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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Out of the blue last night, my sons girlfriend whom he's been living with for 4 years announced that she no longer wanted to be in a relationship with him and wanted them just to be friends, he loves her more than life itself and is in bits, there was no indication what so ever that she was feeling like this, to make matters worse neither of them have anywhere else they came move out to, I have never had to encounter either of my boys going through a break up, how do I help him, I have cuddled him and let him cry in my arms today (my share of tears flowed too for him) he is hurting so much |
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Just be there for him which you are doing. Maybe be a mediator between them so they can speak about what went wrong or why she feels like she can't be in a relationship witout it turning into a huge arguement and things get said that are not meant to be said.. |
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"keep doing what you are doing, its all you can do.
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yes, just be there for him..
will be pure shite for a while, he will go through all the 'why's?' etc and the confidence will take a spanking and he will get angry and such like..
but he will get through it, early days yet though so let him talk and cry if he wants to.. |
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The only way to make her realise that she has made a mistake is to have a better time without her than with her. Try ringing a few of his mates and get them to drag him out and arrange a couple of experiences, need not be expensive, just popping to the sea for fish and chips or going out for a picnic or a BBQ will help. Really good luck xxx |
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ahh im sorry xx
its a hard one hes your bab and it hurts to see them go through this unfortunately breaking up is part of lifes journey my 22 yr old went through this recently we just tried to be there for him but i also asked him to think why his girlfriend would want the split that maybe he had been a blinded for his love for her that he couldnt see the cracks 6months on and even though at the time he said i didnt know what i was talking about they are now on friendly terms and he admits i was right and that he couldnt see it at the time xx i hope it comes to a speedy but amicable end and your sons heart mends quickly good luck n lots of hugs xx jo |
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Poor bloke it's the worst feeling in the world he's going to feel that his life has been ripped apart. It's a very hard one to help with because the sayings like " there are plenty more fish in the sea" and " times a great healer" are just not going to hold any weight whatsoever although having my heart broken myself it will get easier eventually. My only advice us just to be there for him while he goes through every emotion because he will go through them all !!  |
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I've experienced both my son and daughter go through breakups, especially difficult when my grandson was part of it too.
I found the best way was to quietly support, not to 'bitch' about the ex partners but let my children talk if they wanted to, or not.
Ultimately thought they are adults and must experience adulthood for themselves in all its guises, good and bad.
My son now has another lovely girlfriend .
My daughter and her ex have flats close to each other, share their parenting duties and are good friends, they all 3 are off on holiday together at the moment.
I know when they have been your babies you want to take all their pain for yourself, but you have to let them experience life for themselves too.
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Just be positive and try to keep him busy.. a few nights out with the lads will help. Have chats but maybe not about his ex. it will be hard yes but your care and support will help so much. |
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"I've experienced both my son and daughter go through breakups, especially difficult when my grandson was part of it too.
I found the best way was to quietly support, not to 'bitch' about the ex partners but let my children talk if they wanted to, or not.
Ultimately thought they are adults and must experience adulthood for themselves in all its guises, good and bad.
My son now has another lovely girlfriend .
My daughter and her ex have flats close to each other, share their parenting duties and are good friends, they all 3 are off on holiday together at the moment.
I know when they have been your babies you want to take all their pain for yourself, but you have to let them experience life for themselves too.
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nice laine  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you all, I have told him he can come and stay here for a few days while he tries to find somewhere else to live, although I think it is her that should move out as as soon as he leaves, she is not going to be able to afford to live there anyway, he pays for nearly everything |
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