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Was at a club on Friday with my gorgeous other half. There was a singles social going on in town which ended up back at the club to. Now never having been a single guy at a club I don't really know the etiquette for it but I'm sure following any woman around like a bunch of cock holding zombies is not it.
At one point my partner and myself went into an empty room. The jungle drum must have started as no sooner had we started kissing we were surrounded by 8 guys. If they had kept some distance I'd not say anything but they were literally on top of as as we started having some fun. At one point I moved an inch away and two guys tried to push in. This was awkward for me but my other half wanted me close and these guys ruined the fun.
Look I know it's a sex club but do all Single guys really have to be so forceful. It's possible to ask if it's OK to play and I'd rather invite someone or a couple over than have to say "back off guys".
Think next time it's going to be a couples only night for us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mr here and it is a big issue for us. However it depends on the club and whether they restrict the single guys. We did go to one where single guys got removed for being too pushy. In another where they restricted them and met them first so that they knew the score they stood back discretely and I invited a guy to play with my wife and he was a perfect gentleman. Trouble is the club re_iews are rarely critical so you can't determine anything. Also different nights have different dynamics. Go on the Web site and see what they say about single men. Hope that has been useful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first visit to a club was awful. There weren't many in and I was one of about ten men there and they were all doing the same thing, Walking around wanking, following a single couple.
It actually made me feel like a pervert so I left.
The £25 entry fee was a small price to pay for her lesson I learned. |
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If the guys have the respect to talk and stuff first and keep their distance a bit I have no problem. All I heard was the moans in my ear from them jacking off tho and it really did put a dampener on the night. |
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Its not uncommon, one option is to make rooms invite only.
I think La chambre has one room like this. Anyone can look in but you need an invitation to cross the threshold.
It kinda ties in with an earlier thread about chatting to people in the bar area.
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Well you at least sound like one of the sensible guys. I had or have no problem with them watching but everywhere we went we had a group of guys in tow with their hands under their towel. I kinda thought it was a bit perverse but what do you expect in a club I guess.
I do feel bad for single guys at the clubs mind. It's hard when not everyone there is up for play and it's damn expensive if you don't get any.
Still puts me off some of the open nights mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone will be along shortly to say couples are just as bad (which is true) but not exactly relevant to your post OP.
Some clubs are quite hot on behaviour in clubs and some not so much. We don't usually have much of an issue however we are not averse to overtly letting Man/woman/couple know we are not interested and will happily toddle of and speak to the management.
If the club owners don't know an issue is emerging then they can do nothing to stop it. More people should make an issue out of it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My second visit to a club was much better. Darlaston ? Very civilised indeed.
I sat and had a drink at the bar and people watched, before long I was invited to play with a single lady which turned into a 4 some
For me, it's not about the money as such, as you'd spend more at a night club.
I couldn't be part of a group of men doing that stuff, it's cringe worthy.
The thrill of the whole thing is exhilarating to me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The one and only time we went,a fight broke out with 2 fellas because he was wanking looking through the window and wasnt letting the other have a go.It was sad,comical and desperate and weve never set foot in one again. |
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"Its not uncommon, one option is to make rooms invite only.
I think La chambre has one room like this. Anyone can look in but you need an invitation to cross the threshold.
It kinda ties in with an earlier thread about chatting to people in the bar area.
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Technically two now. The invite room as you described (entry for singles by invite only) and now a couples only room strictly for male female pairs and no singles at all, although still a _iewable room. (Sorry for the off topic post)
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"Close the door next time lol."
It wasn't a lockable door and I think you may have missed my point. We had no issue with guys watching it was a just the general proximity when we were playing and the fact that when we walked around there was a queue of wanking zombies. Just cause there is a girl there doesn't mean you have to grab your cock. |
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"Its not uncommon, one option is to make rooms invite only.
I think La chambre has one room like this. Anyone can look in but you need an invitation to cross the threshold.
It kinda ties in with an earlier thread about chatting to people in the bar area.
Technically two now. The invite room as you described (entry for singles by invite only) and now a couples only room strictly for male female pairs and no singles at all, although still a _iewable room. (Sorry for the off topic post)
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Really like that idea. Would make things far more simple and everyone would know where they stand from the start |
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"My second visit to a club was much better. Darlaston ? Very civilised indeed.
I sat and had a drink at the bar and people watched, before long I was invited to play with a single lady which turned into a 4 some
For me, it's not about the money as such, as you'd spend more at a night club.
I couldn't be part of a group of men doing that stuff, it's cringe worthy.
The thrill of the whole thing is exhilarating to me
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Cringe worthy covers it well lol |
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"We have only ever been to one club and the one visit and this was why we probably won't try another....and we were hoping to actually play with men."
There are couples only nights at some clubs. Gonna keep an eye out for that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't be put off because not all places are the same.
I think 'alcohol' may have a lot to do with it-and the staff .
Chams was brilliant, there were 2 men who were d*unk and getting very loud, they were elected immediately. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"We have only ever been to one club and the one visit and this was why we probably won't try another....and we were hoping to actually play with men.
There are couples only nights at some clubs. Gonna keep an eye out for that "
Is it couples you are after? if so that's probably the better option  |
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I went with a female and decided to go in to a room to play. We started off on our own and next time I looked we had 14 men there all cocks out. They tried their look abd moved closer and closer. I had to say at one point! 'Listen guys back off if she wants you to join she will ask'. They backed off then. I think if you voice up they will respect this. |
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By *teed99Man
over a year ago
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Fortunately not all clubs are the same. My regular Friday night venue is The Vanilla Alternative near Bedford. There the single guys are generally very respectful and because of the open play format, don't need to follow anyone around as everyone can easily see what's going on. Most of the guys are regular visitors and the club only allows a maximum of 10 at any one time. |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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Going on the amount of bad, crap experience's people have at these amazing clubs because of 'singles' it suprises me people keep going then coming back here complaining
I went to a few clubs in the North in times past. Going on the costs, charges and hoops jumped I was disappointed at what I saw. Stunning images and form on the websites but not quite like that in reality.
If a couple/female was followed uninvited into a room by EIGHT guys pushing themselves onto the fem it reflects the clubs/managements attention to who they let in and how they allow people to act once in.
A decent fella wouldn't follow attempt to join a cpl/fem unless welcomed/invited plus mutual appeal in the first place.
Pushing yourself on someone that's not invited you or interested in you ? Sounds like someone who's a potential few steps off a register  |
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Many years ago I was at a club with a woman I was meeting for the first time and we decided to go into a lockable room to avoid the guys wanking over us
Unfortunately the lock wasn't very good and a guy forced it while we're having sex. I complained and the guy was kicked out in fairness
If I'm with my FB at le chambre we always go into the invite only room. We both love being watched but not being stood over by a load of wanking zombies |
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"I do feel bad for single guys at the clubs mind. It's hard when not everyone there is up for play and it's damn expensive if you don't get any. "
This is one of the attitudes that causes the problem.
Nobody should expect to get sex if they have paid to get in. Nobody should feel bad for anybody that doesn't get sex if they have paid to get in. |
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"Was at a club on Friday with my gorgeous other half. There was a singles social going on in town which ended up back at the club to. Now never having been a single guy at a club I don't really know the etiquette for it but I'm sure following any woman around like a bunch of cock holding zombies is not it.
At one point my partner and myself went into an empty room. The jungle drum must have started as no sooner had we started kissing we were surrounded by 8 guys. If they had kept some distance I'd not say anything but they were literally on top of as as we started having some fun. At one point I moved an inch away and two guys tried to push in. This was awkward for me but my other half wanted me close and these guys ruined the fun.
Look I know it's a sex club but do all Single guys really have to be so forceful. It's possible to ask if it's OK to play and I'd rather invite someone or a couple over than have to say "back off guys".
Think next time it's going to be a couples only night for us "
This is why I wouldn't go to a single guy night, it sounds like a nightmare!
What's the matter with these guys, have a bit of pride and don't follow women around, it's desperate!
I want to try out clubs but I would only go to a couples night, cock fests are not my style! |
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"I do feel bad for single guys at the clubs mind. It's hard when not everyone there is up for play and it's damn expensive if you don't get any.
This is one of the attitudes that causes the problem.
Nobody should expect to get sex if they have paid to get in. Nobody should feel bad for anybody that doesn't get sex if they have paid to get in."
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We know the feeling. The majority of single guys are great but there is always guys who are members of the zombie wanking club. It is surprising how fast single guys gather when there's something to watch. We usually play in private rooms on mixed nights as loads of watchers can be off putting. |
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"Was at a club on Friday with my gorgeous other half. There was a singles social going on in town which ended up back at the club to. Now never having been a single guy at a club I don't really know the etiquette for it but I'm sure following any woman around like a bunch of cock holding zombies is not it.
At one point my partner and myself went into an empty room. The jungle drum must have started as no sooner had we started kissing we were surrounded by 8 guys. If they had kept some distance I'd not say anything but they were literally on top of as as we started having some fun. At one point I moved an inch away and two guys tried to push in. This was awkward for me but my other half wanted me close and these guys ruined the fun.
Look I know it's a sex club but do all Single guys really have to be so forceful. It's possible to ask if it's OK to play and I'd rather invite someone or a couple over than have to say "back off guys".
Think next time it's going to be a couples only night for us
This is why I wouldn't go to a single guy night, it sounds like a nightmare!
What's the matter with these guys, have a bit of pride and don't follow women around, it's desperate!
I want to try out clubs but I would only go to a couples night, cock fests are not my style! "
I wouldn't let it put you off! The benefits of a well run and attended single guy nights vastly outweighs the very small minority.
The dynamics and atmosphere of a singles night is a lot different. |
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"Was at a club on Friday with my gorgeous other half. There was a singles social going on in town which ended up back at the club to. Now never having been a single guy at a club I don't really know the etiquette for it but I'm sure following any woman around like a bunch of cock holding zombies is not it.
At one point my partner and myself went into an empty room. The jungle drum must have started as no sooner had we started kissing we were surrounded by 8 guys. If they had kept some distance I'd not say anything but they were literally on top of as as we started having some fun. At one point I moved an inch away and two guys tried to push in. This was awkward for me but my other half wanted me close and these guys ruined the fun.
Look I know it's a sex club but do all Single guys really have to be so forceful. It's possible to ask if it's OK to play and I'd rather invite someone or a couple over than have to say "back off guys".
Think next time it's going to be a couples only night for us
This is why I wouldn't go to a single guy night, it sounds like a nightmare!
What's the matter with these guys, have a bit of pride and don't follow women around, it's desperate!
I want to try out clubs but I would only go to a couples night, cock fests are not my style!
I wouldn't let it put you off! The benefits of a well run and attended single guy nights vastly outweighs the very small minority.
The dynamics and atmosphere of a singles night is a lot different. "
See what your saying but personally it's not for me. I would prefer a couples night and take a female friend with me or someone on here that also wanted a club experience. Although single women can get in on there own right? So that might not work lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personally, I keep a respectful distance as I find the 'wanking zombie' thing quite creepy! I always make the effort to socialise beforehand as I think it's a more polite way of introducing yourself to a couple or lady. Just manners lads! |
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"Close the door next time lol.
It wasn't a lockable door and I think you may have missed my point. We had no issue with guys watching it was a just the general proximity when we were playing and the fact that when we walked around there was a queue of wanking zombies. Just cause there is a girl there doesn't mean you have to grab your cock. "
We have played in a room and closed the door, we had to pretty much yell at the man to go away as he kept opening the door, we even tried to wedge it at one point |
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As a single guy who frequents clubs when i can, i am sometimes staggered by the attitude and behavior of guys in a club. I would have to admit - certain clubs are worse than others though - which may reflect on management or just as likely the general level of guys there as they seem to usually discourage bad behavior. ( if guys get too close - couples stop play - simples !) And i cant say i blame them.
What really gets me is surely they never get anywhere - other then jumping in on general play in an open room - which is certainly not my scene - they seem to forget first and foremost clubs are social places and i think many of them would be better off in a brothel. In fact i have on one occasion heard that as advice to one particular guy who wasn't behaving appropriately.
I think its important that inappropriate behavior is pointed out as often as possible - by either couples / the other single guys / management then perhaps it will improve. And that may be why some places are better then others....
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"Was at a club on Friday with my gorgeous other half. There was a singles social going on in town which ended up back at the club to. Now never having been a single guy at a club I don't really know the etiquette for it but I'm sure following any woman around like a bunch of cock holding zombies is not it.
At one point my partner and myself went into an empty room. The jungle drum must have started as no sooner had we started kissing we were surrounded by 8 guys. If they had kept some distance I'd not say anything but they were literally on top of as as we started having some fun. At one point I moved an inch away and two guys tried to push in. This was awkward for me but my other half wanted me close and these guys ruined the fun.
Look I know it's a sex club but do all Single guys really have to be so forceful. It's possible to ask if it's OK to play and I'd rather invite someone or a couple over than have to say "back off guys".
Think next time it's going to be a couples only night for us "
This happened to me and my fuckbuddy. We had, had a long journey to the club we went too just wanted to chill for abit so went exploring and found an open room. No one was about or so we thought. We were sat kissing on the bed next thing you know 5 guys appeared from no where and practically jumped us. I felt my fuckbuddy being pushed away from me so I very quickly got up and fuckbuddy asked the guys to leave. Not one asked if they could join in. |
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"As a single guy who frequents clubs when i can, i am sometimes staggered by the attitude and behavior of guys in a club. I would have to admit - certain clubs are worse than others though - which may reflect on management or just as likely the general level of guys there as they seem to usually discourage bad behavior. ( if guys get too close - couples stop play - simples !) And i cant say i blame them.
What really gets me is surely they never get anywhere - other then jumping in on general play in an open room - which is certainly not my scene - they seem to forget first and foremost clubs are social places and i think many of them would be better off in a brothel. In fact i have on one occasion heard that as advice to one particular guy who wasn't behaving appropriately.
I think its important that inappropriate behavior is pointed out as often as possible - by either couples / the other single guys / management then perhaps it will improve. And that may be why some places are better then others....
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The Friday in question you could tell the difference between the single guys and girls. The girls were socialising in the bar and generally having a good time. If the guys had done the same it would be completely different and, who knows, some may have got a proper play. The group that were with us were almost moving my hand away so they could touch the other half. Genuinely like she was an object not a person.
A brothel would be a better place for lots of them guys I totally agree but all I would like is that there is that bit of respect.
I'm not saying all Single guys are like this either so don't get me wrong. Just respect and politnes can get you a long way |
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"Was at a club on Friday with my gorgeous other half. There was a singles social going on in town which ended up back at the club to. Now never having been a single guy at a club I don't really know the etiquette for it but I'm sure following any woman around like a bunch of cock holding zombies is not it.
At one point my partner and myself went into an empty room. The jungle drum must have started as no sooner had we started kissing we were surrounded by 8 guys. If they had kept some distance I'd not say anything but they were literally on top of as as we started having some fun. At one point I moved an inch away and two guys tried to push in. This was awkward for me but my other half wanted me close and these guys ruined the fun.
Look I know it's a sex club but do all Single guys really have to be so forceful. It's possible to ask if it's OK to play and I'd rather invite someone or a couple over than have to say "back off guys".
Think next time it's going to be a couples only night for us
This happened to me and my fuckbuddy. We had, had a long journey to the club we went too just wanted to chill for abit so went exploring and found an open room. No one was about or so we thought. We were sat kissing on the bed next thing you know 5 guys appeared from no where and practically jumped us. I felt my fuckbuddy being pushed away from me so I very quickly got up and fuckbuddy asked the guys to leave. Not one asked if they could join in. "
It put you off clubs? |
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Yeah it's really Soddy behaviour of these guys doing that at clubs. Whenever I see the "prowlers" I just remain on my own or in another crowd to stand out from these wank zombies. I do indeed socialise as often as possible so that I can blend in to the "proper" crowd. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I have seen it as well and it's very off putting.
I worked in a swinging club for nearly 3 years and guys would follow the action, whilst the females chatted in the bar.
We were a couples and single female club only. |
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It put you off clubs?
A little bit there is one I won't go back to. We are just very careful now "
Well it's not put us off entirely but I know I'm going to have to be far more clear with guys next time. Hopefully it will be better then. |
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I do think this is due to "wanksters" having zero proper social skill in general and they are usually the "wallflowers" at vanilla clubs, but oh no when it comes to swinging clubs they think in caveman mentality that they are entitled to fun and play whenever it happens. They think they payed "very good money" for the "service" and so they begin to see single women and couples as play objects which is rather nasty and crude if them and makes us gents look bad  |
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"I went with a female and decided to go in to a room to play. We started off on our own and next time I looked we had 14 men there all cocks out. They tried their look abd moved closer and closer. I had to say at one point! 'Listen guys back off if she wants you to join she will ask'. They backed off then. I think if you voice up they will respect this."
Had to voice my opinion on a numerous of occasions and bar one, they have always been respectful and backed off. |
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we only use Chameleons (so far) and have never had a bad experience, albeit got hemmed in once in the dungeon, looked up and wow there's 6 guys. But played with a couple of them later and didn't feel our space was encroached. Hope your next experience is more positive OP |
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Not so long ago my wife and I went to a fetish club all decked out to impress. Her lace up back spanking dress certainly drew the attention of a few people. I was in male mode so just fetish attire. Well I went to get drinks as we had found a nice spot and didn't want to lose it. On my return I find her with a red hand print burning her arse and her crop snapped. Only then did I notice the guy licking her shoes. Apparently he thought it was an open invite.... He thought wrong... He bought the next round in apology.  |
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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago
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"I do think this is due to "wanksters" having zero proper social skill in general and they are usually the "wallflowers" at vanilla clubs, but oh no when it comes to swinging clubs they think in caveman mentality that they are entitled to fun and play whenever it happens. They think they payed "very good money" for the "service" and so they begin to see single women and couples as play objects which is rather nasty and crude if them and makes us gents look bad "
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I can't stand these type of men. You look at them to give eye cot act, they look at their feet. Try and speak and they walk away.
Now I just tell them to back off. Feel free to watch, but not to get too close. Still get the odd one that will try and grope.
When I'm on my own and they block door ways to the toilets or rooms. Standing in narrow corridors, so that I have to brush past them and if I say 'scuse me please, they play dumb. Boils my piss
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"I can't stand these type of men. You look at them to give eye cot act, they look at their feet. Try and speak and they walk away.
Now I just tell them to back off. Feel free to watch, but not to get too close. Still get the odd one that will try and grope.
When I'm on my own and they block door ways to the toilets or rooms. Standing in narrow corridors, so that I have to brush past them and if I say 'scuse me please, they play dumb. Boils my piss
#walkingwankers "
That just sucks tho. At the end of the day and in any other environment you just wouldn't do that kind of thing. |
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