as a message - if it's working for you then stick with it.
There's also nothing wrong with wanting a more detailed message that can spark a conversation. That works for me, so I'll stick with it.
There are as many different ways to use this site as there are people on it. The trick is to find the people who want to use the site the same way you do. If someone says in their profile a "Hi" will be deleted then they probably won't be a good fit for how you want to use the site - neither of you are wrong, just looking for different experiences. |
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"It’s lazy and pretty much shows the effort that’ll get put in, in chatting, sex, etc.
It’s a straight delete for us…as is a cock as a profile pic.
K"
what about if ye the effort multiple times and still no think in return. This site is quality over quantity. |
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs"
Just wow. |
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"I had a message that said "I want to suck your cock".
I mean, how rude - not even a mention of dinner first.
I bet you had replied within a minute of
reading that though, Right? "
Nope - unfortunately it was from a guy. |
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"I had a message that said "I want to suck your cock".
I mean, how rude - not even a mention of dinner first.
I bet you had replied within a minute of
reading that though, Right?
Nope - unfortunately it was from a guy. "
FFS, I LoL’d. Even dudes getting shit messages from those guys.. |
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs"
You know where you ask for people to be gentle?
Erm maybe practice that yourself. (facepalm) |
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Maybe it’s because you are initiating the conversation and there is the expectation that the recipient has to drive it even though they didn’t start it
For me the best messages are the one that reflect a conversation you would have if you were in a bar or shop for example
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"We used to answer all messages, even the Hi ones but the sequence that follows is usually "How's you" "what you up to""how's fab treating you""had much luck on here" etc so we are more selective now although the odd one might slip through. "
This |
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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago
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"Because it goes
Hi
Hi
You ok
Yeah you
Upto much
No
Ok
Doing much tonight
Not really
Fancy a fuck
No
Why
Because I don't
But you'll love it
Nope
Yep
Block.
Just easier to ignore the hi.
Mrs "
I’m going to give you a massive round of applause for this Mrs. It’s utterly spot on |
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"Most people have the assumption - and I'm not saying it's right, but I use it - that people generally put the same effort into how they do the fucks like how they type.
Most people don't wanna be home by 9pm with cum in their hair and sixteen 'Hub tabs open.
Well that would be entirely false. I just really can't be arsed playing email ping-pong. There's a lot of lonely people on these apps who just like to chit chat.
That said if I get a response to a hi How are you the conversation generally goes quite well. But I'm fucked if I'm writing a long detailed message blowing smoke up some eejits ass that they will likely still ignore anyway.
That said I'm quite fortunate to not initiate many conversations anyway. "
...sigh, what do I do with this one? Two options:
- point out that a conversation between two people circling for fantastic sex usually has neither the brevity of a 'hi hows u', or the smoke-blowing faff of a spiralling thesaurus app on the wonk.
- point out that the only way you can prove it as false is to come and fuck me about it.
Huh. Dealer's choice pal, you pick.
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs"
Wow Well aren’t you a delight!
‘Hi’ is fine if it’s followed by a couple of pleasant sentences.
‘Hi’ on its own is just lazy. Laziness is not attractive. If you can’t even be bothered to send more than that in a first message, it doesn’t give hope for effort or fireworks later. |
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs
Wow Well aren’t you a delight!
‘Hi’ is fine if it’s followed by a couple of pleasant sentences.
‘Hi’ on its own is just lazy. Laziness is not attractive. If you can’t even be bothered to send more than that in a first message, it doesn’t give hope for effort or fireworks later."
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs
Wow Well aren’t you a delight!
‘Hi’ is fine if it’s followed by a couple of pleasant sentences.
‘Hi’ on its own is just lazy. Laziness is not attractive. If you can’t even be bothered to send more than that in a first message, it doesn’t give hope for effort or fireworks later.
Cracking boots luv "
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs
Wow Well aren’t you a delight!
‘Hi’ is fine if it’s followed by a couple of pleasant sentences.
‘Hi’ on its own is just lazy. Laziness is not attractive. If you can’t even be bothered to send more than that in a first message, it doesn’t give hope for effort or fireworks later.
Cracking boots luv
Thanks Brucey "
This is how ya do it boys!
Oh wait she won't shag me either...  |
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"What happend to saying hello how are you? Why is it such a bad thing to try and use as a icebreaker? So many profiles on here with if you message with a hi how are you your instantly blocked, wtf is wrong with people, what makes you think your entitled to a shakespearerian sonet with every god dam message it's not a dating site we just all want to fuck get over yourselfs
Wow Well aren’t you a delight!
‘Hi’ is fine if it’s followed by a couple of pleasant sentences.
‘Hi’ on its own is just lazy. Laziness is not attractive. If you can’t even be bothered to send more than that in a first message, it doesn’t give hope for effort or fireworks later.
Cracking boots luv
Thanks Brucey
This is how ya do it boys!
Oh wait she won't shag me either... "
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