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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Slut is slowly becoming a reclaimed term, much like the way 'queer' has been over the years.
Slut shaming and misogyny is rife on here - if you can't see it, you're not paying attention. |
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I do see glimmers of it on here occasionally, but not enough to call it common, never mind prevalent. I also think it occurs a lot less in the big bad world outside of Fab than it used to, in my experience anyway. |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
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Enjoyment of sex should be mutual, and in this day and age there is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman communicating what she wants or requires from a sexual encounter, and a man should respect that in all ways.
There is definitely no reason for slut shaming |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The problem on here is that there are a lot of men who are new to the idea of women being sexually confident, and that threatens their fragile egos.
None of this should be gender specific in any way. Every human being has the right to express themselves, sexually or otherwise.
Another issue is that a huge amount of the men on here who are guilty of it, never read the forums where a lot of information and education is available to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's always been that way in society I guess.. men who have multiple partners get high-fived, women usually get shamed. On here though surely it's a given that everyone on here likes sex? 10 partners or 100.. do what makes your happy, sod what anyone else thinks  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of all the women I've met here, there's a 100% confirmation rate that they unashamedly like sex. So if there are shamers about, they're crap at their jobs! #GoGirls |
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Some might forget but most don’t.
It’s a simple human trait to enjoy pleasure, just as it is for some to belittle and shame others, no matter the gender.
Just get on with your own lives and stop worrying about what others might be thinking or saying. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Is this a shocking concept? Do we forget that it’s ok and positive to enjoy sex from a female perspective?
How much of an issue is slut shaming and is it prevalent on here?
Thoughts folks…"
I’ll shame anyone that isn’t interested in my penis, especially those that I really really really really really really really want to stick it in!
At least thats what I was told would increase my chances on here! |
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"Some might forget but most don’t.
It’s a simple human trait to enjoy pleasure, just as it is for some to belittle and shame others, no matter the gender.
Just get on with your own lives and stop worrying about what others might be thinking or saying."
This for me too. I get it’s a subject for debate but personally I have no interest in what others may do or what they think I may or may not do. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'm not sure it is as prevalent as it once was. I think we're all guilty of slut shaming at one point or another, we learn and educate ourselves and then our opinions change (sometimes!).
I don't think people do forget that women like sex but I think sometimes we do things differently to another person and that might make us view it as being "wrong" when it's not. We should all be free to have as little or as much cocking as our quims desire. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didn't know there was such a thing as slut shaming, sticks and stones people sticks and stones. You can only allow what you hold on to and take to heart to affect you. Let it go and let them talk to them selvs job done.
I think you can maybe tell by peoples profiles who will be more likely to slut shame, and who have maybe been slut shamed in the past by phrases such as.
Not here to fuck the whole site.
Quality not quantity.
Not looking for knotches on the bed post.
Etc as a means to protect them selves from slut shaming, or because they are more likely to slut shame. But that's just a theory.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not sure it is as prevalent as it once was. I think we're all guilty of slut shaming at one point or another, we learn and educate ourselves and then our opinions change (sometimes!).
I don't think people do forget that women like sex but I think sometimes we do things differently to another person and that might make us view it as being "wrong" when it's not. We should all be free to have as little or as much cocking as our quims desire."
As the song goes.. girls just wanna have fun, even as I was in school I used to tell the ladies, there is no such thing as a slut. Only girls that like to have fun
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"I didn't know there was such a thing as slut shaming, sticks and stones people sticks and stones. You can only allow what you hold on to and take to heart to affect you. Let it go and let them talk to them selvs job done.
I think you can maybe tell by peoples profiles who will be more likely to slut shame, and who have maybe been slut shamed in the past by phrases such as.
Not here to fuck the whole site.
Quality not quantity.
Not looking for knotches on the bed post.
Etc as a means to protect them selves from slut shaming, or because they are more likely to slut shame. But that's just a theory.
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I find that with a lot of things on here. The ones who have no drama or I don’t do drama splashed over their profiles are often the ones who cause the drama and the ones who feel the need to constantly say they don’t need/crave attention are the ones that do. It’s a strange old place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My normal reponce to it is
Yip I am inserte witch ever name they call me and I love being inserte witch ever name they call me but just not for you shame that the inserte name will not be one for you |
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"Is this a shocking concept? Do we forget that it’s ok and positive to enjoy sex from a female perspective?
How much of an issue is slut shaming and is it prevalent on here?
Thoughts folks…"
I think the concept of women enjoying sex is pretty widely acknowledged now. Slutshaming for me is a different beast, and comes in many different forms.
It's not uncommon for people - mostly men, in my experience - to say they use fab in between relationships for a hookup, but they wouldn't want a relationship with a woman from here. Is that not an implication that a woman who is open about enjoying sex is unsuitable girlfriend of wife material? Similarly those who meet someone on here, but once they enter into a relationship, don't want their partner to swing whilst they continue to do so. Again, the implication that it's OK for a bit of fun, but that's not the kind of woman they want for a relationship.
Then there's judging what others do on here - and we all do it! Nobody is without judgement, it's part of being human. It becomes slutshaming for me when comments are made about how others conduct themselves.
A thorny issue, OP!
Mrs TMN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I didn't know there was such a thing as slut shaming, sticks and stones people sticks and stones. You can only allow what you hold on to and take to heart to affect you. Let it go and let them talk to them selvs job done.
I think you can maybe tell by peoples profiles who will be more likely to slut shame, and who have maybe been slut shamed in the past by phrases such as.
Not here to fuck the whole site.
Quality not quantity.
Not looking for knotches on the bed post.
Etc as a means to protect them selves from slut shaming, or because they are more likely to slut shame. But that's just a theory.
I find that with a lot of things on here. The ones who have no drama or I don’t do drama splashed over their profiles are often the ones who cause the drama and the ones who feel the need to constantly say they don’t need/crave attention are the ones that do. It’s a strange old place. "
Indeed tis quite true strange paradox indeed, how do we even begin to understand the world thrust upon us. Alough I could see some people saying I could fall in to that category about the drama as I do enjoy a healthy debate on the forums, and playing the devil's advocate but nothing I say is out of malice or disdain but love and respect and a urge to understand others opinions or to see how they think or feel under pressure a social experiment if you will  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t see the reason for shame on either male or female for enjoying sex... good on any woman that explores her sexuality and enjoys it... no need for any remarks or judgement.. live and let live..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think if you’re going to attempt to slut shame somebody on here it’s definitely the wrong place! Not that there’s a right place! My opinion would be guys that get rejected are most likely the guilty culprits of this! We are all adults and sex is amazing!! You’d be stupid to not enjoy it, male or female, and I see no difference in women enjoying sex just as much as men, the term slut was no doubt an inception of men who didn’t want women to freely express themselves as much as they did, as a wise man (or insert whatever pronoun you wish) once said… fuck that shit, you do you and fuck everybody else… not literally… or literally, if you so wish |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think if you’re going to attempt to slut shame somebody on here it’s definitely the wrong place! Not that there’s a right place! My opinion would be guys that get rejected are most likely the guilty culprits of this! We are all adults and sex is amazing!! You’d be stupid to not enjoy it, male or female, and I see no difference in women enjoying sex just as much as men, the term slut was no doubt an inception of men who didn’t want women to freely express themselves as much as they did, as a wise man (or insert whatever pronoun you wish) once said… fuck that shit, you do you and fuck everybody else… not literally… or literally, if you so wish "
Kinda ironic that a lady doing the opposite of been what some might call a "slut" what ever that is. By turning down a man, will be called a slut, by him for not doing the slutty thing that he wanted her to do. That is fuck a man who sends a close up cock shot and 3 words. But hey even if she did want to do that who are we to judge? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think if you’re going to attempt to slut shame somebody on here it’s definitely the wrong place! Not that there’s a right place! My opinion would be guys that get rejected are most likely the guilty culprits of this! We are all adults and sex is amazing!! You’d be stupid to not enjoy it, male or female, and I see no difference in women enjoying sex just as much as men, the term slut was no doubt an inception of men who didn’t want women to freely express themselves as much as they did, as a wise man (or insert whatever pronoun you wish) once said… fuck that shit, you do you and fuck everybody else… not literally… or literally, if you so wish
Kinda ironic that a lady doing the opposite of been what some might call a "slut" what ever that is. By turning down a man, will be called a slut, by him for not doing the slutty thing that he wanted her to do. That is fuck a man who sends a close up cock shot and 3 words. But hey even if she did want to do that who are we to judge?"
 that was my point…. I didn’t say it makes anybody a slut, I’m saying I imagine it’s the go to insult for butthurt dudes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find that with a lot of things on here. The ones who have no drama or I don’t do drama splashed over their profiles are often the ones who cause the drama and the ones who feel the need to constantly say they don’t need/crave attention are the ones that do. It’s a strange old place. "
Burned my fingers once or twice right there!! Immediate red flag now! |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"OP I think you should have titled this post "women like sex" not "girls""
I heard a song and posted it, I thought afterwards that I’d posted in error but such is the site.
I agree it should be women, not girls |
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