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I think about lots of things. It’s terrible. Anyway today I’m thinking about how virginity is a myth. A made up heteronormative construct. And that has led me to think so what is sex? What is sex to you? Please tell me, I’m very interested to know!  
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"How can virginity be a myth....? Virginity means you haven't had sex before. "
I thought (and may be wrong) that it’s not having had sex as sex is defined- which is heteronormative? So like, if you’ve not had penetrative sex, to some you’re still a Virgin? Again why it comes back to - what is sex? |
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I think most definitions of virginity are surrounding ‘sexual intercourse’. So does that mean say women that only have sex with women are virgins? And if sex doesn’t have to be defined that way for one group, why, say amongst straight people, does virginity have to have such a fixed meaning to do with penetration? Is that all that sex is? Penetration? |
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"I think most definitions of virginity are surrounding ‘sexual intercourse’. So does that mean say women that only have sex with women are virgins? And if sex doesn’t have to be defined that way for one group, why, say amongst straight people, does virginity have to have such a fixed meaning to do with penetration? Is that all that sex is? Penetration?"
I bloody hope not! |
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"I think most definitions of virginity are surrounding ‘sexual intercourse’. So does that mean say women that only have sex with women are virgins? And if sex doesn’t have to be defined that way for one group, why, say amongst straight people, does virginity have to have such a fixed meaning to do with penetration? Is that all that sex is? Penetration?
I bloody hope not!"
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"I think most definitions of virginity are surrounding ‘sexual intercourse’. So does that mean say women that only have sex with women are virgins? And if sex doesn’t have to be defined that way for one group, why, say amongst straight people, does virginity have to have such a fixed meaning to do with penetration? Is that all that sex is? Penetration?"
Many people maintain their virginity for cultural and religious reasons by not having penetrative sex. It just seems like a detail to me but what do I know |
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"Anything that gives me pleasure of the sexual kind.
I once had a chocolate fondant with walnut ice cream that could only be described as orgasmic"
Would you say you can only have orgasms if the pleasure is of a sexual nature? |
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"How can virginity be a myth....? Virginity means you haven't had sex before.
I thought (and may be wrong) that it’s not having had sex as sex is defined- which is heteronormative? So like, if you’ve not had penetrative sex, to some you’re still a Virgin? Again why it comes back to - what is sex?"
True, the definition is poor... possibly. Depends why anyone wants to know I guess.
But it's not a 'myth'. |
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"Anything that gives me pleasure of the sexual kind.
I once had a chocolate fondant with walnut ice cream that could only be described as orgasmic
Would you say you can only have orgasms if the pleasure is of a sexual nature? "
Now you're asking!
The pleasure I had from this chocolate fondant in terms of the sensations in my mouth and the texture of the food was so intense that my closest point of reference was sexual. I doubt I'd have shuddered my way moaning and writhing to an orgasm at the restaurant table though, no matter how good the walnut ice cream. So yes, I probably could only have orgasms via sexual pleasure  |
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"I think most definitions of virginity are surrounding ‘sexual intercourse’. So does that mean say women that only have sex with women are virgins? And if sex doesn’t have to be defined that way for one group, why, say amongst straight people, does virginity have to have such a fixed meaning to do with penetration? Is that all that sex is? Penetration?"
In a purely scientific, biological and reproductive meaning... yes.
But we have moved past sex being just for reproduction, so if we want a word to define if we have had sexual interactions with someone, we probably should have something new. |
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"Anything that gives me pleasure of the sexual kind.
I once had a chocolate fondant with walnut ice cream that could only be described as orgasmic"
I had a chocolate cake that was so good once, I got an errection.
Don't tell anyone though, as its a little embarrassing. |
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"Anything that gives me pleasure of the sexual kind.
I once had a chocolate fondant with walnut ice cream that could only be described as orgasmic
I had a chocolate cake that was so good once, I got an errection.
Don't tell anyone though, as its a little embarrassing. "
Have you got the recipe? I think Mary Berry is writing a new cookery book ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me sex isn’t a thing
There’s only
makeing love
And fucking
And yes there’s a difference
Makeing love I am connected my feelings and hart are in it
Fucking well that’s just mindless pleasure
Always say
These only a hand full I have made love to
But I let just about anyone have a fuck at me  |
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"Anything that gives me pleasure of the sexual kind.
I once had a chocolate fondant with walnut ice cream that could only be described as orgasmic
I had a chocolate cake that was so good once, I got an errection.
Don't tell anyone though, as its a little embarrassing.
Have you got the recipe? I think Mary Berry is writing a new cookery book ..."
No, it was bought in a tiny little village cafe. Can't even remember where.
"Cakes to cum to" it'll be a best seller |
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