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"it's like saying if you're friend is been cheated on and you know, do you stay out of it or get involved? "
I have heard people in the past on here say stay out of it, it's none of your business only opening a can of worms
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By *al2001 OP Man
over a year ago
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That's what I thought. It's just the person being cheated on is an ex of mine and it was complicated and very messy with us. Still would be.
Under those circumstances I wouldn't get involved but feel like I'm doing bad on her by not saying. Which I am. So I'll tell her.
Thanks that was actually very helpful |
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over a year ago
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"That's what I thought. It's just the person being cheated on is an ex of mine and it was complicated and very messy with us. Still would be.
Under those circumstances I wouldn't get involved but feel like I'm doing bad on her by not saying. Which I am. So I'll tell her.
Thanks that was actually very helpful"
Obviously I know hun that this situation isn’t so black and white, just have a good think about it before you make any decisions and just do what you feel is right x |
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over a year ago
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A friend's husband mail me few weeks ago, face pics and all, my fab friends adviced to delete and block and forget.
I feel bad for her and I'll break her heart in pieces, I really feel I should... But it's complicated to be in this position. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A friend's husband mail me few weeks ago, face pics and all, my fab friends adviced to delete and block and forget.
I feel bad for her and I'll break her heart in pieces, I really feel I should... But it's complicated to be in this position. "
Jesus thats tough on you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's a tough call. I think it's impossible to know what goes on in other people's relationships and it's best not to judge.
Nobody benefits from someone sticking their oar in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A friend's husband mail me few weeks ago, face pics and all, my fab friends adviced to delete and block and forget.
I feel bad for her and I'll break her heart in pieces, I really feel I should... But it's complicated to be in this position. "
If you don't mind me asking, did know he was mailing his wife's friend? Or was he just unlucky? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A friend's husband mail me few weeks ago, face pics and all, my fab friends adviced to delete and block and forget.
I feel bad for her and I'll break her heart in pieces, I really feel I should... But it's complicated to be in this position.
If you don't mind me asking, did know he was mailing his wife's friend? Or was he just unlucky? "
I think he was unlucky... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just to get a different view
You caught ur partner paying away - kissing and planning a hotel meet
What would you do
1 stay
2 seperate ?
They were caught and you have his details -
Name and his mobile
Would you if it broke up ur relationship
Would you ?
1 make contact with his wife to tell
2 Or just leave be
So what would you do ??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just to get a different view
You caught ur partner paying away - kissing and planning a hotel meet
What would you do
1 stay
2 seperate ?
They were caught and you have his details -
Name and his mobile
Would you if it broke up ur relationship
Would you ?
1 make contact with his wife to tell
2 Or just leave be
So what would you do ??? "
I’d say unless you’re in the situation it’s impossible to answer, for me anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A friend's husband mail me few weeks ago, face pics and all, my fab friends adviced to delete and block and forget.
I feel bad for her and I'll break her heart in pieces, I really feel I should... But it's complicated to be in this position.
If you don't mind me asking, did know he was mailing his wife's friend? Or was he just unlucky?
I think he was unlucky... "
Fancy that.. small little country Ireland..but if he's randomly sending face pics to people from the the same county he deserves to get caught  |
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No one knows what is going on in other people’s relationships why would you go running and telling in them. That’s their business. And no I wouldn’t want someone else to tell me if it was me. Firstly if they are on here there is something missing in the relationship or they wouldn’t be looking elsewhere.
I’d never butt into another persons relationship and tell the other half on them |
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Maybe he wanted to be caught here on this site so he could open a dialogue with his wife about changing their sexual activities. Maybe he felt he just couldn't come out with it.
I've seen a case of it before, in fact 2 cases. Both were women and hoped it would encourage their husbands to be more adventurous & open minded.
It happens. |
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It's a hard one to call and one I would hate to be in that decision, part of me would tell and the other part would choose to ignore it the best I can. Op would you not comfort the person before telling the partner? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Really difficult to answer as there is no clear cut way to go about it as you know they are being cheated on. if you decide to tell them you risk loosing a friendship as effectively you are the messenger who would be bringing potentially the most awful news, on the other hand if you keep quiet whether you like it or not it will fester with you as you cannot forget what you know & maybe a sense of bitterness will overcome you to the point where you have to tell.
All in all I definetly don’t know the answer & I hope I’m never put in that position but maybe try & imagine a year or 2 down the line with both scenarios might help you out 
Then again there could be full agreement from the partner to be on fab, who knows 
Jesus....what an essay  |
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