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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I wanted to do a serious thread today because I wanted to hear some perspectives. Please, all opinions welcome! 
So how do we feel about period sex? Yes? No? Why do we feel the way we feel? If we’re not into it, is that an outdated potentially problematic view of a natural thing? What’s the vibe?
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"Not for me. A problem with the implant meant we had to do this for months and it’s a complete mood killer. Blood isn’t sexy."
I agree, have had a little experience of this when the lady has just started on the day when very faint but just not for me.
That said I,m well aware it can be a time that some women are very aroused but can have plenty of fun without penetration. |
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"Not for me. A problem with the implant meant we had to do this for months and it’s a complete mood killer. Blood isn’t sexy.
I agree, have had a little experience of this when the lady has just started on the day when very faint but just not for me.
That said I,m well aware it can be a time that some women are very aroused but can have plenty of fun without penetration. "
Instinctively I don’t think we’re wired to feel aroused when we see blood. Obviously it’s a bit shit if that’s when certain women are more horny but at least they know how men feel when we’re not allowed to touch big old pregnancy boobs  |
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It's not about how others view it for me. I'm moody, bleeding like a tap and it stinks.. probably the most unsexy time for me so sex is the last thing on my mind. |
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I do enjoy it, probably because it eases my cramps massively and I'm horny as hell. There is obviously a iron smell with the blood but that doesn't bother me or the other half. And it's not as messy as I had thought it would be. |
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Maybe on the day or days when it's stopping, but not in full flow. Too messy and I pass clots the size of golf balls. Actually, I won't be having periods for the foreseeable and honestly, it's one of the best things that's ever happened. I fucking hate my periods and very glad to be rid of them. Hopefully forever! |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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OP.. as with all things, some do and some don't.
There are many things to consider, such as..
• amount of blood. Some women bleed very little and others bleed a large amount.
•protection. Pads? Tampons? Cup? Combination?
•pain. Some women have painless periods, and others will be in excruciating pain.
•other period symptoms include bloating, fluid retention, back pain, nausea, fatigue, anaemia, changes in appetite, mood changes, to name a few..
•libido varies. Sometimes women are absolutely not interested and other times they have a raging horn.
My advice would be to talk to her about how she's feeling. She may appreciate kindness and a gentle snuggle more than anything else.
Hope this helps. |
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In my own limited and highly subjective experience the single biggest factor is the type of period my partner is experiencing. My ex wife typically had light periods and (at least when she was younger) had little discomfort or mood change and we were quite happy to continue as normal with just a towel on the bed. I've known other women though for whom periods are extremely painful and very heavy and for then the answer would be absolutely not.
I guess like most aspects of human choice, there will be some who make particular choices for what others may consider the wrong reasons and many who simply prefer one thing or another. Trying to pin the choices people make to a binary option will inevitably piss a lot of people off. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not for me. A problem with the implant meant we had to do this for months and it’s a complete mood killer. Blood isn’t sexy."
I agree that it feels like a mood killer. Someone I have been with really wants it and I feel so bad for having a problem with it. But I can’t find it as sexy I don’t know |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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With someone I trust, because I feel more vulnerable and at risk of being judged when I’m on, then I would and do - I’d say it’s because I’m really horny then but truth is I’m really horny pretty much all the time I’m awake! I wouldn’t be upset if a guy didn’t want to though, but I would be upset at how he expressed the no, because it is just a natural process and shaming me for it is not on.
What I also love from a partner when on is a fist nuzzled in my lower back placing pressure whilst cuddling. That helps the pain, and I’m so appreciative of the care.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I do but only with my husband and only in the shower.
My horn can be off the scale when I'm on my period so needs must."
That’s also a thing isn’t it. If your partner is really horny it can be a lot to keep turning them down. |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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I love it. A FWB I had loved it too so it was happy days and some of the best sex of my life was during my period.
Since then, haven’t known anyone who likes it. Some guys say they don’t mind it but they do. |
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"I do enjoy it, probably because it eases my cramps massively and I'm horny as hell. There is obviously a iron smell with the blood but that doesn't bother me or the other half. And it's not as messy as I had thought it would be. "
But I would add, if my other half didn't want that would be fine also. Appreciate it's not for everyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not for me. A problem with the implant meant we had to do this for months and it’s a complete mood killer. Blood isn’t sexy.
I agree that it feels like a mood killer. Someone I have been with really wants it and I feel so bad for having a problem with it. But I can’t find it as sexy I don’t know "
In that situation I probably still would. I’m sure your sexual partner (not sure on the terminology with you being poly)would do the same if the shoe was on the other foot. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Ok- do we think that it should be, in an ideal world, viewed as no big deal because it’s natural and normal?
I really don’t like period sex. I don’t like that it’s messy. I don’t like the idea of the foreplay or other things. I also don’t think the smell and other things are particularly sexy and can be a bit of a turn off.
I think I’m like, is that stuff I should be unpacking and unlearning? Idk v hard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have done it in the past with Mr but it just makes a mess and I’d rather not have to deal with it afterwards. I prefer to wait now. It can be frustrating at times because it does make me super horny when I have them but I just have some alone time instead |
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"Ok- do we think that it should be, in an ideal world, viewed as no big deal because it’s natural and normal?
I really don’t like period sex. I don’t like that it’s messy. I don’t like the idea of the foreplay or other things. I also don’t think the smell and other things are particularly sexy and can be a bit of a turn off.
I think I’m like, is that stuff I should be unpacking and unlearning? Idk v hard. "
Taking a shit is natural, but it stinks and it's pretty usual not to want to be involved with shit unless you really have to.
Natural doesn't equal tolerable or pleasant. So long as there's no shaming or negative descriptions of the period to your partner (which I couldn't imagine you doing), then politely declining for the reasons you've explained is absolutely fine.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok- do we think that it should be, in an ideal world, viewed as no big deal because it’s natural and normal?
I really don’t like period sex. I don’t like that it’s messy. I don’t like the idea of the foreplay or other things. I also don’t think the smell and other things are particularly sexy and can be a bit of a turn off.
I think I’m like, is that stuff I should be unpacking and unlearning? Idk v hard. "
I mean, it’s blood at the end of the day. The last thing I’d want to be covered in while having sex is someone else’s blood. While it’s obviously natural and we can’t help it, I wouldn’t blame anyone for saying they weren’t comfortable with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok- do we think that it should be, in an ideal world, viewed as no big deal because it’s natural and normal?
I really don’t like period sex. I don’t like that it’s messy. I don’t like the idea of the foreplay or other things. I also don’t think the smell and other things are particularly sexy and can be a bit of a turn off.
I think I’m like, is that stuff I should be unpacking and unlearning? Idk v hard. "
No. I think if that’s the way you feel about it you shouldn’t change just because others say so. If that’s one of your boundaries then it should be respected. I realise this contradicts my last post but I’ve put a bit more thought into it. |
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Agree with all of this and will so have to try the cuddling with the fist at the back? Sounds awesome!
"With someone I trust, because I feel more vulnerable and at risk of being judged when I’m on, then I would and do - I’d say it’s because I’m really horny then but truth is I’m really horny pretty much all the time I’m awake! I wouldn’t be upset if a guy didn’t want to though, but I would be upset at how he expressed the no, because it is just a natural process and shaming me for it is not on.
What I also love from a partner when on is a fist nuzzled in my lower back placing pressure whilst cuddling. That helps the pain, and I’m so appreciative of the care. "
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"It good personal tho I wrap up no hands or mouth either "
See, to me, there's no point even starting sexual activity if no hands or mouth involved. So aside my heavy bleeding and giant clot situation, another reason for not wanting period sex. |
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"Ok- do we think that it should be, in an ideal world, viewed as no big deal because it’s natural and normal?
I really don’t like period sex. I don’t like that it’s messy. I don’t like the idea of the foreplay or other things. I also don’t think the smell and other things are particularly sexy and can be a bit of a turn off.
I think I’m like, is that stuff I should be unpacking and unlearning? Idk v hard. "
I don't see it as being different to anal, some like it some don't. Having a poo is a natural thing, doesn't mean you want to insert your ding a ling up a bum. I don't absolutely love kissing and snogging but some say it's not proper sex without it. As with everything it's all about how the individual feels. I don't think anyone should push themselves out of what they feel comfortable with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok- do we think that it should be, in an ideal world, viewed as no big deal because it’s natural and normal?
I really don’t like period sex. I don’t like that it’s messy. I don’t like the idea of the foreplay or other things. I also don’t think the smell and other things are particularly sexy and can be a bit of a turn off.
I think I’m like, is that stuff I should be unpacking and unlearning? Idk v hard.
No. I think if that’s the way you feel about it you shouldn’t change just because others say so. If that’s one of your boundaries then it should be respected. I realise this contradicts my last post but I’ve put a bit more thought into it. "
Haha owe need to normalise changing opinions on things when allowed more time to think!!
But yeah where I’m getting to is, it’s a boundary I’ve set, why can’t we just respect that? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"With someone I trust, because I feel more vulnerable and at risk of being judged when I’m on, then I would and do - I’d say it’s because I’m really horny then but truth is I’m really horny pretty much all the time I’m awake! I wouldn’t be upset if a guy didn’t want to though, but I would be upset at how he expressed the no, because it is just a natural process and shaming me for it is not on.
What I also love from a partner when on is a fist nuzzled in my lower back placing pressure whilst cuddling. That helps the pain, and I’m so appreciative of the care. "
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By *rettyflamingoCouple
over a year ago
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It’s a yes for me but with the bf , towels on the bed or in the shower. I’m always at my horniest when I have my period, so why not. But I know it’s not for everyone my ex husband who I was with for 20 years wouldn’t go near me when Mother Nature arrived. |
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"Ok- do we think that it should be, in an ideal world, viewed as no big deal because it’s natural and normal?
I really don’t like period sex. I don’t like that it’s messy. I don’t like the idea of the foreplay or other things. I also don’t think the smell and other things are particularly sexy and can be a bit of a turn off.
I think I’m like, is that stuff I should be unpacking and unlearning? Idk v hard. "
It's hard to know what's natural dislike and what's taught. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok- do we think that it should be, in an ideal world, viewed as no big deal because it’s natural and normal?
I really don’t like period sex. I don’t like that it’s messy. I don’t like the idea of the foreplay or other things. I also don’t think the smell and other things are particularly sexy and can be a bit of a turn off.
I think I’m like, is that stuff I should be unpacking and unlearning? Idk v hard.
I mean, it’s blood at the end of the day. The last thing I’d want to be covered in while having sex is someone else’s blood. While it’s obviously natural and we can’t help it, I wouldn’t blame anyone for saying they weren’t comfortable with it. "
Yeah that’s real |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok- do we think that it should be, in an ideal world, viewed as no big deal because it’s natural and normal?
I really don’t like period sex. I don’t like that it’s messy. I don’t like the idea of the foreplay or other things. I also don’t think the smell and other things are particularly sexy and can be a bit of a turn off.
I think I’m like, is that stuff I should be unpacking and unlearning? Idk v hard.
Taking a shit is natural, but it stinks and it's pretty usual not to want to be involved with shit unless you really have to.
Natural doesn't equal tolerable or pleasant. So long as there's no shaming or negative descriptions of the period to your partner (which I couldn't imagine you doing), then politely declining for the reasons you've explained is absolutely fine.
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You know me, I’m literally always trying as hard as possibly to not offend  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think it's problematic, nor a sign of unprocessed societal conventions. If it's not for you, it's not. There's no shaming in your language, no shame shown towards others. It's not something you enjoy, that doesn't make you an awful person.
I'd only ever had period sex with my fiancé until I met a dear friend. For one, I can be in pain. Tired. Grumpy. Bleed an awful lot. I have a high libido but don't feel sexy which is far from a winning combination.
In the morning after a delightful long weekend with the dear friend, I woke up to find my period had started. I was a bit miffed because, well, the fucking is truly something else and I'd woken up wanting more of him. I thought we'd gently kiss and snuggle but it quickly became more than that - slow gentle thrusts, building me up to a heightened state in which every time his cock slid in me I'd quickly orgasm around it.
I quickly forgot about my period and enjoyed that intimacy, the primal nature of it. My sensitivity was increased, the way he fucked me was sheet clenchingly intense. Like he couldn't get enough of me and wanted to make me feel good, regardless of my bleeding.
It was so fucking hot....
To the point where I couldn't walk to the car after properly and sat in a daze for the drive home.
If you enjoy it? Great. If not, that's absolutely fine.
I'm not in a rush to have period sex any time soon. But if I have more memories like that?
I wouldn't be mad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't mind it at all, though my past partners haven't all been into it. I just put down a towel or two, to deal with any mess. Or take things to the shower instead. |
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"I wouldn’t. I did with my husband a few times over the years but I’m not a fan "
I did with my wife, but it made her sore, so, gave it a miss. One week out of four wasn't going to kill me.....available for offers though now |
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"I wouldn’t. I did with my husband a few times over the years but I’m not a fan
I did with my wife, but it made her sore, so, gave it a miss. One week out of four wasn't going to kill me.....available for offers though now "
One week out of 4! It was one year out of 4 eventually haha. If that! |
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"I wouldn’t. I did with my husband a few times over the years but I’m not a fan
I did with my wife, but it made her sore, so, gave it a miss. One week out of four wasn't going to kill me.....available for offers though now
One week out of 4! It was one year out of 4 eventually haha. If that!"
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"So I wanted to do a serious thread today because I wanted to hear some perspectives. Please, all opinions welcome!
So how do we feel about period sex? Yes? No? Why do we feel the way we feel? If we’re not into it, is that an outdated potentially problematic view of a natural thing? What’s the vibe?
Happy Saturday! "
Women seem to be very horny during their period. I have done this type of sex plenty of times. I do not find anything wrong. |
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It's a yes from me, and I don't think I've ever slept with a man who's not been down? Maybe that just speaks to the kind of man who finds me sexy and vice versa; I don't think I'd want to sleep with someone who would be put off by this, not deliberately, I just don't think we'd find the same things sexy. |
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It's always been a hard no from me, I suffer from terrible periods and I usually look and feel like shite for a good 5 days atleast.
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I had a (2nd day on) hot bath to ease the cramps yesterday and then just laid on a towel on the bed to air dry off and try to relax, knowing I was all squeaky clean, fresh and exposed really got me going. Next thing I know, Mr P is ontop of me and we had the most intense, passionate, slow sex ending with a mind blowing orgasm. All was well with the world until reality kicked back in with the cleanup situation and we both looked a little sheepish and rather pink  |
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I used to be super horny on my period it also eased the cramps and felt much more sensitive, however the Mr wasn't a fan, no periods these days but period sex was awesome!
Although I do hardly bleed while laying down so it was never that messy.
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Periods tend to leave me swinging between raging horn and just rage.
I don't mind it so much myself in terms of mess, but I know not everyone is a fan, and most times I'd rather just edge myself until everyone can have a good time without feeling gross. Or just make the most of my throat and ass in the meantime |
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"So I wanted to do a serious thread today because I wanted to hear some perspectives. Please, all opinions welcome!
So how do we feel about period sex? Yes? No? Why do we feel the way we feel? If we’re not into it, is that an outdated potentially problematic view of a natural thing? What’s the vibe?
Happy Saturday! "
It helps my gf, so happy to deliver.
How does it help?
Well, easies pain and ups her mood |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I wanted to do a serious thread today because I wanted to hear some perspectives. Please, all opinions welcome!
So how do we feel about period sex? Yes? No? Why do we feel the way we feel? If we’re not into it, is that an outdated potentially problematic view of a natural thing? What’s the vibe?
Happy Saturday! "
Ehm, it's a no for me. I feel dirty doing it then. However I happened to have sex couple of times when I thought I finished my period and it came out of blue. The guys loved it. |
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I don't have a physical problem with it and did it with partners quite happily prior to the incident but I was sexually assaulted while on my period so it can be a bit emotionally complex. Fortunately I don't have periods anymore so I don't have to think about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't have an issue with period sex. But my partner refuses to do it unless I'm light. I don't mind but I'm always desperate for dick when it's that time of the month so I always feel a bit frustrated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It is something I enjoyed with my ex
There is a certain closeness that comes through such intimacy
It felt different, not naughty, not kinky, just personal on another level
The warmth of her fanny and the feeling of being inside her at that time just felt amazing |
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My two most memorable period sex experiences are thus;
The woman I was seeing who asked me to do it because her hubby never would….
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The woman I was seeing who really wanted me to fuck her while on her period, and I was fine with it, but she wasn’t, until she said the (to me) famous line……”just put it in a little….” |
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"So I wanted to do a serious thread today because I wanted to hear some perspectives. Please, all opinions welcome!
So how do we feel about period sex? Yes? No? Why do we feel the way we feel? If we’re not into it, is that an outdated potentially problematic view of a natural thing? What’s the vibe?
Happy Saturday! "
I have period sex. It doesn't bother me. It's up to the man. he's entitled to say no.
There are sex tampons that sex workers use.
There was a thread about this before. funnily enough I'm on my period now. the worse thing about it is the physical illness and mood swings but I'm getting better at managing both with some professional help. |
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"Not for me. A problem with the implant meant we had to do this for months and it’s a complete mood killer. Blood isn’t sexy.
I agree that it feels like a mood killer. Someone I have been with really wants it and I feel so bad for having a problem with it. But I can’t find it as sexy I don’t know "
You are entitled to say no for any reason. |
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"Ok- do we think that it should be, in an ideal world, viewed as no big deal because it’s natural and normal?
I really don’t like period sex. I don’t like that it’s messy. I don’t like the idea of the foreplay or other things. I also don’t think the smell and other things are particularly sexy and can be a bit of a turn off.
I think I’m like, is that stuff I should be unpacking and unlearning? Idk v hard. "
It's literally the same for people who don't like anal sex. No judgment. No one should be forced into a shit hole or a blood hole. |
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"I wonder how many guys would be so horny for it if they were doing the cleaning up after it "
I had it with two play partners and they had to do the cleanup afterwards because I went to their place....Some men won't refuse sex when the horn is really bad.
When I was married, shower towels and sex tampons. It eased the pain for me but I see that it makes it worst for others. |
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"I don't have a physical problem with it and did it with partners quite happily prior to the incident but I was sexually assaulted while on my period so it can be a bit emotionally complex. Fortunately I don't have periods anymore so I don't have to think about it. "
Sorry to hear about the sexual assault. |
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"I don't have an issue with period sex. But my partner refuses to do it unless I'm light. I don't mind but I'm always desperate for dick when it's that time of the month so I always feel a bit frustrated. "
My toys work well for me... Lol! |
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"My two most memorable period sex experiences are thus;
The woman I was seeing who asked me to do it because her hubby never would….
And;
The woman I was seeing who really wanted me to fuck her while on her period, and I was fine with it, but she wasn’t, until she said the (to me) famous line……”just put it in a little….” "
I had a guy who was trying to put it in a little. ( was not on the period then) Eventually I got on top and shoved it in balls deep. Lol! 
a little....what are we 18-year-old virgins? |
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"My two most memorable period sex experiences are thus;
The woman I was seeing who asked me to do it because her hubby never would….
And;
The woman I was seeing who really wanted me to fuck her while on her period, and I was fine with it, but she wasn’t, until she said the (to me) famous line……”just put it in a little….”
I had a guy who was trying to put it in a little. ( was not on the period then) Eventually I got on top and shoved it in balls deep. Lol!
a little....what are we 18-year-old virgins?"
For me, I can still see the anguish in her eyes, her craving my cock inside her, but not wanting to see “the aftermath”, yet she needed me in her…… that was so horny for me, seeing her raw, natural desire… |
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